I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back. We had a friendship that lasted 4 months. She got mad at me for a mistake I made which takes too much explanation and two months later she told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I HAD NOT been talking to her since she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore. I thought things would be cool between us so recently for the 1st time I tried to talk to her. When I asked her how she was, she kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I told her I only wanted us to be friends again but she wasn't hearing me. She talked to everyone who came in the hall but me. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around." I left the hall. So, I'm moving on but 1st
2007-03-26 18:18:35 · 9 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have an idea to slyly both recognize her birthday tomorrow (she'll be 17, I'm 17) and ignore her at the same time. The plan is:
(1) I won't say happy birthday to her or look at her
(2) I'll tell her friend(s) that I know it's her birthday, but if she says anything about me not saying happy birthday to her (which she probably won't)
(3) Then her friend(s) (who talk to me) Could tell her that I probably knew it was her birthday but I didn't say anything in order to give her what she wants and stay out of her life.
2007-03-26 18:19:00 · update #1
Isn't that what I said? I swear some don't understand what I'm saying. I am over it, I'm just recognizing her birthday and not caring at the same time.
2007-03-26 18:25:53 · update #2
Caring and not caring at the same time, it sounds crazy but crazy enough to get my goal across, which is to care from a distance
2007-03-26 18:26:53 · update #3
You know what, I think it will be easier if I just don't care. Otherwise I'm WAY too confused.
2007-03-26 18:34:09 · update #4
Ah, high school... I remember it well, and all the nonsensical emotions young people are drowning in.
My best advice to you is move on. *Really* move on, don't try some petty scheme to get her to notice that your not noticing her, etc. Someday you will look back at this time and wonder what you were ever thinking. Don't try to get revenge, don't try to get back into her good graces, just move on.
You sound like you're seriously crushing on this girl, but let me give some friendly advice: the whole 'friends' approach doesn't work. Cut the cord and move on. Ironically the only way you will ever have a shot at this chick is if you cut ties and really move on (not pretend move on but really move on). It will sting at first but you'll pull through just fine.
2007-03-26 18:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jazzi.
Acknowledge her birthday. I'm only 19, but I remember when I had a situation going on like you did, I prayed over and over the night before, that he'd acknowledge my birthday. Funny thing: he did exactly what you plan to do! (lol) Words cannot described how pissed, disappointed, and hurt I was. He later tried to smooth things over, but I never looked at him the same; from then on, we were, at the very most, casual acquaintances. I felt by him pretending that he didn't remember it was my birthday (and he did know because our b-days were days apart), he was being petty; I felt he was trying to play some mind-control game with me, and I was not having it.
So anyway...acknowledge her birthday. Give her card, a rose, one of those bears from Walgreen's...just show her you care. After that, if she doesn't make the next move, she's not worth it, find you someone better.
2007-03-27 01:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by SweetMahogany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm sounds over thought. why dont you just try to be friendly one more time and say happy birthday. maybe even get her something super cheap.like a small teddy bear or something. if none of that works forget her. the best way to do that would be to get some *** haha, fyi
2007-03-27 01:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by Derek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is punkish homey.
Don't say anything to her or about her at all. If you want anything to do with this girl you need to put her on ignore. Man up and act like she does not exist and she will come to you.
Women are mind readers. Anything you do, in her mind, is a plot to get in her shorts and they know this instinctually. You think you're being slick but she knows what's up.
Put her out of your mind. Get with another girl...whatever. This one is poison.....let it go.
2007-03-27 01:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're overthinking this. If you want to hurt the girl's feelings then completely ignore her. There's nothing worse you can do to someone besides ignore them. Don't say anything to her for her birthday and don't say anything period. Just ignore her not out of spite, out of respect for her and yourself
2007-03-27 01:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you WANT to acknowledge her birthday AND adhere to her wishes...
send her a white rose with a note that says her name, Happy Birthday! Sincerely, Your name.
Then let it be. If she chooses to communicate further, she will come to you. Don't push it, you'll only push her away further.
Did you ever apologize for whatever you did?
2007-03-27 01:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by HJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are passive-aggressive. I don't care what you say but you are. I understand where you're coming from but I don't agree. I'm happy to listen to your opinion but I'll never agree with you.... FA*GGOT.
2007-03-27 01:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get over it!?
2007-03-27 01:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Guten Tag! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sigh.
Just breathe, okai?
And don't try too hard...
nice plan though
2007-03-27 01:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Juliette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋