Family & Relationships - 26 March 2007

My boyfriend never really hangs out with his friends. However, when we are mad he takes advantage and goes off and gets really drunk at a bar with his friends. His so called friends are not even good people to hang around with. He then spends a lot of money and ends up broke. What should I do to make him stop! I don’t drink nor go to bars I am a good Christian. It’s not right I don’t deserve this. We have been dating for 7 years I want to make it work, because he is not like this everyday. I dont want to be like him and we have talked about this several times. He say's he is going to stop and does it again in a few months.

2007-03-26 18:31:19 · 15 answers · asked by Stephanie 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

yeah. this is pretty much a free points question. but i like dancing like nobody's watching. yeah! and comments on that?

2007-03-26 18:30:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend never really hangs out with his friends. However, when we are mad he takes advantage and goes off and gets really drunk at a bar with his friends. His so called friends are not even good people to hang around with. He then spends a lot of money and ends up broke. What should I do to make him stop! I don’t drink nor go to bars I am a good Christian. It’s not right I don’t deserve this. We have been dating for 7 years I want to make it work, because he is not like this everyday. I dont want to be like him and we have talked about this several times. He say's he is going to stop and does it again in a few months.

2007-03-26 18:30:32 · 3 answers · asked by Stephanie 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, so we have gone out once a wk. Our first date was perfect, we had an excellent conversation, later saw a movie and then had a mini makeout session.
*Our Physical Chemistry has been Amazing on every Date.

Date 2 = Dinner, wine and a two hour makeout session... not too much convo
Date 3 = play mini golf, lots of physical contact, some flirting, no serious convo. make-out session
Date 4 = Coming up

Are make-out sessions consist of kissing all over the upper body, hugging, no sex, and touching... also playing with each other's underwear lines, but not going lower
No Oral as of now
He hardly phones me, it's mostly text messages via cell or instant messanger.
He'll ask me question I respond to and when I ask him, his are brief answers.. ex... how was Sat. Ans = Good... no detail
How do I get him to want to be exclusive??? I think he might be a player...

2007-03-26 18:30:27 · 23 answers · asked by coolchick 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-26 18:29:40 · 6 answers · asked by ujwal j 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-26 18:29:31 · 13 answers · asked by Sasi N 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I want to do something for a congrats. It can be to either just the "bride to be" or to the couple. I thought about a really cute wedding planning book or something, but one of them is having a Hawaiian wedding instead of a traditional wedding. What do you think?

2007-03-26 18:29:26 · 3 answers · asked by Brooke~* 3 in Weddings

My fiance and I are both grad students and would rather put $$$ towards a house than a huge wedding. We are thinking of having a small ceremony with only close friends and family. I'm thinking about 75 people, but no more than 100. We have been through so much and we don't even want people to know when we are having the wedding. We thought about going straight to our honeymoon location and just getting married there, but we don't want to leave the important people out of that important day.
So, we are thinking of just having a surprise wedding ceremony, but we don't know how to get people there w/o telling them its a wedding. We have to to tell his parents b/c his dad is going to marry us, and my brother is going to give us away, but thats the limit. We are not having any attendants. Any suggestions?

2007-03-26 18:29:06 · 6 answers · asked by kapy 2 in Weddings

i just received a letter today from the fsb that after 21 years they are closing my case...(all because i turned in some documents 3 weeks later than they wanted them...He still owes over 80K in back child support...He now lives in Alabama... I was told by the FSB that they were transferring my case to Alabama last April and just found out that they didnt... I called FSB..they wont talk with me..cause thay said my case is closed...Alabama says they wont take the case unless San jose transferred it cause im the cust. parent and not in that state...my state wont take it cause he doesnt live here.. I cant afford an atty...now what do i do???? He is a deadbeat and always has been...but it is the principal of it all...I dont feel he should just be able to walk...if he had done his obligation to his kids in the first place...he would not be in this prediciment...what do i do now...???

2007-03-26 18:28:47 · 8 answers · asked by susan c 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what should i get in writing from the girl i marry, so that she can't harass me using dowry laws later on

i am 24 very good looking boy & i am looking for a beautiful & homely girl even for a zero dowry as myself is self sufficient & self reliant & independent guy

i am asking this as i have seen girls misusing their rights & i am from a upper middle class family & my family is very simple & achhhe log. i dont want to put them in trouble, if i make a wrong decision in life. i am very strong fellow & i can manage her well, if i am alone, but thinking about my old parents, i get worried as to whether i should marry or not.

i dont think negative, but i am asking this as i believe in.......... PREPARE FOR THE WORST, BUT HOPE FOR THE BEST

2007-03-26 18:28:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Shes mid 60. Unmarried. No friends. Hates everyone. Says flowers are a waste cause they die. No clothes I have ever bought her does she like, even if she picked them and I bought them later. Also we live in different states.

2007-03-26 18:28:31 · 13 answers · asked by boppymoommy 2 in Family

Hi! I am a college student that is the first person up to give a speech in the morn. Heres my dilema..my speech is on a eulogy. No prob, except, my very most best friend died in a car accident 1 month ago. I have been going thru a lot and am having trouble dealing with her death. She was in the same speech class as me, and so was her fince..who is giving his eulogy over his best friend. Who, was also in class with us, and was killed in the same accident. So, I am doing a eulogy/tribute to her. But, I need to no if anyone has any techniques to amke this assignment easier. My stomach is ion nots thinking bout it. And, I'm still not over her death. But, it wont be the only eulogy done..I also ahve to har the other classmates, including the one of her fince best friend. Right now, I dont want to hear any eulogy, much less stand up in a class where best friand was..and talk botu her death, while facing that empty spot. Someone plz help, I'm an emotional wreck. plz, any thoughts or ideas?

2007-03-26 18:27:00 · 5 answers · asked by Alexis and Abbigails' mommy 4 in Friends

2007-03-26 18:26:48 · 13 answers · asked by snehesh 2 in Singles & Dating

Can someone who is unwilling to commmit to a relationship still have strong emotional feelings for another person?

2007-03-26 18:26:09 · 7 answers · asked by Debbie 2 in Singles & Dating

Its hard to tell him for some reason but I want to but that little voice in my head tells me not to tell him. should I tell him or wait for a little while (May 24 the last day of school)

2007-03-26 18:25:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-03-26 18:24:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, so now that lots of people I know are getting married I've noticed something. If a girl doesn't like her engagement ring she's told that she's "shallow" and should just be happy with the "thought." This ISN'T only for girls with small rings, either. Some got huge, gaudy Elizabeth Taylor-style sets from their guys who obviously didn't take the time to see what the chick's tastes were. I think that if I'm going to be wearing this thing on my hand for (hopefully) the rest of my life I should have at least some say in what it looks like. My boyfriend was taken aback by the idea that I would want to go with him to pick it out and he seemed sort of offended. Why? My parents did that and have been together almost 40years! And why do guys ***** about paying 2 mos salary for something you're going to wear forever when they pay more than that for things like speakers and crap! I even offered to get him a kind of "engagement memento" to make it equal. Why are we made out to be the bad guys?

2007-03-26 18:23:18 · 15 answers · asked by lauren 3 in Weddings

I am a divorced woman who met a guy 10 mo. ago. We were perfect together & our time spent together has always been awesome. Things moved quickly, he talking about our future together, moving in together, etc. Even when I went to Ca. to visit my friends, he flew down to see me over the weekend. I need to tell you we live 5 hours away from one another & he is married. He completely changed when he came back from Ca. Making excuses, avoiding talking to me etc. We got back together twice, & then he went back to ignoring me again. We finally had a phone conversation, to which I felt I had some kind of closure. 2 weeks later, he txts me telling me how much he loves me & is leaving his wife & wants to move on with his life (with me). 3 weeks ago, he flew me over to spend 5 days with him in his new apt. We had a blast & he talked again about "US" together, future etc. Well guess what?He is now ignoring me again. I am truly heart broken, but I know I need to move on!Why would he do this to me?

2007-03-26 18:23:00 · 9 answers · asked by s p 1 in Singles & Dating

One day I went to this pizzaria restaurant called Uncle Vinny's and I met this Italian guy who works there with his family, after he took my order at the register, he said "Thanks, doll." with his heavy Brooklyn accent. I thought it was sweet.

2007-03-26 18:22:22 · 19 answers · asked by Dreamyeyes 1 in Singles & Dating

there is this guy (nick) and he COMPLETLEY insulted me by calling me fat in difernt terms and i want to get him back. plus the fact he goes out with almost every grl he admitted it too but he still does it. i want to socailly destroy him but not let him know who it is little by little. any ways to?

2007-03-26 18:21:53 · 8 answers · asked by kate_lohse11 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been to a really complicated relationship. I have a bestfriend who's in a relationship. Her boyfriend is quite far from her, they just see each other for like once a month. And we were like together everyday. As expected, we fell for each other. I know its wrong to fall for a girl who has a boyfriend but then, we got carried away. We do things we SHOULDN'T do (you get the picture?). She told me she loves me but she loves her boyfriend more. So I did what's right and proper to do. I ended this unfaithful act and never communicated with her. Now Im confused, because I still love her and I cant seem to get over her.

2007-03-26 18:21:27 · 10 answers · asked by pride_vs_conscience 1 in Singles & Dating

I want to go to prom w/ a guy, but he doesn't want to go. A lot of people were bugging him about going w/ someone else and now he doesn't want to go at all. What can i do to get him to go and go w/ me?

2007-03-26 18:19:51 · 16 answers · asked by Leslie M 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back. We had a friendship that lasted 4 months. She got mad at me for a mistake I made which takes too much explanation and two months later she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I HAD NOT been talking to her since she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I thought things would be cool between us so recently for the 1st time I tried to talk to her. When I asked her how she was, she kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I told her I only wanted us to be friends again but she wasn't hearing me. She talked to everyone who came in the hall but me. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around." I left the hall. So, I'm moving on but 1st

2007-03-26 18:18:35 · 9 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Singles & Dating

Please rate them on a scale of 10.
1. Facial Looks
2. Intelliegnce
3. Dressing
4. Hairstyle
5. Bodyodour
6. Achievements
7. Financial stability
8. Creativity
9. Honesty
10. Built of the body.
Put them in your order of priority.

2007-03-26 18:18:29 · 4 answers · asked by Brave Heart 3 in Singles & Dating

child has lived with grandparents all his life he is 10 mother has been gone since she handed him over and the grandparents dont want the father around because they lie to the child that his father is no good and denied support from the father but wont get full custody of the child because they want to right him off on taxes and get government help.how do you get them to get custody because they will never give the child back and will never let the father spend time with him what do you do

2007-03-26 18:18:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Thanks to all you guys here i was able to listen to some advice about my fiancee that i had doubts about her cheating on me, and i said most of the things i learn here and we talked it over it and were doing actually better now,
Thank you.

2007-03-26 18:15:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My children think that I am searching for attention or thinking of killing myself when I attempt to talk to them about my death. I did go through deep depression a few years ago but meds took control of chemical problems. I only want to talk to them about the arrangements but they get angry. How do I talk with them about this issue?

2007-03-26 18:14:40 · 4 answers · asked by grannywinkie 6 in Family

W\hen looking or dating a girl. Do you go for A. the good girl/nice girl or B. go for the bad girl?

2007-03-26 18:14:23 · 21 answers · asked by Hot asain mama 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-26 18:13:19 · 1 answers · asked by jane 2 in Singles & Dating

People who have never been in this situation always say leave him but when you truly love someone its not that easy. I do believe he is sorry for what he did and our therapist said you have to forgive him for the hurt he caused you which I can do...I just can't seem to be able to trust or get over this emence anger I feel towards her(I have worked thru alot of the anger towards him)...She went out of her way to pick up a married man while his wife is out of town working...and she herself is a married woman with 2 kids..Also should I tell her spouse..I'm nosy and now I know all about her(alot of detective work)...Doesn't her spouse have a right to know that she may bring something home(std)????

2007-03-26 18:13:06 · 25 answers · asked by chocolatepanda 1 in Marriage & Divorce