I have been with this guy for about 7 months now. I am absolutely crazy in love with him. He smokes pot, and cigs, and has previously lied to me but through all that i still love him. My parents found out about the smoking and the lies and they say that they dont "hate" him but they make it pretty obvious that they do. They are making it incredibly hard for me to live at home but i know that if i were to tell them that they would just keep me even closer to them. I really dont want to live here but i feel like theres no way around it. I'm only 15 and they would never let me leave now. I dont exactly know what to do.
2007-03-26 05:18:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i just moved to a new town at the begining of high school this year. he was the first one to really accept me. i dont have many "girlfriends". also him and i have engaged in activities that make it a lot harder for me to just leave as you all suggest. So im 15 say what you want but i definatly find it possible for me to be in love with him. you dont understand how happy he makes me a lot of the time.
2007-03-26 06:40:38 · update #1
I say listen to your parents. 9/10 their always right. I mean your only 15 why are you hanging out with a guy that could ruin your future. You probably got a lot going on for yourself. Stay at home, because if you get in someone else's house you can't do what you want to that you can do in your own house. Maybe, you should open your eyes just a little wider, I feel it's trouble seeking your path if you stay with this guy. But i send my blessings to you honey just remember this "honor thy mother and father and your days will be long on this earth" take that in consideration.
2007-03-26 05:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Asia G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it is hard for you to understand, your parents do what they do because they love you. They want what is best for you and I know this because not only am I a parent who has done similar actions with my own children, I was also the girl who fell in love with a "loser" The rebel, the liar, the guy who drank and smoked and was just the life of the party.
The party doesn't last forever and when he is tired of you, he will leave you broken hearted or possibly with bruises or broken bones....
I can tell you now that as long as this boy is lying to you and using drugs, the only person he cares about is himself. I know you don't believe that but that is a fact. Lying and addiction go hand in hand and until he learns to deal with his own issues, he can never truly love you or anyone else.
So do yourself a favor, and take advantage of your parents experience and knowledge. Believe it or not, they have probably experienced some of the things you have gone through or feel and they don't want you to have to experience the pain or consequence of making the wrong decisions, being in the wrong crowds or just being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Have you tried talking to your parents about what it is they don't like about this boy? Maybe you should - without being angry about what they have to say....listen and see if what they are saying is true....after all the real goal of a parent is to raise our children to be the best they can be...So show your parents how responsible you can be and make the right decisions. Running away is never a good option when you have a loving family and a good home.
2007-03-26 05:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can make you do crazy things. Like staying with someone who may not be right for you. Your parents are trying to do the best thing for you, which can be hard. They aren't doing it to be mean or spiteful, but because they love you and don't want to see you get hurt. Maybe you should take a break from your guy, and see if you still feel the same way when you are a little older, and in a better position to make your own choices.
2007-03-26 05:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a dad, I will tell you that you deserve better then this guy. This guy eventually will break your heart because you give him way too much credit. Living a long time gives you experience in dealing with relationships, unfortunately you can't give that experience to your child. They don't "hate him" just have a dreadful fear that he will disappoint you in the future and they want to spare you the pain. Teens and parents naturally are at odds because of the life experience, but try to understand and keep the arguments to a minimum, like over life and death matters. Parents are OLDER (out lived decisions/experiencing rethinking) trying to impart that you. Remind the of the process, like when they where in your shoes.
2007-03-26 05:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. okay so my ex bf... was a pot head too. I was with him for 1/2 yr but on and off and knew him for about 5 yrs. My parents as well found out about the smoking pot. And i too was incredibly in love with him. He's made 2 promises about not smoking pot, and broke them. He was band from my house and my whole family hated him for hurting me. Be being a hopeless romantic, we still found ways of seeing each other... sneaking out at night, lying to my parents etc. It ended up bad as 99% of relationships do, and it crushed me so so so hard. My family only cared about me and didnt want me to be hurt. And although i knew that, i still did what i felt was right.
You really REALLY need to ask yourself... if he's worth it. If those lies are really okay to lie about. If the relationship is going to last. we're all so young and people are going to come and go. Smoking pot isnt that big of a deal, but you felt the need to mention it... and im assuming its a big part of his.
And being in your situaiton, you're most likely going to see him no matter what anyone tells you. So pleasee just ask yourselfff if its all really worth it =l
2007-03-26 05:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by alyssa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this is something that you wouldn't really want to hear but i think you should break up with this boyfriend of yours, cause to me he doesn't seem like a very good influence on you. you're only 15 and you can find way.. better guys that him, i'm not trying to hurt your feelings i'm only trying to tell you the truth. even though it's hard to live with your parents, remember they love you and care for you, and you will always be family no matter what.
also you're boyfriend may not stay together forever cause you're so young and you have a huge life ahead of you. anyways i wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-26 05:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely not a good influence for you. He smokes pot for gosh sake!!! What if he asks you to try some. I would dump him right away. Maybe you guys could just be friends. Don't ruin your life over a boy when you are only 15. Good Luck
2007-03-26 10:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by lost_upstairs27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He smokes cigs, smokes pot, and lies to you. Yet, you still love him. Are you desperate for the attention or just showing poor judgement skills? What you do is choose family first every single time.
2007-03-26 05:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right about this guy - He sounds like a dirt bag. You may think that you are "crazy in love" but I doubt that it's for real. You're only 15. Hang out with your girlfriends and don't worry about guys for now. You have plenty of time for that.
2007-03-26 05:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by teenyg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your parents. Don't go out with this guy anymore. There are plenty of other guys out there that are way better then him. I think you deserve someone better then this guy. If he smoke and lies to you then you two shouldn't be together. Your parents just want the best for you. Listen to your parents.
2007-03-26 05:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Defiance_Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋