Family & Relationships - 22 March 2007

my ex left me three weeks ago and after he said he wanted to be friends so i said that would be fine we still run into eachother alot so i didnt want bad blood between us. but now that hes trying to get with some other women and is telling me to F*** off im kinda mad but still hurt. i still love this man very much dont really want to get back together with him but dont want bad blood. how do i talk to him? how do i stop hurting and move on with my life. there a guy i know that ive liked even before my ex should i try to get with him. one problem though hes my brothers friend. what do i do about all of this?

2007-03-22 03:08:20 · 10 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Singles & Dating

I have now confronted my wife of 7 years (4 kids) with her infidelity and we are in counseling. She is going to be on a trip for a week and a half with a Jr. High Group and one of our daughters. She is planning to get a inexpensive apartment to move into while she sorts out her problems and within the next three months begins to work with me to address ours. We still talk pleasantly, laugh, and parent our children. We support eachother and there is closeness there. However, she has had an affair. She has agreed to "No Contact" with the OM and is now getting a job. Obviously I feel like our future is very much on the ropes and I am not holding out much if any hope. However, all things being equal, I would rather reconcile and allow our children to be raised in a secure home. I am wondering what I need to be aware of while moving into this phase, how I should set and enforce boundaries and what I can do to insure the greatest chance at reconcilliation.

2007-03-22 03:08:04 · 9 answers · asked by findingselflove 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i call him regularly but he only contacts me after i do so.he says he is busy with exams.

2007-03-22 03:07:21 · 16 answers · asked by mellow 1 in Singles & Dating

I really tried to be "friend" with my ex as he wants that...But we ended up almost every time we met in the ....bed..We had very strong feelings for each other and very intense moments, so How can you be just friend???Thats impossible!!!
Im really gelous if he meet other girls...so that means I still love him???
He keeps tellling me Im so important for him ., bla bla, but we can not be togheder anymore...and every time we meet I hope we gonna get back togheder....Every time we end up arguying when we meet...
I think the only way to keep yourself stronger is to NOT see each otner anymore...What do you think, guys?

2007-03-22 03:07:15 · 12 answers · asked by Indra75 1 in Singles & Dating

I've agreed to meet this man off an online dating site; so I want to look decent but yet don't want to be "underdressed" for where ever we go, what should I wear?

2007-03-22 03:06:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I guy was interested in me for about 3 months.. he called me day after meeting, asked me out on a date the next day,etc.. excpet at that time, i was in a very bad place. i mean, the first date i was saying "i never want to get married" and all that dumb stuff.. he kept calling though.. and i kept that wall up. finally he said he's tired of my crap.. i marinated on it for about a week then i tried a few emails and texts explaining i was going through alot, but no response. i realize now just how much i really liked him and treated him that way bc i was scared to fall in love with him and get hurt.. we have a mutual friend(guy) that's going to try to help me out by talking to him a little first, then setting up for us to meet up.. question is, since he won't even talk to me, does that mean he must've really liked me and i really hurt him? if so, i feel so bad on both levels.. hurting someone and losing someone really interested in me..

2007-03-22 03:05:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

butter him out for supper on friday nights and when u get home say aha i was hoping we could spend a quite night toughter, but i guess the dishes are calling for me tonight. aha he says ill help u.

2007-03-22 03:05:42 · 14 answers · asked by patty h 1 in Marriage & Divorce

fool-weak-stupid
whats everyones thoughts

2007-03-22 03:04:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My sister is in a bridal party for my brother's upcoming wedding. The other bridesmaids, all from the bride's side, have excluded her from things from the beginning. Planning things and not telling her, ordering food and favors without her input, etc. All they wanted from her was her money for her share of the expenses. At the wedding shower they were talking about her (several of us heard them). My sister felt extremely annoyed and uncomfortable while at the shower and decided to sit at our family's table instead of helping the bride with the opening of the gifts. Now the bride is upset with my sister and doesn't even want her to be in the wedding. Was my sister right given how the other bridesmaids have been treating her?

2007-03-22 03:04:38 · 24 answers · asked by Kimmy 4 in Weddings

2007-03-22 03:03:43 · 7 answers · asked by lowroad 1 in Singles & Dating

i live in college and need a way to relieve my homesickness. how can i do this? i need to take my mind off of my friends and family cos i miss them so much!!! heeeeeeeeeeelp meeeeeeee!

2007-03-22 03:03:39 · 19 answers · asked by smegcheese 1 in Friends

I have a female friend who I find attractive and who is good company but because of several major differences in our goals (i.e. her desire not to get married and have kids) a real relationship doesn't seem like a good idea. How could I propose to her the idea of a "friends with benefits" type relationship where we could have sex, remain friends, and not have to worry about resolving our relationship type differences in the long run? Specifically, how do i ask her if she wants to have casual sex without seemingly like a sleezy guy?

2007-03-22 03:03:31 · 10 answers · asked by eshelmsc 2 in Singles & Dating

girl i usually see him with, when i ask him "who is this girl" he keep on telling me that she's his sister. After sometimes i discovered that she's his g/f, but when i ask him why is he lying to me, he said he's afraid i might not accept him because he's much in love with me. At a time he decided to leave the girl with some excuses, about some weeks ago when i get to his apartment which he invited me, i met this same girl. When i just entered the room the girl left. But remember that i didn't met them doing anything stupid, when i ask him why, he said she came to appologies but that he has been telling her her to leave coz his wife is coming, he now apologies to me that it won't happen again that he still cares for me. Now tell me, what do you guys and girls think about this? Please tell me something before i take any decision. Please help me out.

2007-03-22 03:03:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Cuz my new bf says I'm the only person on his mind. He lives like 15 minutes away from me, and he said he woul ride his bike ALL the way to my house which would take 4 ever!!! He IM's me A LOT so much that we actually run out of things 2 say. We've talked on aim for 10 hours straight one day!!! I think I may need some air at some point, it hasnt gotten that bad, but thats what I'm worried about. I dont wanna be rude and tell him to back off, so I'm kinda confused. My other bf's from the past were like this too, but not as bad. Please help!!!

2007-03-22 03:02:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my friend has this huge crush on this boy, they flirt alot, and she really really really likes him....but whenever my friend isnt around he will start to flirt with me and he will hug me and everything, some people think we go out but we dont, and i dont want to do anything that will hert my best friend, what should i do??

2007-03-22 03:01:18 · 21 answers · asked by babi gurl 1 in Friends

what is it?

i am really stuck hating my brother new wife ...and she is a nice enough person..seems to like him ..he seems to like her....i just cringe at the seeming young dynamic of thier relationship ...seems insular and shmoopy and babyish and disempowering. Probably it is all in my mind!

AND I know i know i know mind my own business! I AREADY KNOW THAT! Jesus!

2007-03-22 03:01:05 · 8 answers · asked by lowroad 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-22 03:00:59 · 7 answers · asked by horseladi78 1 in Singles & Dating

What do u think about them?

2007-03-22 03:00:38 · 20 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Singles & Dating

I can't stop thinking about this girl, being a writer I thought I'd put it in written form. We've become close friends really fast, but she's with someone, and so am I...so it can't happen.

Tell me what you think of the poem! Thanks

The Treadmill

Closer to me than my girl,
Telling me your secrets,
But I can't tell you mine,
A mirror of what I see,
She tells me she loves me,
And I'll say it back,
I never mean it when I say it,
Unless I am saying it to you,
You won't understand,
What you think you know.

Thoughts organized,
Things that need to be said,
Feelings you need to know,
Confusion leaves me in doubt,
When you pick up the phone,
I don't know what to say.
You may think it's make believe,
I think there's no need to make believe.

Someone else loves you,
We can never be together,
Too many loves lost for one gained,
Torture myself thinking of you,
Even when I am with her.
We shouldn't be friends anymore,
Back and forth,
Thinking of you,
The feelings I have,
Will never change.

2007-03-22 02:59:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Now, this is the situation...
It seems to me that theres a huge vibe at the moment regarding who is and who isnt a player.
How do I become a player? do I need to register somewhere or wear a certain kind of clothing? Once I became a player, how would I go about meeting up with other players, are there formal meetings? would I have to go door to door like a demented JW on crack? Things change so rapidly these days, it seems like only yesterday that my mum warned me that if I played with it, I would go mad or blind or something (Turned out not to be true).
Guitar player, football player, record player... where will it all end?

2007-03-22 02:59:18 · 6 answers · asked by fnqbigboy 3 in Singles & Dating

Sometimes I have asked dumb questions or repetive questions about something I have been dealing with mainly because I have been confused about it and wondering if I made the right decision about a guy friend. I don't believe he and I are friends now which is probably for the best. Thank you for listening. Have a great day!

2007-03-22 02:58:46 · 9 answers · asked by Sweet Pea 3 in Singles & Dating

...in bed

2007-03-22 02:58:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'm asking this question because something's bothering me right now and i don't know why....kinda wierd......

2007-03-22 02:58:32 · 4 answers · asked by Molly L. 1 in Friends

2007-03-22 02:58:18 · 21 answers · asked by jack_diam_01 1 in Singles & Dating

I have recently brokeup with my boyfriend. Well I guess it was a mutual decision.
And now I realized that I do love him more than anything. Should I tell him that? I offered him to be friends but he said he doesn't want to because being friends is going to hurt him even more.
I feel that this relationship is the best I had and I really want to tell him how I feel but I guess I'm just afraid of rejection.
What should I do?

2007-03-22 02:57:33 · 3 answers · asked by gabrielle 1 in Singles & Dating

i'm 15 and a dual enrolled student at a community college. last semester i took 2 college courses and was homeschooled 3 high school subjects, this semster i'm taking 3 college courses and being homes chooled the same 3 high school courses. my parents want me to graduate from high school with ma A.A. at the college. i don't want to do tat. it's too much work for me. for 11 th gradei just want to be homeschooled. none of this college stuff. i want to go to college when i get of college age. how do i tell them this? please help.

2007-03-22 02:57:31 · 5 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3 in Family

Girls now-a-days want to be treated like a princess, have their man fawn over them and treat them like spoiled brats, but when their man wants something in return, they don't want to do it for them. Guys and girls need different things to be happy. I'm at the gym and I hear these women complain about their husbands all the time, and these women don't work, their spoiled brats who are VERY well taken care of, and all they do is complain. What's the matter with the majority of women these days? Do guys treat them too well? Do we need to make them want more? I treat my girlfriend well, but make her want and things are good. I just realized this.

2007-03-22 02:57:09 · 17 answers · asked by KidBao 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my question is I have been married for 6 years. My husband had a child 2 years before we got married. Since the begining he has expressed his wanting a blood test for that child because `the mom is a whore. We moved to a whole nother state. We paid the child support every month and didnt get a blood test because she is also crazy. When we moved back to state we found out she had like 10 different things in his name so we had to go through a whole investigation and we were finlly clear of everything when they tracked that only her and her son according to her section8 lived at that address. We had to bring copies of leases ect... Than we were like bytch whatever its not about you we'll just see the kid. We began patitioning for a blood test than she finds out were having another baby. Our third and goes all crazy. Ever since she has been driving by daily. We had to change our numbers. We havn't even tried to see the kid for over 6 months because you cannot see him without her making it

2007-03-22 02:56:55 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs.Vick 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Two months ago, a friend of mine from high-school called to congrad me, cause she heard I've got married for some singer... The thing is, that man dated my mum when they were young!

2007-03-22 02:56:51 · 19 answers · asked by Nina Maria S 2 in Singles & Dating

OK everyone, I've been on a couple of dates with this guy and he already came out and said the words "I really like you a lot". But I havent heard from him in a couple of weeks. So I sent him a text saying "hey whats up? how are you?" and he replied "missing you. How are you doing?" But he hasnt called in about a month now? Why do guys send mixed signals like this?

2007-03-22 02:56:36 · 10 answers · asked by Bird 3 in Singles & Dating