I broke up from a 2 yr. relationship back in December. He was my 1st love, and my 1st real relationship. Since then I find myself partying hard, going out lots...I lost 10lbs, and gained 20 lbs back in 3 months. I've had a couple sexual partners. I feel empty, and alone. I'm making bad decisions, and I truly hate myself.. I lost myself, I don't know who I am, and I'm being someone I'm not! Has anyone ever made really bad decisions because of a broken heart...
Is there really a valid excuse for destroying yourself?..
2007-03-26 05:00:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand what you are going through. I was the same way after a 7 yr relationship. It's kind of a phase some people go through. You aren't destroying yourself. If you feel like you are going down a bad road you need to really stop and set some guidelines for yourself. It's OK to go out and have fun just don't overdo it. Don't sleep around you will regret it when you snap put of this. You need to find yourself.... Love yourself. Find some hobbies that will keep your mind occupied. Working out helps....it is sort of an antidepressant. I think you are going to be OK.......just don't let it go any further. Believe in yourself and be thankful for all the good things in your life.
2007-03-26 05:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by aa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, this is not all uncommon, i pulled the same stuff, started hangin out on the weekend to get my mind off it, started working obscene amounts of hours, started having more sexual partners, started smoking again, i think that it is just a person's way taking their mind off of the problem for a little while, it's not so much that you need an excuse, you just wanted to do something to forget even for a little while, my advice is to surround yourself with friends that re going to take care of you and help you to be a better person, for me all that happened like 3 years ago, and i am 21 and totally okay now, i have joined the military as a way of bettering my self to my own expectations and now i can focus on my career and my friends and family, so if you need someone to talk to seriously, let me know. you can e-mail me anytime.
2007-03-26 12:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sire_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes made lots of bad decisions after a break up. But the air clears and you get back on track after a while. Concetrate on being more healthy. Read a good book or meet up with friends who dont drink. Relax it will get better.
2007-03-26 12:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay listen up sweetheart. i've been in the same position that your in right now and i kno exactly how you feel but ya kno that sometimes you just need to toughen up and get over it. you gotta realize that your too good of a person sit around and sulk and just to go off having casual sex with guys, thats not fair to yourself. it sounds like you need some closure so maybe you should go on with your life and talk to someone who knows him or even better talk to him and tell him how you feel cause you never know. maybe he's sulkin around waiting for you. don't give up on yourself, talk to someone about and because with this kinda stuff you gotte be carefull you don't wanna get more hurt than you alreayd are. before anything get your self health and make yourself health and be careful ...
2007-03-26 12:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by LOVEYOU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound just like me.....he was my everything and when he was gone i felt like i lost EVERYTHING....u do NOT need help....ur heart takes over ur brain becuz u want it to... i kno how u feel....and it sucks i've been there and it took me 2 1/2 years to get over my first!!!!! and i dont want that to happen to u!!!!! u should go out and enjoy urself but not in the way u r doing rite now...when u go out take ALL of ur girlfriends and when u drink make somebody who aint drinking to watch u....get rid of those guys for sex and replace them with a gay best friend to make u feel better....then go to church when i got saved the burden in my heart was SOO heavy....all the partying, cussing, kissing(i dont have sex). now i have the PERFECT guy and everything is going the way I want it to....take control of UR life.....dont let a heart break and sex control u!!!! good luck...and i hope a little of this helps u...i kno when i was in ur place nothing helped but a quote that helps me out when i'm down:
"God made u with two ears, two eyes, two legs, two arms, and two feet.....why not two hearts?......becuz there is someone out there who has ur other heart and when u meet both hearts will become one."
i hope u get better....and i'm sorry for ur loss....but God is waiting and when the rite time comes that special someone will fall into ur hands....:)
2007-03-26 12:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's natural. maybe you werenot free and independent when you were with him, you just want to feel how to be free.
2007-03-26 12:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sTOP DRINKING, GO TO SCHOOL, AND YOU WILL BE OK
2007-03-26 12:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by bolt1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋