She has been with him for 6 years and her whole world is revolved around him. He started the abuse 3 years ago. The reason why she has'nt left him yet is beacuse he is the most important person in her life. She Loves him Soooooooo much and can't see her life without him. She is hoping that he will change and be like he was when they first met. In her head she knows what she shoud do and thats (Get the Hell out of there!) But her heart won't let her. I wish I could help. She showed up tonight at my door bruised and all her clothes were torn. I Just wish I knew what I could do to help her escape this Nightmare. Where should I go from here? Please if anyone has some advice where I should go from here I could really use it. I want this to stop!!
2007-03-21 22:26:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Notify your local authorities and they will tell you what to do. This is serious and she cant keep going on like this, but since shes unwilling to iniate help then you need to do it for her. Tell her its only going to get worse and you fear for her. He definitely needs professional help and with it things could return to normal. No woman is a punching bag for any guy for any reason at anytime so help her. She will in time appreciate your caring concern and help. Also if she refuses,the next time she shows up at your place in that shape, contact the police and they can handle it once they see the physical damage. Good luck
2007-03-21 22:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After three years of having your good advice go in one of her ears and out the other, it's time for some tough love. As you said, she knows what she needs to do, but prefers to stay and fill your ears with her tales of woe. Then, when you are good and worried, she goes back to get abused some more. You can't make her do what's best for her, but you can stop enabling her. The next time she shows up at your door beaten up and bruised, say: "Sally, if you're ready to make a plan to leave him, come in, we'll have a cup of tea and make the necessary phone calls. But if you're not ready, I'm afraid I've heard all the sob stories I can handle. Please feel free to come back when you're serious about turning your life around."
2007-03-21 22:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be a good friend that you are and listen not necessarily do you have to give your advise. This girl obviously knows the difference between right and wrong. When that decission is to be made and when enough is enough she will know when to leave. Hopefully sooner that later. Perhaps she needs to seek some type of therapy for the drama that she has experienced. Let someone with professional knowledge help her out.
2007-03-21 22:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seriously needs to get out of the relationship. He is never going to change. What makes it worse is that she has let him do this to her for 3 years. Get her to contact the police and have an AVO taken out against him.
Let her know that he is NOT the most important person in her life, her friends and family are.
2007-03-21 22:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grab that friend of yours and beat some sense into her. Explain that it's for her own good and you love her and you will stop hitting her when she leaves him.
2007-03-21 22:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are ya waiting for? call the police when he's abusing her.
2007-03-21 22:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋