My fiance and I are both grad students and would rather put $$$ towards a house than a huge wedding. We are thinking of having a small ceremony with only close friends and family. I'm thinking about 75 people, but no more than 100. We have been through so much and we don't even want people to know when we are having the wedding. We thought about going straight to our honeymoon location and just getting married there, but we don't want to leave the important people out of that important day.
So, we are thinking of just having a surprise wedding ceremony, but we don't know how to get people there w/o telling them its a wedding. We have to to tell his parents b/c his dad is going to marry us, and my brother is going to give us away, but thats the limit. We are not having any attendants. Any suggestions?
2007-03-26 18:29:06 · 6 answers · asked by kapy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you are buying a house, call it a housewarming party, you'll get the same sort of presents.
if it was on one of yours birthdays then your anniversary would forever be on that ones birthday which i think would kind of suck.. but a housewarming, well it would be like really beginning your life together.
2007-03-26 18:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by zimba 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance and you are very conscientious and very smart, why spend so much on a traditional ceremony, when you can put the money into something for your future, like a house. Anyway, If I were you, I would invite everyone to a surprise party or an engagement party and get married at the place of your choosing....The only ones that need to be notified of course would be your future father in law and your brother, or anyone else that will take part in the wedding, I am sure they will try to keep it secret, so as not to spoil your day.
Congratulations, and best of luck to you both.
2007-03-27 01:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how or why you would want to treat a big day like a game. It doesn't have to be a secret or a surprize--why not set a date and have a casual affair--not a dress up occasion--but a picnic or an affair with some degree of honor and integrity. Make your own invitations---get 3 or 4 of those 6 foot sub sandwiches, find a nice park or casual setting---have a plan "B" in case the weather is not good. Local firehouse have a hall to rent?? American Legion Hall?
All your family and friends want to do is celebrate your day--and wish you luck--they certainly don't want to have some silly inane thing that just appears as if the marriage is no big deal.
Get a place--have some fun food--get a good stereo and nice music CDs and buy some BOX cameras. After dad does the service. pop the champagne and party it up. Good luck and have a nice life.
2007-03-27 01:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire you for being such sensible people. I have a niece who spent $8,000 on a big wedding then couldn't afford a down on a house.
Why can't you just let the guests know about the wedding? If anyone else asks afterwords, just tell them that you had to keep it small.
You also could go ahead and get married at the honeymoon site and then have a reception when you get back.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-03-27 01:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let people know you are getting married and that they are just invited to the reception . Mail out invites for a Saturday (for example) and then invite a select few to "the rehearsel dinner" friday night. Get married friday night very small, and then Saturday I'll already be married, and you've surpised the people you care about, and include everyone you want in the small reception.
2007-03-27 02:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by knhglassey@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy tell both sides of the family that you are having an engagement party or have a family reunion
2007-03-27 01:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Saundra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋