Similar on what I asked yesterday.. but now I detailed everything..
I am Ryan from the Philippines, 19 years old and I grew up experiencing Physical and verbal abuse from my grandfather. We live in his land and our house is too near at them. Never in my life I experience love from him although when I was a child he told me that he loves me but different on what he do. I excel in class without any failing grades. One time Im about to go in my intern early in the morning (6am) and he said " I should study and dont act like Im endording a product from a clothing company" it hurts.. from then on I told myself that I will no longer respect him because all he wanted is to hurt me..
My mom didnt allow me to leave this place because Im still studying.. I dont know what to do...
Everytime I see my grandfather, I looked at him as if I want a fight and If he saw me, he do things to show me that he is angry. I know its bad but my relatives should not blame or not even ask why I act this bad.
2007-03-26 02:44:27 · 12 answers · asked by Ryan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hello Ryan...I'm sorry that you have had to experience this verbal and physical abuse from your grandfather. No one should ever have to experience this in their lifetime but unfortunately it does happen. One reason on why your grandfather has acted this way through your childhood is maybe he was abused during his lifetime by his father or someone in his family. This is a bad excuse but it's a trait. Where (not to get nosey) is your father? Is he around or is this your mother's dad that is abusive to you? If your dad is around can you talk to him about your issue? Does your mother know? You can't respect someone that is abusive. In fact your grandfather must not have respect for himself because one has to have respect for one's self before respecting others. I would have to stand ground and ask your grandfather on why he treats you as such, I'm not sure how old you are but me...I would definitely ask him on why he mistreats you as he does. He must have a reason. May not be a good reason but he has a reason thats for sure. How old is your grandfather anyway? Maybe it's jeolousy? Maybe he wishes he could be you? Maybe it's your youth. Who knows, but whatever the reason, it's not good for you. Try to stay your distance from him, I know it's difficult but maybe that's your only alternative. He probably loves you but in a different way that others in your family shows. I wish you all the luck, and it's great that you have excelled in school, he should be very proud of you for that. God Bless.
2007-03-26 03:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey my grandmother is the same with me. I have learned that if I ignore her and act like she isn't there she gets mad and leaves me alone. But for your grandpa sit him down and just ask him why he hates you so much. And when he tells you you can always say " I am still your Grandson. Yet you treat me like I am not part of this family!!!" Normally that sets my grandma straight. Good Luck Sugar.
Kimimila
2007-03-26 02:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Fighting Irish Lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
examine out it this form. There are grandfathers available who ought to offer a rip if there grandsons improve up properly rounded or no longer - meaning they handle their grandchildren like play toys and are unable to set any form of occasion by way of fact they by no ability grew up. I youngster you no longer, how would you like a grandfather that acted like a baby and did no longer discipline you, did no longer handbook you, or variety shape...your father determine isn't around so your (grand)father is it for the era. If all you acquire became a your butt spanked turn off the rumor mill by way of fact it is not a sturdy component to be offered and offered....that brainwashing rubbish is greater so abuse than something. that is people desiring you to experience like a persistent sufferer so which you spend something of your existence paying them to cry to. that's the place you're headed in case you don't get out of the sufferer mode and fill your existence with beneficial attitude and depart the youngster elevating to the adults. "I excel in my the class devoid of any failing grades yet they supply the impact of being at me as though Im undesirable. they do no longer look to be happy with me."
2016-10-01 12:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault so dont ever think that! i think you should move away or even better stand up to him i know its going to be hard just say to him stop treating me like this.
ryan hunni your 19 years old you need to do whats right and tell him and move away hunni its for the best good luck i hope you do the right thing xx
2007-03-26 02:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat him as your friend. I am sure something has happened that is causing him to act this way. Ask your mother, perhaps she can help.
Good Luck!
2007-03-26 02:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by Pabs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice it might rub off.........plus you should talk to your parents about it. And you should do something very very good and make your parents reletavives very proud so he will feel bad mistreating you
2007-03-26 02:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to back off old man, you're not that little kid anymore than can be pushed around or intimidated.
2007-03-26 03:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably remembers a time when young people had more respect for their elders.. so now he views you as disrespectful..
2007-03-26 02:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two people can play the same game.
2007-03-26 02:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by keana m 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So he's an a sshole, ignore him and live your life.
2007-03-26 02:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋