He gets up and the first e-mail is to her. He comes to bed and the last e-mail is to her. He says he has too much work to do on preparing for work, doing powerpoint, but everytime I go to his office, he's using e-mail. If he can't close the window fast enough, he tries to block me from seeing it. He knows I'm a very jealous woman. Why is he doing it?
2006-06-27 02:26:38 · 17 answers · asked by weissman11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know she's also married with kids. But I ask myself, what is her husband doing when she's e-mailing a married guy?
2006-06-27 02:29:41 · update #1
you don't deserve to keep living like this! suggest marriage counseling and try to work things out. then, if not, u have to decide your next step.
2006-06-27 02:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband if he is blocking you from viewing the sent e-mails or an e-mail in progress is certainly not up to any good. The reason he is not allowing you to see the e-mails is because he feels it would start an arguement, but you've got to ask yourself why would he feel it would?
She's married, he's married, if they are consoling each other with how they are upset about their spouses, it may not be long until they are in each others company outside of work. That DOES NOT MEAN THEY WILL HAVE SEX, but as another poster said... cheating is cheating in any form.
I speak from experience, I had a female co-worker that I became chummy with, and would e-mail her from home. I didn't hide my e-mails from my wife, but I also wasn't very truthful about my activities on the computer.
After a huge fall out between my wife and myself, I came to see her point of view. That is a choice I made in bad judgement, and maybe, just maybe your husband is making a bad choice right now as well.
I would definately talk with your husband about it, do not.. .again DO NOT confront the other woman, women have pull in a work place, and your could put your husbands job in jeapordy over simple e-mails.
But open up communication between your husband and yourself, be the woman he married again.
2006-06-27 09:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy_Man_in_Minneapolis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds suspicious to me and I would confront hubby and ask him why he is constantly emailing this woman. If it is an innocent friendship then he would have no need to try to hide the window and I would tell him this. You can also install a keylogger program that will record every word he types on the computer, it will tell what program he was using and the dates and the times. Thats what I did when my husband was constantly on the computer a couple of years ago. I also turned on his archive on his Yahoo messenger. He would go online the minute he would come home and was on until bedtime. Also if he has a cell try looking through the call history.....Been there done all that and caught him!....Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-27 09:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I feel your allowing an affair to happen right in front of your face, It doesn't matter if she is married? Do you know her and her husband? If so I would make a phone call and ask the husband what he thinks,..... if there is anything going on or simply ask your husband to let you see the emails he is mailing to her if they are just friends then it shouldn't be a problem if he refuses then you are being played!
2006-06-27 09:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously getting something from her you don't give him. The strange part is you probably can't give him what she gives him. What he gets is an unreal relationship, a computer, some words, none of the things people have to deal with in real life. You should be worried but what can you do, if he is stupid enough to live life in cyberspace instead of reality there is not much you can do about it. Some people believe what they see on TV too, reality is not always easy, but for intelligent people its the only way to go. Good luck, you may need it.
2006-06-27 09:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to find out if there is more going on email her and pretend to be him and if you find he's messing around,E-mail the girls husband and tell him and you two get togethere and let them both know the cat is out of the bag! Girl kick'em to the curb after the fact!!! If he is just friends let it be or try to be a better friend to him.
2006-06-27 09:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend let me give you some good advice here... Just been through it myself Hon... Invest in a good spy-ware software. Download it on his pc... find out as much as you can... as soon as you can track her and find her address, find out where her husband works... make copies of all correspondence between his wife and your man... Mail them to the hubby... saving a couple of copies on disc for your self of course. Then take steps financially to help you through and for the best lawyer money can buy. All the while putting up the pretense that all is a-o-k... Then let him have it with both fist Hon.... serve him with divorce papers and throw his butt out all in a one-two punch.
2006-06-27 09:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Daffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you stop by, tell him you want to look in his sent folder. If he will not let you, threaten to leave him. If he still does not let you, then you have your answer. Cheating comes in all forms, but it always involves some kind of secret, if he's doing things via email that you can't see, then he's cheating. Plain and simple.
2006-06-27 09:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting him continue to have this affair???? This is not right at all. If he will not drop this and get away from her then you get out and leave him and move on with your life. He obviously has something to hide if you cannot see what he is typing and he does not want you to see it. He is doing this to hide things from you.
2006-06-27 11:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds too shadey....you need to somehow get to his e-mail and get proof. (#1)
once you get the proof, divorce him, no matter what! if he's being dishonest with you he doesn't deserve you in the first place
2006-06-27 09:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋