Family & Relationships - 21 March 2007

long story here ..okay i,m a 39 year old woman have looked after myself well and get told that i look quite fit and good for my age..i am slim and dress well..i am honest,loyal and think quite generous..so why is it everyman that i have met over the recent year happens to lie and cheat on me..am finding it very difficult to understand why they are doing this to me..is it me or are they not ready to be serious with one woman..am in despair as have just spent 5 months with a man only to find out i,m one of a few..well needs to be said am not with him anymore..but why are they doing this i am so hurt and confused by what is going on..
a man,s opinion would be good here but please don,t be horrid to me am fragile enough as it is

2007-03-21 22:41:37 · 32 answers · asked by hawthorn330 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-21 22:41:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok, so i know when a guy talks about a girl infront of you, he doesn't have feelings for you in 'that way'. Or if he does it is a poor reflection of his character.

But i know that this guy had really liked me, with out sounding cocky lol. Is it possible that he changed his mind about me, or is he playing games to get my attention?

(We both work together btw)
Yesterday he said to my boss," i got this girls phone number but i lost it, i feel like an idiot for loosing it."
My boss said you should just ask for it again.
"He replied yeah i should"
poor example i know lol.

i know that this guy struggles to open himself up to others, but how do i encourage him to open up to me? Or should i move on?

2007-03-21 22:40:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-21 22:40:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

hiya if i put a claim in to my insurance company for accidental damage to my phone - will they send me a new phone and could i still use my old phone ???
just wondering ??

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2007-03-21 22:40:04 · 8 answers · asked by sara2007 1 in Singles & Dating

met a guy around 9 months ago.We gelled & clicked right from the start we were like best friends as well as lovers while seeing each other.But i discovered over time that this guy was a classic commitment phobic. He use to say that all of his ex's were too needy etc but I actually think it was him as he is very immature & erratic for age 28!!. during the space of time he had messed me about with broken promises due to his inability 2 commit. I am trying to movin on as he hurt me so bad, messed me about. I don't ever call him! He is still calling me after 2-3 months. He called me a few days ago telling me that he misses me, my company,someone to liase & laugh with & asked me to come & see him so i went (no sex involved) He was just talkin to me saying that he does think he made a mistake letting me go as I would hav been very good 4 him, but still wasn't saying anything about starting somethin serious! he said he isnt ready 4 a relationship with anyone right now. But I have hate 4 him!

2007-03-21 22:38:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-21 22:38:02 · 6 answers · asked by charlotte 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-03-21 22:37:59 · 3 answers · asked by Green Valley 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-21 22:36:54 · 12 answers · asked by infernos_heart 2 in Singles & Dating

Please help me

2007-03-21 22:36:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My ex dumped me and his reasons were that he was unhappy and didn't feel the same way about but DOESN"T KNOW WHY. I asked him every possible reason things like he felt bored, did I not satisfy him emotionally or sexually, did he felt restricted and wanted freedom, did I change for the worst or is it something that does not involve me, only him like, does he want to be in a relationship, or does he still want to play considering he's 22, or if he found or fancies someone else every possible reason I could think of. But he denies all of it and says I don't know why I am unhappy but I don't feel the same way about you anymore. He admitted to pretend at the end that nothing was wrong which made me feel like a fool. All that time while pretending he was thinking about ending us. He also said that he did want the relationship to work and waited if anything changed but it didn't. What does this mean?

2007-03-21 22:35:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I shouldn't have loved this guy. He took my breath away. He stole my heart too. I know I really dont deserve a guy like him. But why is there still LOVE for him in my heart?I tried years to forget him. But not able to.Why?

2007-03-21 22:35:01 · 14 answers · asked by aNjAsMaRa 2 in Singles & Dating

i am 18 and recently one of my mates from school came to pick me up to take me to a friends party and out of no-where he gave me a ring! first of all i hardly speak to him and until 2 years ago i hardly knew that he existed. my friends have joked in the past that he likes me but i thought it was only for a laugh. wat does it mean when a guy gives u a ring out of no-where?

2007-03-21 22:33:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There's this girl I reall really like and she keeps giving me mixed signs like sometimes she looks @ me and smiles but there's just one thing she going out with my friend! What do I do??

2007-03-21 22:32:42 · 5 answers · asked by hassan_eire 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-21 22:31:39 · 30 answers · asked by pooja k 1 in Singles & Dating

I've been casually dating this girl for about a year now. She was with a guy who took her virginity when I met her and got pregnant, had an abortion and her whole world got kinda screwed up. Since that happened to her she keeps saying she doesn't want a relationship at this point in her life but we've still been casual. She knows that I want to "officially" make her my g/f and that I won't have sex with her until months after that happens.

We have both been seeing just each other for the passed few months but after the last time we made-out she got all weird and literally didn't speak to me for a month. We're hanging out again now but she insists that she wants to just be friends... but wants to still do all the intimate things we were doing before. Things are "ok" how they are now, but I want her to actually commit so I don't have to worry about her running off with someone else and know that she wants to be with me. How long should I give her and when should I just give up

2007-03-21 22:28:47 · 8 answers · asked by Somebuddy 2 in Singles & Dating

It doesnt happened now .its happen long back when i am in in plus 2 ie6 years back. she is my friend and also relative .she be always friendly with me. and she likes me also . but i am not sure that she loves me. so many things happened. we roam like any thing . after +2 i am searching for engineering seat. for that i didn’t talk with her for 5 months . after i got engineering seat. I went to meet her in my relatives house. every body is there .i went to talk with her but she didn’t talk with me she escape when i go close to her. from then she stop talking with me. she talk for formality. why she didn’t talk with me please answer to my question .not only girls boys also. but i want to know from girls asspecially.

2007-03-21 22:28:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I realy love this guy very much.

I'm 21

2007-03-21 22:28:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-21 22:27:08 · 18 answers · asked by Rebel EXtravaganza 2 in Singles & Dating

I filed for divorce and he already signed all the divorce documents and the court date for the final hearing is already set. Something happened now and we dont want to get divorced anymore...but the hearing date is set already.
Will it be canceled if me, the plaintiff dont show up?

2007-03-21 22:27:03 · 14 answers · asked by mteresara 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She has been with him for 6 years and her whole world is revolved around him. He started the abuse 3 years ago. The reason why she has'nt left him yet is beacuse he is the most important person in her life. She Loves him Soooooooo much and can't see her life without him. She is hoping that he will change and be like he was when they first met. In her head she knows what she shoud do and thats (Get the Hell out of there!) But her heart won't let her. I wish I could help. She showed up tonight at my door bruised and all her clothes were torn. I Just wish I knew what I could do to help her escape this Nightmare. Where should I go from here? Please if anyone has some advice where I should go from here I could really use it. I want this to stop!!

2007-03-21 22:26:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im sooo confused and torn. My brother has been friends with Sam for bout 10 years but I know Sam too coz we all grew up together but they are 3 yrs younger. Anyway recently we all started hanging out more and Me n Sam realised how much we liked each other! For about 6 months i really did ignore my feelings coz i know my bro wouldnt be happy with it! My brother found out that we kissed and told me he doesnt want me to see him again he's soo against it and basically isnt speaking to me and is kind of making me choose. I know this thing with Sam is a risk and i wouldnt bother if it didnt feel real! Were not kids we're like early 20's so it all seems totally immature having to hide wat we feel etc etc! I just dont want to lose my brother or sam! Its all the early stages of a relationship and its sooo perfect but i just wonder whether to end it now before it gets serious or just carry on with all the risks! I just dont want anyone to get hurt and want everyone to be happy!!!! Wat to do?

2007-03-21 22:25:36 · 19 answers · asked by zara 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My soon to be wife has initiated sex twice in the 4 years we've been together. About two months ago I sat down with her and maturely explained how much this affects me and that it is a really important issue for me. We talked about it for three hours and she compared this issue to a lack of romance coming from me. For the first time I really understood the importance of romance to her and ever since I have been REALLY working to be more romantic, writing her love letters, silly poems and sending flowers to her work, sexy phone calls and text messages. I'm even nice to her mother which is like pulling teeth.. NOTHING! I thought she truly understood, and she had made promises to be more active. Nothing has changed, and it seems like she is less interested in sex now more than ever. What gives??? I don't want to marry a block of ice!

2007-03-21 22:24:07 · 15 answers · asked by 65Cobra 2 in Singles & Dating

I was homeless and a friend took me in.
All I had to do was walk his dogs and keep his terminally ill partner company during the day. He paid for everything, food, cigarettes, beer, soda, utilities, haircolor... everything... and he did all the cooking and cleaning too.

Then I ran up his phone bill to over $1500.00 on collect calls from a guy in jail I was having phone sex with and hid the bill till he discovered it and it was already in collections

He threw me out and I don't know why.
Was it wrong to trash his house and take his air conditioner when I left?

2007-03-21 22:23:47 · 4 answers · asked by ? 1 in Friends

2007-03-21 22:21:46 · 9 answers · asked by nikita p 1 in Friends

I know everyone have this problem. My parents are the best but they always remind me of my mistakes but forgets theirs.They never accept their fault & always thinks that Iam arguing with them when Iam just explaining myself.At one time they want me to be smart& witty but at the same time they want me to be a quiet shy girl who know nothing.Sometimes I can't understand for what I may have done to get a scold for I get scold for something I have not done.PLEASE HELP!!! They abosulety confuse me & frustate me some times.

2007-03-21 22:19:48 · 5 answers · asked by Nadu 1 in Family

2007-03-21 22:18:25 · 2 answers · asked by dave 1 in Singles & Dating

My soon to be wife has initiated sex twice in the 4 years we've been together. About two months ago I sat down with her and maturely explained how much this affects me and that it is a really important issue for me. We talked about it for three hours and she compared this issue to a lack of romance coming from me. For the first time I really understood the importance of romance to her and ever since I have been REALLY working to be more romantic, writing her love letters, silly poems and sending flowers to her work, sexy phone calls and text messages. NOTHING! I thought she truly understood and she had made promises to be more active. Nothing has changed, and it seems like she is less interested in sex now more than ever. What gives??? I don't want to marry a block of ice!

2007-03-21 22:18:13 · 12 answers · asked by 65Cobra 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If you broke up with your ex would you try and make him jealous? Why?

2007-03-21 22:17:50 · 14 answers · asked by Sad 1 in Singles & Dating

I want my bf to be strong better man.and he says he would like me to give him good pressures on him. but i know he is not strong enough for taking it..because i think i am very strict...
guys how much can you try hard to be better for someone you really like?

2007-03-21 22:14:34 · 6 answers · asked by hippieflower 2 in Singles & Dating