What would you do?

Question

my question is I have been married for 6 years. My husband had a child 2 years before we got married. Since the begining he has expressed his wanting a blood test for that child because `the mom is a whore. We moved to a whole nother state. We paid the child support every month and didnt get a blood test because she is also crazy. When we moved back to state we found out she had like 10 different things in his name so we had to go through a whole investigation and we were finlly clear of everything when they tracked that only her and her son according to her section8 lived at that address. We had to bring copies of leases ect... Than we were like bytch whatever its not about you we'll just see the kid. We began patitioning for a blood test than she finds out were having another baby. Our third and goes all crazy. Ever since she has been driving by daily. We had to change our numbers. We havn't even tried to see the kid for over 6 months because you cannot see him without her making it

a big thing about her. WE found out she has an escort ad on eros.com we always knew she was a prostitute but now have proof that she is. I dont believe this is agood life style for her child. if we get a blood test that he is my husbands what can we do first to get full custody? she leaves him everywhere with anyone whenever she gets a call from a client. He has bad school attendance. How do we get a copy if we aren't on the emergency card? She has a boyfriend that is a known drug dealer and i feel so bad for the child. we hav eroutine and give our children love and guidance and i feel like hes alone

Also we tried to get a restarining order , but because she has lied baout him in the past they didnt take us seriosly. Im not scared of her, because you cannot believe a word out of her mouth, but I'm tiredof being stocked nad harassed and worried about this child. if he isnt my husbands and she has a bad life style could we still get custody? should we?

They companies took everything out of his name with teh proof they obtaine dbaout her address nad ours ect.. they rae suing her seperatly and the detectives said becasue we werent at a loss the companies arent still charging us than we couldnt do anything.

Answer 1

You can have the court order a DNA test if there is a question about paternity.

Also, print out her "ad" on the hooker site as proof. She may delete it and then you'll have nothing. Then, seek an attorney and explain what has happened.

She is an unfit parent and is harassing you. She had NO RIGHT making your lives miserable. Did you press charges against her for illegally opening up accounts in your/your husbands name? I sure would have!

Another thing. You can have the courts set appointed days and times to see the child. Keep a log of when you tried, but she refused. The more things you document, the better it will be for you.

Answer 2

You need to act fast before the welfare office steps in for one.. Because if they take him away you are going to have a hard time getting him back.. My question to you is have you talked with a lawyer? you can also do a paternity test through your local welfare office too, and I am sure she is on the system.. You should not go months without seeing him either just because she is a crazy nut.. If you video tape her most the time it dont hold up in court, you just need to get all the evidence you can on her, like her page printed out on the escorts.com or whatever it was..You can not tape her phone calls because without her permission it is not legal, if she calls you harassing you on the machine that is a different story so save those messages.. but as far as what you need to do, I would first and for most contact the welfare office and tell them the state of emergency that you are tring to get the child before he gets taken away, and see what they have to say.. I know this sounds awful, but anything is better then what is going on in his life.. and if he is not your husbands and he has been paying child support on him for this many years maybe he could adopt him and take custody, but I think to do that they have to get the real father to sign off on it..

Answer 3

Get the blood test first. Then if the child is your hubby`s then go for full custody. The mom is a whore and the boyfriend deals drugs? You shouldn`t have any problem at all. I don`t think they`ll give you any legal rights if the child isn`t your husbands unless he`s put up for adoption.

Answer 4

You need to get a good lawyer first and foremost. Check around to see if any lawyers in your area do free consultations or go through a referral system (the consultation fee may be waived or discounted). It sounds like your only recourse is going to be going through the proper legal channels. Your story sounds like a desperate housewives episode.
Try again to get the restraining order - talking about taking legal action may get the attention of the precinct you are going through. Get all of the paperwork in order documenting what you have gone through with your husband's ex and take it with you when you go to file. Try to go at a time when the precinct or office is not as busy as usual or arrange for an appointment with whomever you need to. They may have some other good suggestions for you.
Good luck.

Answer 5

Wow. I recommend contacting and attorney and document, document, and any legal copies you've been able to get ahold of, make copies of those. Any documentation you have to take to an attorney will help tremendously. Keep records of whom you've spoken with regarding anything she's trying to pen up in your names like accounts of any kind, (this is fraud and if she's caught she'll be doing some time) which she'll lose any custody of the child. Also document any conversations, threats behavior changes etc...anything you can't get your hands on , the court will =) Good Luck!!

Answer 6

yes the child needs you! make sure you document everything pertaining to the kid and the real mother,and see if you can get her on video doing the things that she is doing wrong, good luck to you all!