What is considered normal male interest and what is considered a relationship problem? I don't think I can be involved with someone who has to view porn and get off while I am available. Every so often is totally okay; I look at porn too sometimes. I just a have gut feeling something is "not right" with my relationship, but I can't put my finger on it.
2006-06-27 02:14:31 · 9 answers · asked by Skye7112 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no societal norm you can place on a persons personal habits...however, you can use prior experience with the same individual as a guide.
So if relatively little money was spent on this form of entertainment, whereas now, the monthly budget suffers...i would say this exceeds the norm.
Be really careful when identifying this type of behavior as "not normal" or indicative of some inherent problem...because that's simply incorrect
and moreover...it's an unfair, overly subjective assessment.
If you're feeling neglected, unloved, and/or unwanted....this is a better place to start when you begin talking to your man about his choice of viewing.
"I feel unloved when you choose to watch a porographic video over me dancing in the purple, fishnet, cat suit I bought last week."
2006-06-27 02:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn and masturbation are a lot easier than making love to a woman. He may just be lazy. Men think about women all the time, I know I do. I see an attractive lady on the street, in a movie I think about what she looks like naked. Watch with him, and don't worry so much, it's safer than prostitutes, and cheaper too.
2006-06-27 09:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find him glued to the computer for hours at a time, and you find files on your computer that weren't there before. That or when he goes to the extent of "locking" his user name with a password. My BOL was one of these guys, and it ruined his relationship with my sister. He went so far as to act out on his little fantasies with other women. Luckily for him, he moved away after they divorced, as for the things I wanted to do to him weren't pretty. Needless to say that one thing led to another, and you get the picture. In my point of view, if someone needs porn to arouse them, then something isn't right somewhere. Either the excitement isn't there, or they have lost interest totally. OR it could be that you just don't fulfill their needs entirely. If you don't feel right, it may be time to move on.
2006-06-27 09:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by iiboogeymanii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no answer to this other than whenever it affects your life in a negative way it has become a problem. It's like asking how much one can drink before being an alcoholic. The amount varies for different people. If you are not happy with it, no matter how much it is or what it is, then it is a problem.
2006-06-27 09:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading a porn mag or girl watching is normal. When you come home and your house is decked out like a brothel, you know he's gone overboard.
2006-06-27 09:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by pamela h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut. that feeling is something that has helped the human race survive for how long now???? 10s of thousands of years?
2006-06-27 09:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by afterflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's bored. try spicing it up or go to counselling. but better porn than he gets it from someone else
2006-06-27 09:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by marabierto1961 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that it bothers you. If he does it while you are available then ditch his a**. That is never good!
2006-06-27 09:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by meaghen2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut, it is always right. Just talk to him, does he know it bothers you this much?
2006-06-27 09:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by jillybean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋