My boyfriend never really hangs out with his friends. However, when we are mad he takes advantage and goes off and gets really drunk at a bar with his friends. His so called friends are not even good people to hang around with. He then spends a lot of money and ends up broke. What should I do to make him stop! I don’t drink nor go to bars I am a good Christian. It’s not right I don’t deserve this. We have been dating for 7 years I want to make it work, because he is not like this everyday. I dont want to be like him and we have talked about this several times. He say's he is going to stop and does it again in a few months.
2007-03-26 18:31:19 · 15 answers · asked by Stephanie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry but I had a good friend that had a relationship like this. She stayed with him ten long years, always telling people he will change, he promised to change, he will get help, this will be the last time.
When it was the last time, he got into his pick up and she went in the passenger side and tried to take the keys away. He managed to fend her off and they took off together fighting and screaming down the road. They were hit head on by a semi truck and killed.
That was when he stopped that behavior.
2007-03-26 18:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Rosanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
he goes there cus he needs things , he needs some fun , some grouping and the stuff , you need to be with him but dont be like that...and try to see what he actually want and why he ignores u and for what ? check out where he go what he do .. and why he dont listen u , if u can give him something so that he can forget those all things then its good ....cus to change some thing u have to make urself in that manner (jsut for changing ) go with him and check out all the reason of him to join them .
if u think u r a good christian and dont wanna go there , then just talk to him last time if he needs u and love u and really sincere with u then he will leave all the world for u. and u will get him other wise he is not made for u ....
from 7 years he is not listening u ........and only u listening him (accepting what he want) means just do something in this year and check him finally what he want nd what can he do for u ..... just think on it....
i hope u get all u want in ur life ... and may God give u happiness with ur love ...takecare bye
2007-03-27 01:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by $unny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. Why do you want to make it work with a guy like this?
There's not really much you can do. You can keep talking to him about it. As weird as this sounds. You can take him to a doctor. It might help your problem. Other then that, I'm not sure. Sorry. I really think that you, a good Christian, shouldn't be with a guy like this.
2007-03-27 01:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by W O N D E R S T I C K S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the poor guy alone. don't hate on him going out and getting drunk with his buddies its just his form of relief from you. all guys need relief from their girlfriends once and a while, especially during a fight. and by the way i come from a catholic school in a catholic town where we had a church and 4 bars so you tell the mob of Christians back home that it is unholy to drink. second of all isn't it kind of blasphemes to say that alcohol is bad or not christian cuz that wine in the sunday cup deffinitly isn't alcohol free. ya know "jesus' blood"
2007-03-27 01:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by wseedorff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for him. Ask God to intervene and release him to God. You can't make him stop doing anything. Loosen the reins, his first duty is to God, not your relationship. That is the reminder he needs. What does God's word say about drunkinness? What does God's word say about letting the sun go down in anger? The awareness may come from you, but the conviction needs to come from the Holy Spirit. God is more concerned about changing you first, not your circumstances. Pray for him and ask God to show you what YOU can be doing differently to be strong where he is weak.
And what does God word say about being yoked with an unbeliever? The word is your sword--your protection--use it.
2007-03-27 01:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by LisaLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have talked about this several times and it doesn't work. Perhaps leave him for a short while and see if he misses you enough to change. Sometimes that is what it takes. Good luck.
2007-03-27 01:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not likely to change a man. I'm sorry to be so pessimistic, but its true. I firmly believe, however, that God CAN and does change people for the better. Draw closer to God, and invite your boyfriend along.
2007-03-27 01:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Nels N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good christian then y r u 2 leaving together without marriage and 4 ur answer forget it wont change until u really put ur foot up is ***. for him to listen to u
2007-03-27 01:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by tina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you said you do not deserve this, i think you do no exactly deserve him! try to find someone that you want, someone who will try and be good for the sake of your love. i know it is not easy but 7yrs is not that long, than taking him for a life time with that kind of attitude.
2007-03-27 01:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Martinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to go out and have more fun. You are boring him with your holier than thou attitude. Get over yourself. Go out, have fun, and he will stop breaking out for a good time every now and then.
2007-03-27 01:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋