Family & Relationships - 26 March 2007

Ok, I've been talking with a guy and we've both been really busy and haven't had the chance to hang out since our first date. But he's been calling and so I thought he liked me. Well, we were supposed to go out last night, he asked me out 3 days in advance, then confirmed the day before, then the day of...never calls. So my question is, what do I do when (or should I say if) I get a call later on? I don't want to tell him off, we didn't go out nearly anywhere long enough for me to go off on him. I guess I just want to ignore him, but what's the best strategy on this? And for the record, nothing happened on our date, just a goodnight smooch. Thanks for your advice!

2007-03-26 05:11:03 · 9 answers · asked by Trey 2 in Singles & Dating

My brother-in-law does some counselling at the church and my husband thinks it's a good idea but I'm not really comfortable about it. What do you think?

2007-03-26 05:10:56 · 40 answers · asked by filks23 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Anyway we have always gotten along sexually.Now all of a sudden she has no interest in doing some of the extra foreplay we have always done.She never really liked doing it in the first place.
But I am confused that after this long all of a sudden she wont do it.I dont think she is cheating.We care deeply for one another always have.I just cant sem to put my finger on it.
Nothing else has changed she still does all the things for me she has always done.You know making sure my bowling shirt is clean and all those little things like that.So I know her feelings havent changed for me.or she wouldnt be doing those litle tedious things.
Should I just give it some time and wait to see if things get better.I have tried talking to her and I think she just doesnt want to tell me she dont want to.Because she knows how much i enjoy the extra stuff.
Please give me some incite.Maybe some hints or maybe you have been there.Is there anything I can do to get this part of our lives back.

2007-03-26 05:10:51 · 4 answers · asked by kenneth h 3 in Singles & Dating

i have a guy friend at school
and i think im starting to like him
but he has a gf and i have a bf too
i mean this guy just likes me as a friend
and i still like my bf
im just really confused right now

can somebody give some advice???

thanks

2007-03-26 05:10:30 · 15 answers · asked by MoNiCa 2 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend just turned 21 and told me that he just wants a break so he can go out and party without worrying if ill be mad about it but we are still friends. a baby would interfere with his night life and i think it would just be better if he didnt know untill he gets this party phase out of his system

2007-03-26 05:10:10 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been i family court for 5 years. My stbx wife has been caught in so many lies, I have the court transcripts to prove it. What she said 2 years ago totally contradicts what she said 3 months ago, yet she retains custody. The GAL warned the judge of the tactics my stbx wife will most likely use. She has harassed an alienated me from my son so much that my pick up and drop offs are now at a police station. The GAL and social worker have both requested an immediate transfer of custody but the judge doesnt see a need to transfer custody. STBX and her lover, yep she brought her affair partnerwith her to court, tried to testify that her affair is my fault. Ok my question remains Why is it that a dad rarely, "RARELY" ever gets a fair shake in court? How is it that women have so much control when it comes to family issues?

2007-03-26 05:09:34 · 6 answers · asked by thrylz 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Many times in my life I felt lonely and sadder, I felt that their was nobody i could turn to in order to ask for help. I need friends. But what should I do if I realize one afternoon that I want to leave my job eairlier, which I havent for 5 months since I got hired but there is nobody in my agenda that I can call and invite to join me for a cup of coffee or lunch presciecly because I nver stopped working?
How do I even make one friend when everyone else is quiet and laid back?

2007-03-26 05:09:34 · 1 answers · asked by Sonia2003 1 in Friends

My child's father hates that we're not together (2nd split in the last year. Everytime I choose to leave he promises that things will be different if and when I come back. I fell for this the first time and things didn't change much. Now he's doing it again, making the same promises he made the first time around. I'd love to have my family stay together but I refuse to be with someone and not be happy. Any SERIOUS advice would be very helpful. Thank you.

2007-03-26 05:09:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So, I'm 21 and I'm in love with a 28 year old. We have a really good relationship...he tries to do everything he can for me and treats me like a princess, but I am having trouble getting over his past. He's been married twice and he never seems to acknowledge anything that went wrong as being HIS fault...he just says he shouldn't have married them in the first place. He has a nine year old daughter from his first marriage. He was really young and got married because she was pregnant. He doesn't see his daughter or pay child support because he said he doesn't trust what the mom would do with the money. It bothers me that he doesn't seem to feel guilty about not taking care of his daughter even though he is going to visit her in a few weeks. I love him...but I know I could do "better". I know that whatever decision I make here I'm gonna have to deal with for the rest of my life, and I want it to be the right one. Am I right to be worried, or should I just leave his past up to him?

2007-03-26 05:08:50 · 14 answers · asked by Susie Q 1 in Marriage & Divorce

How do you help a sister that is in a emotionally abusive and controlling relationship with her husband.
She constantly calls and cries to me about how mean and controlling her husband is. How she has to pay all of the bills and doesn't have any money left over to barely eat.
And the killing part to it all, she is 7 months pregnant by him, has a bachelor's degree and works 2 jobs.

I constantly talk to her, and try to encourage her to come and stay with me, or our mom, or her best friend.

But, honestly I think that she is totally afraid of him.

And, I am scared for her, because I feel like once the baby is born then she is really going to be controlled.

I don't know what else to do to get her to leave and be healthly and happy.
I love her so much, and want the best for her.


This is a very sincere and serious situation, and I would appreciate serious answers.
Thanks

2007-03-26 05:08:04 · 9 answers · asked by Ms Brown Eyez 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Alright, I love my boyfriend...i really do. Been seeing him for over 4 months and i really want to KEEP seeing him...but there is a tiny little problem....he says "i love you.." every 5 minutes!! He writes me a note...and it says I love you in it like 30 times...he's not so bad when we are together but thats only because we are around other people and he doesn't want to be all mushy. Now dont get me wrong...i LOVE to hear him say that he loves me...but he says it so much its starting to not mean anything...he's a really sensitive guy and i dont want to hurt him by telling him that he needs to back off with the "I love yous"...what do i do? or how can i tell him nicely that he doesnt need to say it every 5 minutes?

2007-03-26 05:07:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

You know the deal in arranged marriages. There is the first interview, the second and most are finalised at a third interview. Well, my cousin is deep into it. She is in love with a part-time mailman who goes to school part-time to be a mortician and has another part-time job as a dog groomer.The cousin is very pretty and many people have fallen off their bicycles or have rammed their scooters into lampposts while hyptonised by her looks. The mailman fellow is a strapping six footer looks good in shorts, likes to chew tobacco and carries a fanny pouch full of granola bars. The elders came to see my cousin and they almost fainted in spite of their advanced age and had to be administered CPR to be revived for the next interview. Now, this is disgusting. I am thinking of sprinkling the ceiling fan with sneezing powder this time too, so that they leave scratching and sneezing all the way down the driveway with the "mithai" strewn all over the "sherbet" on the coffee table. Any other ideas?

2007-03-26 05:07:45 · 13 answers · asked by Kaliyug Ka Plato 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-26 05:07:34 · 11 answers · asked by t.trevelyan at home limetrees 1 in Singles & Dating

NOT ROMANTIC IDEA PLZ!!!!!

2007-03-26 05:06:45 · 13 answers · asked by pal 1 in Singles & Dating

it just happened 2 me 4 the first time and i want to know how you get over it

2007-03-26 05:06:33 · 12 answers · asked by seb. 4 in Singles & Dating

what are the ups and downs of a married couple who have different religions. Please feel free to write as much as you like. I don't mind some websites either...

2007-03-26 05:05:20 · 10 answers · asked by ♫ Chloe ♫ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

There is an ex I have and his wife keeps coming back like an elastic band, and try to get revenge and even, with me after 5 years!I never met her and she is not important for me, but she is outragous and so jalous of me, gosh she is so stupid! After 5 years they do not want to let go of the past.HEr whole life is included by seating on the internet all day adn look for any sign of me on the internet, I only write what she wants to hear just to mess with her head, how petathic her life can be!!Once in a while I jsut f*** with her head just to have fun and drive her to the wall and even more angry. She named her son after my son and she wants to come and hurt me and my son. She is trying to find out about my address, life and every thig she can to come and kill us all. what would you do when you want to mess up with an annoying pest's head? She thinks she is making me angry and she is committed her life full time for that..lolI like that!

2007-03-26 05:05:00 · 2 answers · asked by D. M. 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Hey all,I'm a wife to a man whom I used to think its my life time love,I thought he is perfect I 've always loved him to death,I thought I'm the luckiest woman on earth for having him in my life,however recently I accedintly saw this email which is sent by him
Subject: Missed you soo much
Dear Rebecca
I missed you really every time I pass by the pastry shop I feel that I am missing someone, your smile is really means to much for me every morning...I know that you are wondering who is sending you this Email....I do not know if you will recognize me from my Email address or not I will leave it for your intelligence(frankly I like you so much I never liked lady like you be fore)keep it secret between you and me even you do not like me. I still interested to know you and be more closed to you...(pls keep it secret as I told you cause if you told anyone I will be really upset!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Guess who
Thanks in Advance

2007-03-26 05:03:29 · 7 answers · asked by shocking 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was played by a really nice guy, if you could imagine that. Found out later he had a drinking problem and had a domestice violence charge when he was married. We were really soulmates, I fell hard, really hard for him. Since he was genuine in some things, it was really hard to spot his game. I've finally managed on my own to break off all contact, which I am really proud of myself. But now I am facing this void inside of me on so many levels. How did you recover your self-confidence after? Did you manage to regain trust in relationships? Have you found a guy that treats you nice?

2007-03-26 05:02:16 · 13 answers · asked by stargazer 2 in Singles & Dating

My ex girlfriend and I after breaking up remained friends. Everything was fine until two days ago. She accused me of sitting in front of her house and "stalking" her. I would never do anything like that.. it is just plain creepy. She told me that she never wants to talk to me ever again. I told her it wasnt me but this was to no avail. There is nothing i can do to make her believe me, and unfortunetly this is how it has to be. My problem is this... I was just about to tell her I was in love with her. Now this makes me seem even more of a stalker because shes my ex girlfriend, and makes it seem like i would stalk her. Stalking is not in my nature, and she knows this. I have never done anything to make her believe that I would. She chose to believe these crazy notions and there is nothing i can do. This wouldnt hurt so badly if I had only told her how I felt about her and that I am in love with her. What do i do?

2007-03-26 05:02:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm married and have kids.My husband and I work and go 2 school full time .I want to let him know that he is needed and still loved any ideals

2007-03-26 05:02:08 · 23 answers · asked by funnybunny 1 in Marriage & Divorce

You don't want people to know how terrible your luck is, haver you ever at LEAST once, or would you lie about havin sex, even if it's just one time, to get some form of respect?

2007-03-26 05:01:52 · 12 answers · asked by Ryder 1 in Singles & Dating

So I dumped my gf after an argument, and a couple weeks later I tried to get her back and she told me that she no longer had feelings for me and she would be tricking herself to try to make a relationship work, and wanted to stay friends, and after months of me begging for her to take me back, I have finally accepted that she really doesn't have any feelings at all for me, and her emotions for me must have run dry before I dumped her because she wouldn't have got over me in 3 weeks otherwise. It makes me feel better actually, that it wasn't completely my fault that we aren't together anymore.

So I'm single again. It is getting easier with time, but I'm still feeling lonely. She was my first gf and I thought she was absolutely awesome. I'm trying to move on but I just have this anxiety that I will never find someone as good as her. It really gets me down. Is it normal to feel like this?

2007-03-26 05:01:12 · 12 answers · asked by jackbla22 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-26 05:01:03 · 7 answers · asked by no_seeds_aloud 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My girl friends father passed away, she hasn't seen him in 3 years she wanted to know him but he was never there. She found out the other day he was sick and i tracked down a number for him on the internet she called his mom answered and asked why do you care if he is sick you haven't tried to see him ( ok calm down people i had to, she must be sick to tell a young lady why hasn't she tried to find her dad when he only lived 3 miles from his daughter its his fault) my girl said when she was younger she remember that he said he had a will and insurance money for her. How would you find all the info on this if you don't talk to the other family members

2007-03-26 05:00:54 · 8 answers · asked by A 2 in Family

My honey's birthday is next week and i would like to give him a present but i dont know what to give him.

Ladies give me some ideas please, guy i need your help.

2007-03-26 05:00:48 · 5 answers · asked by WD 1 in Singles & Dating

i need some help my mum is looking for her dad an we have tryed everywhere we can think but still know sucess! if anyone has any suggestions please help thank you

2007-03-26 05:00:18 · 2 answers · asked by fun_but_saucey 1 in Family

I broke up from a 2 yr. relationship back in December. He was my 1st love, and my 1st real relationship. Since then I find myself partying hard, going out lots...I lost 10lbs, and gained 20 lbs back in 3 months. I've had a couple sexual partners. I feel empty, and alone. I'm making bad decisions, and I truly hate myself.. I lost myself, I don't know who I am, and I'm being someone I'm not! Has anyone ever made really bad decisions because of a broken heart...
Is there really a valid excuse for destroying yourself?..

2007-03-26 05:00:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I don't understand this, we have been having trouble since last Nov. She told me that she she wanted a divorce, so we sat down ant talked things out. Then we deceided to work things out. Then at the end of Feb she told me that she loves me but she is not in love with me. She went to her mothers house for a few days and when she came home she told me that maybe she is being to Hasty and with things. She said that she does not want to loose me and maybe it was a mistake.
She said that she does not want to say I love you until she means it. But now she says I love you and when I ask her if she is in love with me she says yes. I don't if she is telling me the truth b/c she has fliped floped soooo may time.
We have not said sex since the middle of Feb, is she playing me???
We a also moving to a new state and going to buy a house, is this a good idea????
A little advice would be nice b/c I don't know what to do. We have two great kids together and also I still love her very much

2007-03-26 04:59:31 · 15 answers · asked by Brett H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-26 04:59:14 · 6 answers · asked by Deborah Z 3 in Marriage & Divorce