WHEN I EXPLAIN THAT HE INSULTS ANSD EMBARRESSES ME WITH THEIS BEHAVIOR, NOT T0 MENTION THE HURT HE CAUSES, HE TELLS ME I AM INSECURE AND I NEED TO KNOW THAT HE LOVES ME VERY MUCH. HIS FAVORITE LINE IS..."WHO AM I GOING HOME WITH"? HE ALSO CLAIMS THAT HE ADMIRES THESE WOMEN AS WORKS OF ART. I TELL HIM THAT I MUST BE POOR ART IF I CAN'T SEEM TO GET HALF THE ATTENTION HE GIVES OTHER WOMEN WHEN WE ARE OUT. BUT WHEN WE ARE HOME ...I GET ADDITIONAL UNWANTED ATTENTION WHICH MAKES ME FEEL THAT HE IS USING THE JOLLIES HE RECIEVED FROM OUTSIDE AND INCORPORATING THEM INTO OUR RELATIONSHIP. DO I HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL ANGRY AND HURT...EVEN INSECURE..MY FEELING IS THAT IT MAY GO FARTHER ONE DAY..BECAUSE OF HE GOES THAT EXTREME IN FRONT OF ME, WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I AM NOT AROUND? I AM AT THIS TIME READY TO END THE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF THIS BEHAVIOR HE HAS...SO PLEASE TELL ME, AM I UNREASONABLE ABOUT ASKING FOR RESPECT! I LAST TOLD HIM HE CAN'T BEHAVE SINGLE AND BE IN A RELATIONSHIP AT THE SAME TIME!
2006-06-27 02:01:07 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell the Clown to put on his big floppy shoes and hit the road!
Before you Give him a red nose and stick the 24 inch shoe Up HIS A$$.
I hate clowns he sounds like the smilling on the outside crying on the inside type.
You need to help find his inner self ....Cryin!
2006-06-27 02:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trash him like yesterday leftovers. He should be single when he does that. He has no right doing that to you, and in front of you as well. Tell him how you feel about it, and how it hurts you too.
There are better men out there, God didn't stop making men when his butt was born. Put another piece of bait on there and throw your line back out.
There are some good men, even know it seems hard to find them. But you might have a darn good catch on your hook. No man worth staying with, when he does that to his girlfriend.
2006-06-27 10:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart. It is time to ditch this looser. You are not insecure because you don't like the way he flirts or gropes. It is just straight out unacceptable behaviour on his part. He either straightens up or its time for you to loose him. This is about him trying to feed his out of control ego by what I am reading. It has nothing with you being insecure, no matter how much he says it is. You do have the right to feel hurt and angry at him. Stand up and be counted. Tell him what its going to be, your way or the highway
Bst of luck
2006-06-27 09:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by Deejay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do everything you said you were doing. I would also though do exactly what he does. Start flirting with men like he flirts with women and see what he says. If he doesn't say anything then I wouldn't stay with him. You don't know how he acts when your not there. You also want to take in factor that he might be with you for the sex. I would not have as much or no sex with him and see how he reacts. If he freaks out then, then you should know what to do. Good luck!
2006-06-28 11:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's way out of line. That's completely unacceptable. He doesn't have any clue what a relationship is really about. You need to get out and find someone who knows the meaning of the word respect.
By the way, that whole respect thing has to start with you respecting yourself. If you respect yourself and demand that from others, you won't allow yourself to be abused, you won't be living with a guy who isn't your husband, and you won't have sex outside of marriage.
2006-06-27 09:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being unreasonable at all. I had an ex JUST like that and he did criminal acts (and beating me) and tried to make me go down with him. I GREATLY ADVISE YOU TO BREAK UP RIGHT AWAY. Either he'll shape up and beg for you back or just be a stupid idiot and not care afterwards. The sooner you break it off the less heartache you will have than if you had a kid with him.
2006-06-27 09:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Marj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered this question, leave and move on you deserve better. You deserve respect and so does those he is groping. As for getting off on these other people I think he is also getting off on your self esteem eroding and the fear you have that he will leave or go with someone else. Give him a dose of his on medicine move out and move on!
2006-06-27 09:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you are right. get out before you get in too deep. if this guy does this in front of you and you still stay then the next thing will be someone else in bed with you and i dont mean when you are not there. if he is not willing to be exclusive then end the relationship and find someone who is. right now you are miserable just imagine how you will feel in another month or 2. your instincts are kicking in right now. follow them...
2006-06-27 09:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, you need to ditch this dude fast! No one should ever try to justify what he does as being right. It's not. If he does that in front of you, I would hate to see what he does behind your back. Please do yourself a favor and leave him. You will find somebody out there who is so worth your time. Good Luck!
2006-06-27 09:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by limeallure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your turn. Do it back to him. Grope guys in front of him, wear short skimpy outfits and flirt with other guys. When he comes back and bitches about it then ask him how he thinks you feel? If it doesn't change anything then get rid of him!! You don't deserve that treatment!
2006-06-27 09:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋