So I dumped my gf after an argument, and a couple weeks later I tried to get her back and she told me that she no longer had feelings for me and she would be tricking herself to try to make a relationship work, and wanted to stay friends, and after months of me begging for her to take me back, I have finally accepted that she really doesn't have any feelings at all for me, and her emotions for me must have run dry before I dumped her because she wouldn't have got over me in 3 weeks otherwise. It makes me feel better actually, that it wasn't completely my fault that we aren't together anymore.
So I'm single again. It is getting easier with time, but I'm still feeling lonely. She was my first gf and I thought she was absolutely awesome. I'm trying to move on but I just have this anxiety that I will never find someone as good as her. It really gets me down. Is it normal to feel like this?
2007-03-26 05:01:12 · 12 answers · asked by jackbla22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, but things will turn around. They did for me after a break up, but I wasn't looking. Give it time and things will get easier. Go out and have fun and be yourself. I still look back and think about my first from time to time. I think that it is natural. Good Luck.
2007-03-26 05:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal. and after months u still begging for her shows that u truly love her. which is good. and since she was ur first u will feel really hard to make it through, because the first always seems more memorable and more important than others. i pretty much dumped my gf too and we have been on and off for a long time. i regret try to act upset just i can get her attention. it hurts me very much too. we have been together for about a year and 5 months and it just went down so fast. i am single now also. and it just kills me inside that i cant even make her happy and satisfy her. i could before, but not much after summer. i want her back sometimes, but i feel it would only hurt her to have her back. i dont know what to do neither. but yea it is normal to feel hard and feel like crap after the breakups.
2007-03-26 05:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by shycoolboylikeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes everyone goes through little steps after a break up, but the biggest thing is, just keep reminding yourself that there is someone better out there for you. Every time you date someone new you learn more qualities you like and dislike in a mate, so you can choose better when you find someoen new, until one day you find that one person that exceed your expectations. Don't worry, getting over a break up just takes time.
2007-03-26 05:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Im going through the same thing. I had a boyfriend of almost one year and he was everything to me and I changed to try and make things work but he never pulled his weight in the relationship so i broke up with him but i still love him a lil.
BUT! i have mostly moved on and found the best guy in the whole world and he is so sweet and nice... everything my ex wasnt. im so happy that i broke up with him because i have found this great guy who really loves me for me.
at first youll feel alone and powerless and un motivated but this will pass in time (took me nearly half a year). you just have to be patient and this anxiety you feel will surely pass
best of luck
xx
2007-03-26 05:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by xx_mcr16_xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to feel that way but it also holds you back and limits your beliefs about what is possible. Best thing to do is to go out and date and I don't mean 1 person exclusively but many different people to get a feel for what you like and also to take the pressure off. But whatever you do don't hold the feelings of your ex into your next situation.
2007-03-26 05:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by JAZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal to fell this way for it to be your 1st gf and don't worry about it you just started and their will be a lot of girls and they will come and go but their will never be one as good as your first until later down the line so just keep your head up.
2007-03-26 05:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by funnybunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Cause those are the things that you keep thinking of. Remember, LIFE'S TOO SHORT TO WASTE ON THE WRONG ONE. Well, no offense but as you can see, she doesn't want you anymore. And said that she doesn't have feelings for you anymore. So, yeah. You'll find someone else, better and absolutely great for sure. :)
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2007-03-26 05:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Faye ^___^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...it's absolutely normal my friend...so don't be so freaked out in all of your feelings about this falling out with your ex. Some people get over things quickly...and others simply take longer...that's all. Try to keep your respect and angry feelings post relationship to a minimum with her though. They won't do you any good to exasperate them outloud to your former woman and any of your mutual friends together otherwise. Try not to be too sad my friend really. There's allot of great fish in the sea dude...she just happens to be only one of em. There's plenty more where she came from anyways. Stay busy...stay focused...and try not to air out your dirty laundry in front of her or with her anyways. This would simply make you look pathhetic in her eyes reasonably. We don't wanna be looking like that now...do we?...so perk up and refuse to take a low road on all of this breakup stuff seriously. She may wanna bounce on top of you again possibly someday. You wanna be mentally ready when or if that happens possibly! You just need to keep your wits about you when she does come around for a replay with you possibly. I take it the sex with her was quite fabulous huh?...hence the sorrowful shameless feelings you're going through right now I would imagine. Get better dude...quickly. Time will be your true friend right now also. Women like men that are confident and on top of their game. If you can't at least feel good about yourself right now dude?....at least look good partner. It's always good to look respectable and proper in front of the ex anyways. It'll just kill her to think what the heck sh'e missing out on seriously. Keep your chin up high dude...even when you're not feeling like it reasonably...and good luck to you personally from me! I've been in your shoes a few times too dude. It absolutely makes ya feel like crap for a short time otherwise. This IS normal!
2007-03-26 05:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that way. Next time, think about what might happen before you dump someone.
2007-03-26 05:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by katie-bug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is but it gets better with time. we all make mistakes but learn from them. it makes you a better partner in the long run. Know that you are capable of being loved and in love
2007-03-26 05:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by msmarle99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋