a women i know is pet mad,dogs cats parrots mice etc,her daughter ,she has 4 kids goes to school with my daughter we live in bristol england.those of you with any geographical knowledge will understand.this little girl is 9 and has never been any further than weston super mare,why because they have so many pets.isnt that bad mothering.poor kids never been on holiday and its not as though they cant afford it,they have nice house car etc.
2007-03-26 02:42:22 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
coolbean my point is she is putting the happiness of her animals b4 her children and yes she would love to go on holiday as she has told me.bad parenting period.
2007-03-26 03:50:04 · update #1
beanie,my point exactly
2007-03-26 03:50:53 · update #2
cj the poor kid has been crying to me saying why cant she ever go on holiday ,the point i am trying to make is how can any parent put there love of animals over the love of there kids.
2007-03-26 03:52:26 · update #3
kinkyboo,read above..........poor kid breaking her heart because all her friends go on holiday and she feels left out.
2007-03-26 03:53:58 · update #4
bobby as far as i can ascertain 4 dogs 6 cats 1 parrot god knows how many mice.3 rats a chinchalla and a snake ,and the place stink.the furniture is like mohair.with dog hairs.
2007-03-26 03:56:42 · update #5
long hair with glasses who doesnt have a name.its not about me placing my values.its about a little girl who not only asks to come on holiday with us but cries her heart out every time her friends talk about there holiday.basically its wrong to put some animal b4 your kids.fact.i dont have anything against animals but the poor mite is being deprived of so much.but yes some of you are right none of my business .doesnt make it right though.
2007-03-26 04:01:24 · update #6
james b .firstly read above.my oppinion is for one they can afford it as i know them well but they continue to put the welfare and happiness of there animals b4 there kids happiness..can you tell me is that right.
2007-03-26 04:04:28 · update #7
frog perhaps i should mind my own business,sorry but when i get a daughters friend crying to me that her mum thinks more of her animals than her .well it irritates me to say the least.
2007-03-26 04:05:54 · update #8
keeley ,its to do with me as i am the one who has to comfort the poor mite every time she gets upset when she comes around for tea with my daughter.i just think that it is extreamly selfish to put some animals b4 your childrens happines.
2007-03-26 04:11:04 · update #9
rachael b .thats the point there not
2007-03-26 04:12:21 · update #10
angel we have 3 times in the last 5 years.she loved it .but doesnt understand y her parents wont take her.there not skint ,they just put the animals first.which is my point.....
2007-03-26 04:58:49 · update #11
It's not for us to judge what someone else does within their family [provided it's legal] or to assume we have the right way of rearing our children, heck! parents have been trying to get it right for thousands of years but haven't managed it so far.......................
do you really feel so fragile as a parent that you need to judge another in order to make yourself feel better? as long as children are loved & wanted, that's the most important thing...holidays & all the latest gadgets mean nothing whatsoever without the love..............
2007-03-26 02:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you know the family well. If you can talk to the parents maybe you could suggest hiring someone for a few days to look after the animals while they go away. They could go for a weekend camping trip first. It could be that the mother is afraid to leave the animals in the care of someone for an extended time period in case they weren't responsible and let her animals suffer. A weekend would be a short enough amount of time that if they didn't fulfill their job, the animals should be fine when they get home. Once she sees that her pets are fine, she may feel better about taking a longer holiday. Maybe, if she just can't leave her pets, then the Dad could take the kids on a trip. It would be a shame that Mom didn't take part, but that's her choice. Dad and kids could still enjoy a holiday.
2007-03-27 09:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI if you are so concered about her having holidays why not when you go on holiday take her with you. I bet you wouldnt.
Before you start to critisie people why not talk to then first. How about her mum might no like to go travelling and she uses the dogs as an excuse. They can still go all they need to do is put the dogs in the kennels and there you go. If you say they can afford it the they can put the dogs in kennels.
Have you ever considered maybe one of her parents is ill or cannot travel for some reason. Not everyone is fortunate weather they have dogs or not are fortunate to go away everyyear. I havent been on holiday abroad since Im older, I dont remember going to italy or france because I was too young to remeber but thats noone fault and we never had the money to go when I got older. So its not just because the girls got animals. If they can afford stuff then there us other issues.
But like I say next time you have a holiday if you so concered then you take her on holiday and give her one to remember as she will remember as she is 9, you can always ask her mum to pay monthly or weekly for it. Im sure if she has never been on holiday her mum will let her.
But its not bad mothering, thats like saying all single mothers or mother who cant afford to go on holiday are bad mothers. At least this girl has bets a house a car and a mum and dad, Some dont even have that so what more can the little girl ask for. And when she comes round or whatever if she is upset, dont mention holidays around her and tell your daugther no to, if shes her friend then Im sure she wont mind. As if the girl is going home saying youve been here there and everywhere and why cant she I m sure her mum will be hurting. So just keep that inmind
2007-03-26 11:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer without knowing the particulars. If the mother maintains a clean, safe environment for these pets, I think her kids may well have a happy, even joyful life with so many wonderful critters to enjoy. We aren't talking some wierd old lady with 30 cats, right? I can think of many kids who would love such a happy circus. Likely they will grow up to be pet lovers themselves. I see your point about the holiday, but a happy day to day life is more important in the long run. Maybe the mother could look into a good pet sitter, a boarding service, etc, and plan something in the future. As the little girl gets older, I'm sure she will make her desires known to her mother, and hopefully, they can manage to do both....have a nice holiday and a happy home full of fur!! Does the parrot talk? Teach him to say, "I need a vacation!"
2007-03-26 09:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not for us to judge whether this girl is suffering just because her mum doesn't take her anywhere for a holiday. I agree that the mother is being excessive or obsessed with pets but maybe she is a good mother in every aspect other than not taking her daughter anywhere. Maybe the girl doesn't feel the need for a holiday because she's not brought up to expect it. It is only in the recent two decades that people think holiday is an essential part of a good life. A lot of children growing up in the sixties never had a holiday in an exotic destinations yet they had perfectly happy memories of their childhood. I think it's true that you don't miss what you don't have so I don't see why this little daughter suffers just because she's not having the same holiday as your kids.
2007-03-26 09:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not bad mothering, if they wanted they would get someone to watch the pets. I just want to know why you think this is bad mothering just because the 9 year old has not been further than Weston super mare. I know kids older than that that have not been any further. The house they have has nothing to do with the cost of travel, plus they have four kids to raise. Maybe they are saving for their children's educations and can't afford it. There could be many reasons, I think you are a bit spoiled in my opinion, what is yours.
2007-03-26 09:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you having a go at everyone when you didn't put all the details in properly first of all. you can't expect people to give an accurate answer if you can't phase the question properly.
if your so concerned then why don't you report the situation to the social services instead of wasting time on here just gossiping about someone elses life,
jeez, you didn't say the little girl had been crying to you did ya? not until after you started to get negative answers anyhow.
Make your mind up, first off you said they had a nice house etc now its a shitehole.
why don't YOU take the little girl on holiday with you then.
2007-03-26 11:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by pooped_over 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your getting alot of grief here.
It is difficult with pets (we've been lucky to have great neighbours)
I agree with you and think it's nice of you to try and help.
I had a similar issue with a friend when i was growing up. I took her along to brownies with me and the annual camp was the first holiday she'd been on, she also got the chance to go abroad on various challenges.
Maybe you could suggest this to the little girl. I know it's not the same as a family holiday but it will give her the experinece of being away.
2007-03-28 07:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you're sorry you posted this question now aren't you?
I agree that if the child is unhappy & is being neglected it does seem like bad parenting, but as has already been stated it's hard for us to comment fairly as we dont know the family in question. there could be many reasons why they don't go away on holiday & it may not be to do with the pets, although I guess you can't go far when you have so many, who would care for them. I wouldn't have so many pets myself because i hate to be tied down to one place, but thats me & thats my business.
you said though that she's never been away from her home town, thats not true is it, because you've taken her 3 times, so you say. I think you were just being a nosey gossip & got a shock when everyone else didn't join in with you.
I think you should get on with your own life & mind your own business. no doubt this lady you're gossiping about could equally say stuff about you.
but then you probably think you're perfect.
2007-03-26 13:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad parenting? For allowing your children the priveledge of having lots of pets - which most children beg their parents for? At 9 years old, you don't need to go abroad. Where would you suggest? Faliraki?
I never went on any holidays abroad until I was 20 years old. That was only 2 years ago. My mom worked hard, raised us by herself, and we couldn't afford these 'essential' holidays. Wow, how deprived was I? If I was deprived, it led to me growing up well, having respect for my mom and everything that worked hard to give me.
After reading your other questions, I notice that you do make some really pointless comments.
2007-03-26 13:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isnt necessarily bad mothering, people just have different priorities. some people dont want to fly places because of the negative impact it has on the environment. or maybe one of them is scared of flying? you shouldnt make judgements, just because people have a nice house and nice car doesnt necessarily mean they can afford it, they might be up to their eyes in credit. holidays are not the be all and end all, perhaps their pets give them more joy than any holiday ever could?
2007-03-26 10:03:39 · answer #11 · answered by tequila_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋