2007-03-26 18:29:31 · 13 answers · asked by Sasi N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1. first try to find out within your self how close is that person to you ? for eg. If its some one like your parent, your wife , husband or your child, or even your bestest friend… then I feel you cannot ignore his bad behavior so you are bound to feel bad about it as after all you are a human being as well.
2. NOW, If he is not that close to you for eg. is one of your relatives, colleagues, friends etc. then its so simple. You can put him a step backward in your list of closeness. You know what I mean ?? I mean that you can re – prioritize , you are free to take a step back ..do not give much importance to what he says or does. Do not feel hurt by his behavior. Its easier to ignore if you think the culprit is a crook… so think the same.. he is a crook.. who cares ..care a damn for him. You are the best and you have a life to live and people around you who love you and appreciate you.
3. NOW if the person is one of your parents, children, wife , husband , or your closest or bestest friend .. then I feel you need to talk it our with him. You need to tell him how much his words and actions are of importance to you. His slightest of rudeness / bad behavior / ignorance etc. effects you strongly. You can disclose that you are being effected only because you love him, care for what he says and cares for how he feels for you. I am sure we all are human beings and this person would be affected and would try to improve if he was doing all this under ignorance. HOWEVER, if this person is knowingly trying to hurt you then he would surely not improve. In that case you should talk to him about why he does this to you ? whats your fault ?and you guys can talk it over that how things can work out well. I think for you talking it out is the best… because for sure you can ignore… but first give it a try as the person seems to be important to you.
Hope this helps you. Thanks.
2007-04-02 20:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by RASHI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, first of all do not try to REACT to any situation or to any person. Because, reaction will not bring any positive change or response. Rather, it will hurt the person and break the relation.
So, try the alternative way of responding any situation, that is, PRO-ACTION.
1) Face the people who hurts you with a Smile on your fece.
2) Pause a while and take a long breath.
3) Get close to the person physically and say, "friend, i know you love me and you are concerned more about me. you are not such a person to hurt others easily. but, i don't know how you talked like that. it really hurts me. It's wounding. Don't you feel that. Anyhow, still I Love You dear."
4) Wait for the response. You will receive a positive response.
2007-03-26 19:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by gnana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You more suitable powerful supply this one a at the same time as, let her get well from the damage and tear .... i'd take issues actual sluggish from this aspect on as believe is a frustrating aspect to earn decrease back and make an apology for that. Telling her you want her would make her imagine that you sabotaged her previous relationship. TAKE a at the same time as
2016-10-17 21:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sibling who constantly says and does hurtful things
i try hard not to take it personal but I cant help it
i just dont talk to her that much
lately she has been wondering why I dont come around as often
2007-04-03 14:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by yfavenue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them and behave in front of them as though u r not at all hurted by their way of talk or act.
2007-03-26 18:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very tough,to suggest something without knowing the reason of such a behaviour bu ur close people.but best thing is ignore and stay cool.dont loose temper.
2007-03-26 19:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the person know what they are doing to you. It's ok to feel hurt or bad. But maybe they don't know what they are doing. If you let them know, hopefully they will stop. Good Luck.
2007-04-03 11:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by bluegirl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what friends do you can't call them friends. Friends don't abuse you
with their mouths. Something tells me that your friends know and don't care.
Find true friends, this bunch aren't. You are worth more than that.
2007-04-03 15:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them back in the same Coin.
2007-03-28 00:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by kzpc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite but ignore them.
2007-04-02 17:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋