My Sista & I were really close at one time. We use to work together, go out together & our kids always played together. Two and a half years ago she moved away to the next town and was in what I call a bad relationship because she and her man were physically abusive towards each other. She got really thin and wouldn’t let her mother see her or her granddaughter. When we called she would never return our calls or always made excuses for us not to go over there to see them. We suspected something was wrong to which Sista said it wasn’t like that but then it got her daughter taken away by the State. Anyways the court made her get out of that relationship and for a year & ½ she been doing whatever the courts asked her too to get her daughter back and while she was doing that the State gave custody to her mother who has been nothing but supportive to her. Giving her $$ when she says she needs it and just all out taking advantage of her. So Sista got her daughter back and the case got closed. All fine and dandy right? Wrong. Sista is now in a new relationship in which she says that they are nothing but friends with benefits but like the last man had no job and there’s been rumors that he’s a drug dealer. Anyways, ever since she got her daughter back slowly but surely we noticed that she starting to act like she did before. Not returning phone calls, she gotten thin again, not allowing her Moms to see her daughter, and putting up excuses again. So this past weekend, her Mom when directly to her apartment to see what was going on because she hasn’t seen her granddaughter in almost a month. When she got there, Sista wouldn’t allow her Moms to enter the apartment because she had company over and she came out to greet her Moms wearing oversized sunglasses at 9pm in the night. We suspect that she either on something which we know she smokes pot but we think she might be doing something else even though she denying it or the dude she’s with did something to her. Sista’s mom is heartbroken, after all she did for her to get her daughter back and Sista disrespects her by yelling at her and telling her to mind her own business. Me being a mother myself, am very concern not only for her but for her child. Moms is thinking of contacting the social worker who was assigned to her case previously if her daughter doesn’t come clean about what’s going on. Her older brother has tried to talk to her but she doesn’t want to hear it. What can we do to help her? We can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Do you think Moms is right to have the State get involved? She just wants to be able to see her granddaughter. What can she do. Does she have rights? What do you think?
2007-03-26
02:56:03
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Baby J
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