Anyone else out there whose husband isn't interested in sex? Any suggestions on what to do? I'm going nuts here!!!
2006-07-03 18:08:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in the same boat as you. It's sad, I'm 23, and he's 46, so that should make you feel a little better. It sucks:-{
2006-07-03 18:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, when my husband and I were married, our sex life was good (truthfully, never great) and then a year and a half after we got married, I gave birth to twins and the sex started dwindling down to once a month if I was lucky and after the twins were a year old, it stopped COMPLETELY. I was beginning to doubt my ability to be attractive to a man and I became depressed but I still tried to initiate sex until I became totally turned off by him. He would watch porno but wouldnt' take any advantage of the woman he had there with him. I stayed with this man for 6 VERY LOOOOONG years until we decided that it would be better if we divorced. Now, he is fighting me on issues and we've been seperated for 3 years and still waiting for the divorce to be final.
In December, I met a man who I was soooo attracted to and in February, we moved in together and let me tell you, whatever doubts I had about myself were instantly GONE. There was nothing wrong with me. Now I am averaging sex at least 3 or 4 times A WEEK. And it's great!!!! So if you're husband isn't interested in sex with you, there is a 99% chance that it is HIM and not you. Try talking to him and letting him know how attractive he is to you and you want to show him how you feel. Maybe he feels unsure about himself. If that still doesn't work, suggest counseling or maybe he should go see a doctor. My man has health problems and sometimes its hard to perform but we have ways of working around that. My sex life has never been better and my hope is that you figure out what HIS problem is and you begin to enjoy "LIFE" again too.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2006-07-03 23:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had the answer. My husband has not been as interested for the last 2 years, but more so or the last six months! We used to be at least two-three times a week. I initiate a lot...or at least I used to, but I have sort of given up. We've been married 10 years and we are 32. Too young for no sex. He is always tired and he works a lot..I am grouchy because I am always caring for our children....so he avoids me, but I really want him close and when they are finally asleep and I put on someting cute, he has no interest. I have been working on patience and being as nice as possible to him. I hope it helps and I hope your situation gets better too. I have been very insecure about this because all of my friends' husbands want it 24/7 and they don't care if the wife is grouchy. God bless and good luck.
2006-07-03 19:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by otowndmbfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is under a lot of pressure. Talk to him. Have you told him how you feel about you sex life?
He may not be aware of you dislike in the way you sex life has been going. If talk to him does not work, then maybe you need to ask him if he is seeing someone else or if he is just not interested in the relationship anymore.
Good Luck.
2006-07-03 18:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am man here but divorced . when this happens there are .2. things going on either he has lost inerest in you or he has a woman on he side . my opion?
2006-07-03 19:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a man but it the same as urs.... my wife say she dont wan to have sex cause she dont feel like....... hope ur wish come by......
2006-07-03 18:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Andy Heckmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him for an explanation first....If he dosen't have one..... He's probably getting sex somewhere else
2006-07-03 18:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by currdog3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he's gay!!
2006-07-03 18:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by cooldude_alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋