any fathers awarded custody?

Question

I have been i family court for 5 years. My stbx wife has been caught in so many lies, I have the court transcripts to prove it. What she said 2 years ago totally contradicts what she said 3 months ago, yet she retains custody. The GAL warned the judge of the tactics my stbx wife will most likely use. She has harassed an alienated me from my son so much that my pick up and drop offs are now at a police station. The GAL and social worker have both requested an immediate transfer of custody but the judge doesnt see a need to transfer custody. STBX and her lover, yep she brought her affair partnerwith her to court, tried to testify that her affair is my fault. Ok my question remains Why is it that a dad rarely, "RARELY" ever gets a fair shake in court? How is it that women have so much control when it comes to family issues?

Background info: we met when we where 19. I was active army. Together up to 28. Got married. During the cohabitation period she cheated on me. She got pregnant not sure by me or other guy. I sign birth cert and raise child ever since. We have problems for over 2 1/2 years being together. I step over bounds not sexually but emotionally Im not proud of this. At this time we are married. She says she wants divorce two weeks later some guy calls my house at 7am. That is the beginning of the war I am now in. She claims son is not mine (he is now 7) She's with 1 guy, tells him a different guy is his "REAL" father and to call me by my first name. The only thing the courts have done is award me 2 extra days a month visitation. All burdens are on me as far as pick up and drop offs. She now claims I was beating her for years. She is really screwed in her head. As far as paternity goes, I dont need a DNA test to know I am dad. Always have been. always will be.

Answer 1

The truth is the court does not give a darn. As long as your kid is not going to wind up on the front page of the newspaper dead they allow this type of woman raise our next generation. Believe me you are not in the minority on this one. Save your money and stop making the attorneys rich. The best thing you can do is be the best dad possible, make life as easy on your son as possible (he has to live with the idiot). Win your son over that he will agree to come live with you when he is 14 (or what ever age the court will start listening to him in your state) You should have been more careful who you mated with.

Answer 2

I know some men who have been awarded custody of their kids, and sometimes it can be a good thing (though not in all the cases I can think of). Courts generally try to keep children with their mother, though, because... well, she's the mother. Mothers are thought to be more nurturing and because most women are emotional and most men are thinking people (in terms of first instinct), there's a theory that women are superior parents.
Thing is, I know some lousy moms, some lousy dads, and some great moms and dads... single as well as married in both categories. An affair isn't a good thing at all... it's horrible... but at the same time, the court will look at what seems to be on you, too. I'd get some good legal advice from someone who specializes in custody hearings (someone to discuss the case with, not necessarily go to court with you, since that would likely cost more) that perhaps has personally gone through one him- or herself. Talk to other parents that have been there. Seek out their advice. Pray about what to do and how to go about it; God knows what's best, and there's no win/win in a situation like this... but God is the only one that can get the result that is befitting the circumstances and best for all involved. Only He can sway the judge to do the right thing, whatever that may be.

Answer 3

Unfortunately it is a long-held bias that mothers are more important than fathers in a child's development. This antiquated theory is slowly being overturned. The fact is that children need both parents. It will take a while for the court system to catch up because of the age of a lot of the judges. However, I do know someone personally who was awarded full custody of his two children because he provided more stability for them than his wife did. He didn't think he would get custody because his judge was a woman and tended to side with the mothers, but he said he just prayed a lot for his children and for his ability to support them. He ended up with them permanently. Your situation can be different, maybe try to get a better lawyer. A lot of times if there is adultery involved it is very hard for that parent to get custody so I'm not sure what the circumstances are that kept your child away. Your ex-wife should not have gotten full custody if she cheated on you. That seems very strange to me.

I wish you the best. God bless you.

Answer 4

So, what does this tell you? Court system is a joke. According to TV reports in USA, if you have a million dollar to hire a lawyer to defend you, you have a great chance to get away with anything. If you don't, you end up in prison. It's all designed to take advantage of people like you and me and make some select group very rich. Welcome to new world order.

Answer 5

courts have ancient rules, and conservative justices on the supreme court

also conservatives fire 8 judges for unknown reasons whenever they feel like it

so they think of te Moms as always being the nurturer and all that. Even when they do crack and have 50 boyfriends.

its changing but slowly

80% of the time the mom gets custody, even if she's an axe murderer

Answer 6

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