Is anyone bothered that we have so many questions on affairs and divorce. I am not saying the divorce is wrong but what happened to our morals and vows? Does anyone take their vows seriously anymore?
2006-07-03 17:30:42 · 25 answers · asked by n9wff 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a lot of the time people go into marriage with the best of intentions, but it doesn't always end up that way. The problem today is that everyone looks for the easy way out. "OH, my hubby/wife doesn't pay me enough attentions so I'll go find someone else to f*ck", ect.... Everyone's so selfish and worried about being satisfied as well as looking for easy answers that we end up with all the divorce.
2006-07-03 17:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're right! We live in an immediate gratification bottom line world. A throw away society. If the microwave is broke then simply throw it away and get a new one. The same goes for marriage. In the old days people didn't have better morals they just couldn't get divorced as easily and the personal cost was too high. Now no one cares. You can be a pedifile as long as your productivity report looks good and you stay away from my kids.
No...I 'm sad to say you are right! Even if the laws kept people married it was still a nicer time to live as a kid.
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2006-07-04 03:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce should never be easy, it was one of the most difficult things that I have ever done in my life.
I agree that for some people its an easy way out, but there are a lot of us out there that is was the only way to survive.
People grow and change in life and you hope that with time you change together, that doesn't always happen and the sad reality of it is sometimes you think something will be forever and it just can't be.
I don't think I was wrong for ending my marriage ... I did what I needed to do to survive and be happy.
I agree that divorce is hard on children, but sometime so is a bad marriage. There is no easy answer. Marriage takes a lot of work and good communication. But both people have to work on it or its all in vain.
2006-07-04 00:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are people so against divorce? It's not okay to move on to better things in your life, but it's perfectly fine to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy, that is abusive, that is seriously bad for your health?
How do you explain when a man has an affair and a whole other family under your nose for ten years and finally runs off with another woman? Should you just sit there by yourself for the rest of your life but stay "married" to him, even when he's hundreds of miles away with a whole new family and a whole new life?
2006-07-04 16:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Brackalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with morals. At least not for my Generation which is Generation Y. Divorce is so high because of the baby boomer generation. They will go down in history as the most selfish self-centered generation in American history. They are called the "me-generation".
There generation did everything for themselves to make themselves feel as good as possible. The result was an entire generation of children (my generation) left to fend for themselves with over half coming from divorced families and nearly 80% of those in divorced families barely seeing their father or not seeing him at all.
Sociologists have found that the single largest factor for determining the following crimes - theft, murder, rape, home break-ins, robbery, and drug use is if a child came from a divorced family or an intact family.
Sociologists also found that children who come from divorced homes where the parents often fought and who were between the ages of 5-17 suffered much worse into adult life.
These people are more than 5 times as likely as a person who came from an intact family to suffer from anti-social disorder, depression, and thoughts of suicide. Children who come from divorced homes are also 4 times as likely to divorce when they get married, and also tend to get married much quicker than they should.
Those who should be bothered are those from a generation that never bothered to begin with. That is the real irony. Generation ME, has messed my generation up beyond repair. Of all my friends well over half, including myself, had a father who didn't do anything for us. Is it any wonder we don't take vows or morals seriously? We are too busy trying to put the pieces back together in our lives from what our selfish parents did to us.
2006-07-04 04:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Searching 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why affairs and divorce is on the rise is,there in it for the wrong reason.It like going to the store to make a purchase.When you get home you change your mind or you said I am going to keep this to see if I can top what I have.It very sad. It suppose to be for life,good and the bad, sickness and good health.We miss this.We think it just words that we are saying and it our future.As Judge Madeline say look deep before you leap.
2006-07-04 00:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by 40something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not the best thing, especially when there are children involved.
But, what about people whose marriages are arranged and then after years of trying they realize that they are not compatible?
What about people who got married just to satisfy their parents and never could love their spouses because they are so different?
What about people who are emotionally and physically abused?
Don't be so righteous. I am certain that almost no one enters a marriage with the thought of ending their marriage in a divorce. But, sometimes, things never pan out the way they should.
2006-07-04 00:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by amoreflowers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so very much agree with you. I think that divorce is too easy. I've been through it twice and didn't want to go through it even once. The first time I was abused and my ex-husband filed. I was willing to do whatever it took to fix the problem. Funny how I didn't even need to respond for us to be divorced. The second time my ex-husband abandoned our family and we haven't seen or heard from him in over 2 years. He doesn't support his son and has literally divorced him as well.
The government allowed this to be this way and all I can say is "shame on them".
2006-07-04 00:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. That statistic is unsettling. I think that it's just too easy to get a divorce, that no one cares or thinks marriage is a big commitment anymore because divorce is so easy, like breaking up with your boyfriend. It makes me worry about when I get married, my fiancee has already cheated on me and I just don't want to end up in a divorce.
2006-07-04 00:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by sexxxylady1987 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that divorce is only acceptable for some reasons. Yes, some people do take their vows seriously but there are circumstances that are ultimately end in divorce ie: abuse or infidelity.
2006-07-04 00:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by triathlon1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attitudes are different now.. people think it's OK to just walk away instead of working through the tough times.Divorce should not be made so easy, if the person is really abusive or having multiple affairs than yeah but most should be made go to marriage counselling and made to work through it. Yes is does sadden me to think people give up so easliy.. and i would take my vows serioulsy if i got married, i could of been married yrs ago but knew he wasn't the one.
2006-07-04 00:37:53 · answer #11 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋