I've been to a really complicated relationship. I have a bestfriend who's in a relationship. Her boyfriend is quite far from her, they just see each other for like once a month. And we were like together everyday. As expected, we fell for each other. I know its wrong to fall for a girl who has a boyfriend but then, we got carried away. We do things we SHOULDN'T do (you get the picture?). She told me she loves me but she loves her boyfriend more. So I did what's right and proper to do. I ended this unfaithful act and never communicated with her. Now Im confused, because I still love her and I cant seem to get over her.
2007-03-26
18:21:27
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I've been to a really complicated relationship. I have a bestfriend who's in a relationship. Her boyfriend is quite far from her, they just see each other for like once a month. And we were like together everyday. As expected, we fell for each other. I know its wrong to fall for a girl who has a boyfriend but then, we got carried away. We do things we SHOULDN'T do (you get the picture?). She told me she loves me but she loves her boyfriend more. So I did what's right and proper to do. I ended this unfaithful act and never communicated with her. Now Im confused, because I still love her and I cant seem to get over her.
..i've been trying to move on for 4 months, isnt that long enough?
2007-03-26
18:43:19 ·
update #1
ooh..i forgot...she lives a few yards from our house and we are in the same building of the same university we're in..in short, we see each other around quite often. I wanted to transfer but I guess its not worth it, is it?
2007-03-26
18:48:08 ·
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You definately need to move on and step outside the situation and look at it. She is having her cake and eating it two. She has two men that she really cares about and that care about her and she has her choice of you two, but the two of you only have her. When you love someone it takes time, but you should definately move on with your life.
2007-03-26 18:32:32
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answered by kapy 2
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Dude im tellin u , in the end u are only gonna hurt yourself badly..You said u have done things with her and its very natural that u wont mind doing it again because she gives encouragement..Its tough to live a life where u like a girl n got physical with her and she likes someone else..Its not just painful but way 2 dangerous..My genuine advice..Stop all the communications with her right away and start on a new life..Easy said than done but I was in a similar situation and I did that and it helped ..ya its a different issue that my lifes again screwed up because that girl has again come back into my life and all the problems have started again giving me sleepless nights..Seriously dude just leave her completely and if she really loves u she will leave her boyfriend and come for you..till then..rock on..enjoy ur life..don think 2 much..
2007-03-27 02:31:41
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answered by Anonymous
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well i hope you find it comforting to know that you did the right thing. thats a pretty hard thing to do when you love someone. you both knew what you were doing was wrong. so that alone will help to get over her although it will take time. your feelings of heartbreak will not last forever to this magnitude as long as you continue the path that you have so rightly chose. if you want to at least keep a friendship with her you need to stay away from her cold turkey for a little while and when you can be around each other make sure you keep it on a friendly basis.
2007-03-27 01:32:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Well. I guess you could give it one more shot, just in case, and tell her how you feel. It sounds like she has already chosen her boyfriend over you though, so I don't know if there's much of a chance for you guys. No offense, and she was more guilty in this than you, but she probably doesn't want to be with a guy who'd be with a girl who's got a boyfriend. How could she trust you?
2007-03-27 01:31:50
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answered by Canadian Girl 3
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Okai, obviously, she loves her bf.... and this must be really hard for you because she's your BEST FRIEND. what you should do is just take some time off, and then when you feel comfortable again, [aka when you dont love her like that anymore] then talk to her agian.
its the best you can do...
2007-03-27 01:30:11
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answered by Juliette 2
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Try to ask her again if she still loves her BF more than you....
If she does, then tell her to be faithful to her BF.
If she doesn't, go serious.
See, your 4 months of recovering isn't working so try to talk to her.
Good Luck...
2007-03-27 02:10:54
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answered by smile 2
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dunno what to say dude
i feel ur pain
obviously she does love you
but whether it's as more than a friend is unclear
I Do Hope It All Works Out for U
cos as far as i can see
u deserve to be happy mate
2007-03-27 01:29:34
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answered by Jay Cee 2
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if she loves you, she´ll come back. if not, you´d better move on anyways, so why not start now?
2007-03-27 01:26:47
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answered by Anonymous
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I understand that you still love her..............but believe me its better if u stop thinking about her................she have a boyfriend............
2007-03-27 01:27:22
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answered by night_age_germany 4
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find someone else
2007-03-27 01:26:06
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answered by Anonymous
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