I need some insight from all those unhappily married men out there. Why do you guys stay in such a numb, unhappy and lifeless marriage for your kids? Don't the men ever think is unhealthy for the kids grow up where their parents relationship is dysfunctional? And even if you do find love outside of the marriage, why are most men so gutless to leave the marriage behind?
2006-06-27 01:28:15 · 15 answers · asked by asianhotcakes30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cuz usually the kids are more important to be raised by two parents that love them together than the man's 'wanting' to leave cuz he doesn't get along with his wife. not getting along with somoene (usually over stupid petty issues) is a small (stupid) reason to hurt/destroy your OWN children.
you could potentially ruin your own kids lives - they'll grow up with no self esteem, learn that couples don't stay togehter (no chance of them having a good relationship when older), no sense of love (or self-love), etc etc. Young children need to see that sense of FAMILY if they ever wish to have their own. if you ruin that idea of family, you've ruined any chance they have.
This country is ruined b/c of PARENTS being SELFISH! The kids are our futres... seriously. You shouldn't have had kids if were prepared to raise them yourself with your spouse, grow up and get over whatever it is your fighting for!
2006-06-27 01:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all, I'm a happily married man. But I was involved in a relationship in which we had a child. I stayed in the relationship for two years, trying to work it out for our daughter. I think the thing that kept me their the most was the fact that I did not want my daughter to grow up with out father. Then I realized that I don't have to be with her mother to be a good dad to her. So don't think that it's gutless to stay, Sometimes staying is in their for your child is the hardest thing to do. And yes kids can suffer from bad marriages, If you see that your child is being affected by your unhappiness, that's when you sit them down and tell them that you love them and mommy loves them. They need to know that nothings their fault. I hopes this gives you a little better insight on the dad's side.
2006-06-27 01:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mr.knowit.all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been involved with one of these unhappily married men and want him to leave his family for you. Kids are usually used as the excuse to stay but there are usually a couple of other reasons:
1. He knows that what he is having is a fling and that he will eventually go back home.
2. He knows that since he is a cheater that he will probably become bored with you and wanted something more exciting and new. So beware-your time is limited
2006-06-27 01:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that men will be losing financially? Eventhough he decided he wants to leave his family and live with this so called love of his life, he and this lady love will not be happy. The children, ex-wife, and financial issues will be there. Don't you think it is dysfunctional for kids to be with dad every other week? Did it ever occur to you that kids will be affected if one of the parents decided they have enough of each other? People just have to work out their relationships. This divorce thing is an escape. Anybody who will be living with somebody will have to learn to accept the imperfections of that person. No one is perfect... Also women who chose to have an affair with a married man is either crazy or have low self esteem. A woman should respect herself. Eventhough the wife doesn't know about her, God is there and her consience.
2006-06-27 01:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to be like my father
My marriage isnt any where near perfect, there inst a week when we dont fight over the dumb'st things that any one can think of. What makes things worst is that she gets advice from most of her friends who think there wright about everything. I have told her i hate her friends and we have work past that, but it hurts me to see my little boy cry and my little girl asking me why we fight, so for that i have put my pride aside and try to pick my battles for my kids sake.
2006-06-27 06:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by jmg559 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids don`t know that I`m unhappy,I`ve been married for 15 years.I guess
I`ve gotten good at acting.As far as true love outside the marrage,I havent
been looking.Some day I will meet someone after my kids grow up.Until
then?
2006-06-27 01:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are weak. They make up any excuse so they don't have to be a man and admit they can't handle the marriage anymore. It would be best for them to get divorced and let their family have some peace in their lives but instead they opt to be miserable and make everyone else miserable.
2006-06-28 03:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do so many women stay in mentally and physically abusive marriages? For the kids? People do all sorts of dumb things for all kinds of reasons you will never understand until in the same situation.
2006-06-27 01:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it's also unhealthy for the kids to grow up with there parents dating other people and not seeing there dad everyday
2006-06-27 01:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is. Children need input from two parents.
2016-03-27 05:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋