Marriage & Divorce - 27 June 2006

My husband and I have been married for 2 years, we have a ten month old daughter. Our relationship was great until I got pregnant and he just kinda started ignoring me. I love him with all my heart and he is my best friend, but we seem to have no communication anymore. I try to talk to him and he just ignores me and stares at the ground. I have postpartum depression and no insurance for treatment, and sometimes I just need someone to talk to, but when I cry he just goes outside and leaves me alone. He says he gives up, but he still want to be with me. I desperately need someone to be there for me emotionally, but he just dosen't seem to care. I know if I were to leave it would break his heart, but am I wrong for wanting to? I have no clue what to do or what his problem is. I know i deserve to be happy, but should I stay and keep being treated like this for his well being?

2006-06-27 03:37:59 · 21 answers · asked by rac 1

I returned home late last night and found him passed out on the couch. I left this morning and didn't say word to him. We've been in a rocky relationship for quite some time now. I had an affair and now I'm paying big time.He says he forgives me but I don't believe that . We are both hanging on to something that will inevitably hurt us both.However, I really do love him.He's everything I've ever wnted in a man. Brains & he's gorgeous to boot. But if I love him as I think I do, why did I betray him? I regret every moment of it, but we can't seem to got over this. He offered couples counselling a few months back but nothing came of it. Are we fighting a losing battle? I'd really appreciate some advice.

2006-06-27 03:36:08 · 5 answers · asked by Lee Ann M 2

Hi, since the birth of our son, my wife and I seem to be having a lot of issues and conflict. We keep it from our son, but I was wondering how common this is? How can it be resolved?

2006-06-27 03:35:44 · 24 answers · asked by nycsean 1

We have all had one of those worst relationships in our lives, the complicated kind that makes you ponder when it's over how you even survived it.

What pressed your button to finally leave your spouse?

Best story gets the point.

2006-06-27 03:35:34 · 6 answers · asked by Poestalker 4

2006-06-27 03:32:52 · 6 answers · asked by a 1

Ok..I'm ready to leave my abusive husband...I have gotten up enough courage to do this. I just need a path...Should I send him to jail so it is easier for me to restart my life??? Or should I just leave without saying anything...(which would be hard but can be done). Last night he hit me for the last time, I have bruises so the cops would work. Please just give me a path to run with...Thank you

2006-06-27 03:28:18 · 14 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5

2006-06-27 03:26:15 · 2 answers · asked by clhaas3291 1

I would like some insight cause men drive me crazy.Either in a relationship,at work,even on the highway!

2006-06-27 03:23:08 · 12 answers · asked by heather7569 1

i've been married for all most ten years
my husband is allways yelling at me and the kids
i tell him its hard to tell that he loves me with all that anger
are all men this way they wanted it thier way only and
dont care who they hurt

2006-06-27 03:15:37 · 29 answers · asked by trouble 4

My friend and I have know each other for the past 4 months when his 2 baby mamas started fighting about amongst themselves. I felt sorry for him because he was breaking down and we were friend but now things are starting to heat up between us and we have moved from being friends to being lovers. I'm scared that he might resolved things with either one of them and I will be left alone. I told him about my fears & told me that he will never go get back with any of them but I'm not sure.

My friends keep telling me that the other mama was pregnant... in fact, she just gave birth and when she was in labour, guess who drove her to the clinic?

I need to tell him that our friendship will turn into a battle because of his stories, lies and stupid mistakes (that's what he keeps saying everytime). I think he's just a pig!

Please advice!

2006-06-27 03:12:39 · 4 answers · asked by october_babe 1

2006-06-27 03:09:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

For people to condole such negativity and punishment on non-custodial parents is insane. I hear women all the time complaining about child support, making ends meet, and etc. And the most popular remark I hear about child support is...He should of thought about that before making a child....well did he make it alone? I also see people making remarks about how non custodial parents that behind on child support should get more jobs and do what they have to do to support their kids... Well I say what is wrong with custodial parents? If u can't make ends meet then start by getting a job if that dosen't work then try getting two or three just like the non custodial. I take no pitty on bitter or money hungry custodial parents. It's not even about the children these days..Because if it were so then visitations would not be a right.... It would be a law. except in certain cases like abuse, maybe custodial parents should start being audited yearly for proof of where the child support is going

2006-06-27 03:05:41 · 11 answers · asked by jttatum2005 2

If they have separated ones, should both know the flot of each account?

2006-06-27 02:59:00 · 14 answers · asked by benird 2

My Wife is Da Bomb at everything, from Oral to Sexual Expression, she moans better than any porn star. And she doesn't fake it or try to sound good, she just feels it and it's pure ear candy. I used to have a problem with Porn since I was a pre-teen. But now, she has turned me and, well, us into porn stars at home. My girl is aweseom. I just wanna hear some stories about your Partner and how you appreciate him or her.

2006-06-27 02:58:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has a great love for children, animals and pathetic people. I'm sure there is a gift in that. But she is constantly bragging on herself and putting other people down, too. I think these traits go together into a pathology of addiction. But I've never heard of that before.

I'm not a dependent person. She tries to do for me and make every decision for me. I let her to appease her. But it's beginning to make me feel like I don't have a say in anything.

If I ever try to make a decision or do something my way, she sulks and becomes aloof. She thinks I don't love her. If I ever express an opinion about a like or dislike that is different from hers, she pulls away and acts angry.

I don't know how to deal with this. I've just tried going along with her and humoring her. But the dependents she has created take up all her time and our money. And she is frustrated that she can't keep doing everything in our household--yet she won't let go of control and let me do some of it either.

2006-06-27 02:55:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-27 02:53:54 · 9 answers · asked by senoralugo 1

I am ashamed and disgusted with myself but a little while ago I went out with some friends and after a lot of drinks, had as one night stand with a guy. I am still with my husband who was violent and abusive for a number of years. I did suffer from depression for a while but,. I am now back at work in a good job, so decided to go out with colleagues. I had never had the courage to go before Before I knew it, they'd all gone and I was left alone with this guy, one thing led to another and, well, need I say more. Nobody knows about this except me and him, obviously. Hes working here away from home so Ill never see him again,didnt even swap no's etc. I honestly dont even think we spoke a hundred words, but I have such a dull ache (guilt) and feel so badly. I haven't told a soul and my OH is not even suspicious. I do love my husband, but I dont know whether to tell him or not. I would like to make a go of the marriage and he is trying hard....please help, any advice is greatly appreciated

2006-06-27 02:52:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-06-27 02:48:37 · 32 answers · asked by mrst 2

I am trying to get info on my stbx's girlfriends ex-husband
I don't know his name. Just her's

2006-06-27 02:34:51 · 3 answers · asked by Amy K 1

He gets up and the first e-mail is to her. He comes to bed and the last e-mail is to her. He says he has too much work to do on preparing for work, doing powerpoint, but everytime I go to his office, he's using e-mail. If he can't close the window fast enough, he tries to block me from seeing it. He knows I'm a very jealous woman. Why is he doing it?

2006-06-27 02:26:38 · 17 answers · asked by weissman11 1

What is considered normal male interest and what is considered a relationship problem? I don't think I can be involved with someone who has to view porn and get off while I am available. Every so often is totally okay; I look at porn too sometimes. I just a have gut feeling something is "not right" with my relationship, but I can't put my finger on it.

2006-06-27 02:14:31 · 9 answers · asked by Skye7112 2

I have been married for 16 years. For at least half of it, it has been going downhill. I just recently came to the realization that I do not love my wife, and that I probably never did... I just married her because she was the first woman who pursued me, and after failed relationships I took what I could get.

Since my son was born 8½ years ago it has gotten progressively worse. When he was one year old, she hit me... hard. Then, three years ago, she hit me again. One year ago, AGAIN... then three weeks ago, a fourth time. She has gotten more angry. This last time she said it was my fault for making her so angry, and I just have to not make her angry.

I have also discovered that to control my son in public, she pinches him. Hard. Hard enough to bruise his arm or leg.

I want out. She's gotten more violent, her temper more out of control. I do not trust her, with me or with my son.

What would you do? Leave, or stay?

2006-06-27 02:10:09 · 32 answers · asked by Bubbajones 3

I have been trying to save our relationship - we have survived a surprise pregnancy, worked through his drug issues, his stealing money from me, his denial that he cheated (although I am still not sure about this one) but it just never seems to get "good". I am tired of taking care of our beautiful twin babies alone - even when he is there he doesn't really help. Playing with them is not enough. Then he leaves and he gets to have a life - and I am very resentful about that. I try to explain to him that working, caring for the babies and his occasional visits aren't enough for me. But he doesn't seem to get it. I don't want anyone else - even if we do end this relationship completely - I don't have time for anyone else. I just want him to want to help more or to care that I have had it with the BS. I would be happy with one night that he gets up with the babies - but because of his past drug issues I won't let him take them off. I feel that I am spinning my wheels - ???

2006-06-27 02:03:46 · 24 answers · asked by a1025goodgirl 1

WHEN I EXPLAIN THAT HE INSULTS ANSD EMBARRESSES ME WITH THEIS BEHAVIOR, NOT T0 MENTION THE HURT HE CAUSES, HE TELLS ME I AM INSECURE AND I NEED TO KNOW THAT HE LOVES ME VERY MUCH. HIS FAVORITE LINE IS..."WHO AM I GOING HOME WITH"? HE ALSO CLAIMS THAT HE ADMIRES THESE WOMEN AS WORKS OF ART. I TELL HIM THAT I MUST BE POOR ART IF I CAN'T SEEM TO GET HALF THE ATTENTION HE GIVES OTHER WOMEN WHEN WE ARE OUT. BUT WHEN WE ARE HOME ...I GET ADDITIONAL UNWANTED ATTENTION WHICH MAKES ME FEEL THAT HE IS USING THE JOLLIES HE RECIEVED FROM OUTSIDE AND INCORPORATING THEM INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP. DO I HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL ANGRY AND HURT...EVEN INSECURE..MY FEELING IS THAT IT MAY GO FARTHER ONE DAY..BECAUSE OF HE GOES THAT EXTREME IN FRONT OF ME, WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I AM NOT AROUND? I AM AT THIS TIME READY TO END THE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF THIS BEHAVIOR HE HAS...SO PLEASE TELL ME, AM I UNREASONABLE ABOUT ASKING FOR RESPECT! I LAST TOLD HIM HE CAN'T BEHAVE SINGLE AND BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AT THE SAME TIME!

2006-06-27 02:01:07 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would like to know whether any couple can take divorce twice ? They are my intimate friends living in India. They patched up once after the divorce and registered their marriage again. In case if they want to seperate again, do they need to go to the court again ? Or they can just simply live seperately ?

2006-06-27 01:55:02 · 10 answers · asked by clues 1

2006-06-27 01:52:10 · 15 answers · asked by Jose G 1

me and my man dont have a nuff sex we have 4 kids and work all the time well give some ancers he ok with it im not we dont have child care

2006-06-27 01:47:51 · 12 answers · asked by bsbb 1

There is nothing hotter than a skinny girl with a giant round booty.

Who agrees, and more importantly, who out there fits the description!

2006-06-27 01:43:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some insight from all those unhappily married men out there. Why do you guys stay in such a numb, unhappy and lifeless marriage for your kids? Don't the men ever think is unhealthy for the kids grow up where their parents relationship is dysfunctional? And even if you do find love outside of the marriage, why are most men so gutless to leave the marriage behind?

2006-06-27 01:28:15 · 15 answers · asked by asianhotcakes30 1

border fighting commanding 300 soldiers directly under him. He came back on leave and found that his wife was having an affair with a fellow officer and someone else. A lot of crap was on the computer too. He has been so depressed since then he has started drinking heavily and wants to go back to the border. Our mother tried to talk to his wife to talk things out with six people being around - her parents and she, my mother, my brother and I. She has refused this offer and also the offer for a divorce on mutual grounds. His wife has made it clear that she will not divorce him but wants a seperation. This is hitting below the belt as she knows he is well off and by not giving into the divorce she will have access to everything he has.I am the eldest in our home have managed to keep him calm as he is too depressed.If he goes back to the border, we are worried he may commit some some mistake that could take take his life or endager those of his men which would spell disaster to all. help!

2006-06-27 01:27:38 · 29 answers · asked by livingonthinice 3