i ask this because my husband wants to be friends with his ex (his first love)And i would rather he did not i think he should be with his family and respect my feelings when it comes to this kind of thing.
2006-07-03 18:24:26 · 9 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there are no kids involved at all we actually have kids together
2006-07-03 18:38:17 · update #1
im not aloud to speak with my ex and we have kids together so all this is unfair to me so thats why i get so mad.
2006-07-03 18:47:16 · update #2
Well if they had kids together then it would be nice for them to get along but other than that I just depends on other circumstances. ~Bon
2006-07-03 18:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a committment to your wife and kids should come before some "friendship" with an ex. He is playing with fire. I would set firm boudaries in your relationship now.
Why? He is so in love with you, your opinoin is all that matters. Did you tell him it made you uncomfortable? When you get married, your vows say "forsaking all others and to clinging unto you only" or at least thats what they were supposed to say.
He has no business messing with his x. She is in the past. Leave her there, if not, he has a hankering to get with her. Tell him I said that!
2006-07-04 01:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answers, but there may be two parts to the situation.
If he has kids with her, then it wouldn't hurt for him to at least be friendly with her for the kids sake. I mean if he wants to maintain a positive relationship with his kids, then he may want to at least be an acquittance.
Now if there are no kids between them, then he may be fishing for a new relationship with this lady. I would ask him straight out why he feels he needs to be friends with her. I mean if there are no bonds between them, then he should have let go of that relationship long ago.
Talk to him. Express to him you dislike in the fact that he wants to have a friendship with his ex. Good Luck.
2006-07-04 01:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is commitment not be taken lightly. I agree that your husband needs to respect your feelings and your needs. Why does he want to be friends with his ex, particularly his first love anyway? It is usually less confusing after a break up for there to be a "clean break". How would he feel if the tables were turned and you wanted to chum with your ex?
2006-07-04 01:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should that is disrespecful but why dont you want him to be friends with her? Is it insecurity or does this really pose a threat to the current relationship you and him have now? But if it really bothers you then he should stop it because you mean more than she does and the family atleast you should so if it is a real reason that he shouldnt talk to her then he shouldnt but if it bothers you either way it goes he need to leave her alone altogether.
2006-07-04 01:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do not have any children and it bothers you than no. But if they have children it is better for the kids if they get along.
2006-07-04 01:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very few ex's are friends. and i don't know why anyone would want to be!
2006-07-04 01:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am friends with my ex and his wife and i attend church what are you really afraid of
2006-07-04 01:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant controll who hes freinds with
2006-07-04 01:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋