2006-07-03 18:40:22 · 6 answers · asked by Danielle U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't actually have to be on good terms with him for the sake of the kids, just don't bad mouth him infront of your kids and be cordial to each other infront of the kids.
If that's all you can do, then so be it...
2006-07-03 18:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hate your ex or have strong unresolved feelings against him, this can be very hard to do. I know because I went through this too.
I found that being civil to him for the sake of the love of my children - little bit by little bit - it got easier. Then when I looked for things to be thankful for - yes, this is next to impossible at first - I found it to be easier.
Good luck with your efforts. A mother's love for her children really shows when you can do this for them. It'll pay off for them and yourself too. It's just not always easy but has been worth the effort for me.
I also found myself praying a lot about it - you know, the kind of prayer that looked a lot like the kind that people think you're just talking to yourself. Whatever worked and got me through the moment is what I aimed for. It does take time and like anything else, it takes a lot of determination.
Good luck to you and your children!
2006-07-03 18:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still trying to figure that out. It would involve letting go of whatever hate or grudge you have against them. If you don't let go, then you haven't completely moved on. If both of you are able to move on in your two different lives, (I mean emotionally, socially, spiritually, and economically), then there is less of a grudge between you two. Also, don't insult him or talk bad about him in front of your children. And work with him/her on visitation. Do not deny them the right to be with their children to get back against him/her. That's all the advice I can give. I just hope I can follow through with it myself.
2006-07-03 19:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good person even though ya'll don't like each other he is still their daddy and I agree with the first answer don't down him in front of the kids.
2006-07-03 18:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay your child support
Pay all the kids medical bills
Pay all the dentist bills
Pay the medical insurance for them
Pay the school tuition and fees
Claim your kids and split your tax return with your x wife.
Anything she asks for...... give it to her.
2006-07-03 18:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep your bickering away from your kids
2006-07-03 18:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋