For people to condole such negativity and punishment on non-custodial parents is insane. I hear women all the time complaining about child support, making ends meet, and etc. And the most popular remark I hear about child support is...He should of thought about that before making a child....well did he make it alone? I also see people making remarks about how non custodial parents that behind on child support should get more jobs and do what they have to do to support their kids... Well I say what is wrong with custodial parents? If u can't make ends meet then start by getting a job if that dosen't work then try getting two or three just like the non custodial. I take no pitty on bitter or money hungry custodial parents. It's not even about the children these days..Because if it were so then visitations would not be a right.... It would be a law. except in certain cases like abuse, maybe custodial parents should start being audited yearly for proof of where the child support is going
2006-06-27 03:05:41 · 11 answers · asked by jttatum2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not meant for all custodial parents just the money hungry, bitter ones... I just feel that if the shoe were on the other foot.. They would see things diffrent. I know what it takes to raise children.... my husband has 2 and we adopted 2.. It takes alot of love....punishment by a jail sentence of a non custodial parent not only delays him from supporting his child but also causes the child alot of resentment and confusion.
Kids are the # 1 priotity I agree...that's where the state should step in and see that a child have a normal/healthy relationship with both parents...but instead they are only worried about the child support these custoduial parents are gonna get that alot of the time is not even used on the child or to benefit the child.. I just think that if they are going to make these laws so harsh on the non custodial then they should have the same laws for the custodial,they are equally responsible. and if finacialy they can't do it, then they should not have custody
2006-06-27 03:06:36 · update #1
First of all...I would report the other two idiots for their stupid "too long" answers.
Then, I have to say.... AMEN to you. You are saying what a lot of us out there would like to say. I completely agree with you. They suck the welfare and help systems dry and abuse them and cry that they have no help from the other parent. BS - they can go out and get a job like the rest of us. I work hard to support their ungrateful butts and I hate it. We are non-custodial parents and we have to work a little harder because he pays child support but that's ok - they are beautiful children and it's THEIR money, NOT, their mother's.
That's another thing that these custodial parents don't understand that really bothers me the most, it's that the money that they get in child support is not for them. It's to support the children. Clothing, food, roof over their heads, etc.
I guess I've ranted enough, thank you and I hope you are being heard.
2006-06-27 03:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is a very difficult job raising children, both parents should do what is right. But, if the custodial parent is working 2 or 3 jobs, who is raising the children? Childcare while the person is working those multiple jobs would eat up whatever they made anyway. I have a good job and have raised my child without support for over 6 years and I would LOVE to get some help from her Dad. Not gonna happen, so I do what I have to do, but I would not be willing to work a bunch of jobs and never get to see my daughter. Men should help support the children they help create. Period.
2006-06-27 10:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obveously you live in a world of never never land...you are so nieve....and stupid. You obviously have no idea what it is like to raise a child on your own....and by the way...most of US single parents receiving child support...do have JOBS. Most of us have 2...a working job, and raising our children....and no there is no reason for us to have to work our *** of and neglect our children because the father doesn't want to pay child support....Its the law...and if we didnt have that law then the dead beat dads all over would be in hog heaven....and the money...as to wear it goes....do you think we should be allowed to monitor the others money (the dead beat father/mother) and ensure they are spending money on the child....Hell maybe we should put in spy cameras to see if people are taking care of the children....and by the way...MOST of the non-costodial parents don't even spend the amount of time that they are allouted by the court...Learn to have an open mind about things and put yourself in someone else's shoes or you will get no where in your life
2006-06-27 10:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of bad publicity for non custodial parents I think women who are non custodial parents get it the worst. I see no reason to pick on them if they are trying. If they are good with the kids give them a break. My first daughters father has always tried. I gripe about him now because he is ignoring her a little more than he use to (he's getting remarried) and he spends his money on tattoos and new cars and bi!che$ when he has to pay for half of her book rental for school. But I don't ever take it out on him and i never talk about him in front of her. And I am in school trying to better myself for my kids and my husband has a good job.
2006-06-27 10:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by shelley v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree!! My boyfriend's ex wife is crazy!!! She barely lets him see the kids, tells him to give her more money to see them, demands insane amounts of child support and alimony, so in the end, she makes 3 times more than him - b/c of all these payments. Men have 0 rights, and I feel really bad for them!!! They deserve more... and these money hungry, lazy, WOMEN (yes, I'm a girl)... just want their exes to support them - b/c they know no one else will put up w/ them! Why can't they get a job too??
2006-06-27 15:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lyss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately because of the one bad apple will spoil the whole bunch syndrone they will continue to get a bad rap until this situation turns around. my personal opinion is why show i have to make the law make you take care of what you put here? there will always be times when people for whatever reasons stop getting along but now you have a little piece of yourself out there that still needs your support. just do it and there will be a whole lot less hoopla...
2006-06-27 10:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't care i took on 3 teen age kids and hell yeah thier parents need to help child sport is for the kids and nothing else bal bah bah etc
2006-06-27 10:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well said,....seems that the odds are against men who want only to be the best father they can be.
2006-06-27 11:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur question is 2 long
2006-06-27 10:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Carolina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with carolina. way too long.
2006-06-27 10:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋