Why is there LOVE?

Question

I shouldn't have loved this guy. He took my breath away. He stole my heart too. I know I really dont deserve a guy like him. But why is there still LOVE for him in my heart?I tried years to forget him. But not able to.Why?

Answer 1

Nobody expects you to not love him anymore. Chances are you will love him for the rest of your life. That love may not end up being as strong as it was but it will always be there. What you need to do though is try and forget. It won't be easy. Everything will remind you of him for awhile. So get out, talk to friends and family. Email your buddies on yahoo answers. Keep yourself busy and just move on. Like I said its not easy but its necessary.

Now if I could only take my own advice.

Answer 2

He doesn't or didn't deserve a girl like you dear. If he did, he'd still be around. It's like wanting what you can't have...if you were able to see how things would have turned out for you if you two had stayed together, you really would likely say, whoa, what was I so into him for in the first place. If you lose someone and it isn't mutual it is much harder to get over that person . I had a guy like that in my life. I loved him but we drifted apart then came back together through a fluke of circumstances and we drifted apart again then the day after my second ex moved out that old flame found me via email through classmates.com and he and I have remained friends ever since. I thought at first we were meant to be together, after all fate had brought us together several times before so I took a trip from Arizona to Reno, NV to see him and he refused to see me for whatever reason. That gave me closure. I still love him as a friend and he cares about me as a friend so we keep in touch. However, I know that it wasn't meant to be as far as a loving healthly relationship so I was able to let go of that wish that I had been clinging to for many years (about 25). I hope that helps.

Answer 3

Love is a very strange emotion to figure out. I don't think anyone has truly succeed. The best answer I can give is. We are born to love. It's who we are. It's a part of our every day lives. It's the ones who are taught to hate I really feel for. Because If you have hate in you're heart you can truly never love. It is better to love and lost than to never have loved at all. You will always (for the rest of you're life) Have a spot in you're heart for this boy. It will never truly go away. And it shouldn't. Because now you have a Basia's on what love feels like so the next time you find it you will know...Love is both wonderful and terrible at the same time. For love fills you're heart but only love can tear it apart too.

Answer 4

When love offered, is rejected. It cuts like a knife, deep and cruel. Whether the object of your effection intends it or not. You made your heart a gift for him to accept. A gift refused, is not deserved. Not because he's bad, because he saw no value in your gift. If he changes his mind, it's his obligation to convince you, if he really does deserve your gift at all. You need time and distance to heal, and resolve to go on. Don't waste your time on some-one who may never come around. Wait till your healed and strong enough to get back in the game. And avoid the rebound date. You don't want to be used by some one who see's you're vulnerable, and takes advantage of you with a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on. friends would be very good right now. I'm very sure someone will come along to fill the void in your life. You can waste a lot of your life waiting for some one who's not there for you. The world around you now feels like a crumbling heap, but it will get better. And your wounds will heal. Trust me on that. Don't let life pass you by, being crushed by the wrong guy.

Answer 5

Time, time, time! Time is a great miracle worker, girl. I was in love with my ex-boyfriend for years after we broke up. Worse, we spoke on the phone fairly regularly after the break-up. So, i was trying to be 'oh, we r just friends', but in my heart, i knew all i really wanted was to get back together with him. And whenever we met, we slept together (twice), so i was completely whipped, because there clearly wasn't anything between us - apart from occasional sex & calls. So, i couldn't move on with my life. No other man compared to him (in my mind). Until the day i woke myself up. All the things i was doing wasn't getting me any closer to reconciliation, so i started concrete efforts to detach myself from him. In 6 months, i could almost say i was totally over him - that was when he wanted us to get back together. Maybe the emotional distance i gave him helped him making up his mind. The problem was, i was no longer interested. He tried everything he could to get me back, but the more he tried the more irritating i found him (i suppose that's how he felt about me all those times i was so intent of being close to him though things had ended). The good news was that I had met another man i prefered. Today, he says i turned him off women & made him doubt 'real love'. Ha! So, girl, give him a break. Though, it's probably kill you, but try to give him so space. You'd find yourself over him in a shorter time than when you are all lamenting over the death of the relationship.

Answer 6

Ok your going through what I went through hun, it gets better believe me. You dont regret loving him hun, your just hurting cause he doesnt love you back. Its not about deserving to love someone or not, really its just bad timing thats all. And trust me hun, your time will come you just gotta be patient. Patience is a virtue, If its meant to be it will happen.
Email me, cause I went thru the same thing as you, but ive passed that now and Ive never been more grateful 4 him since the day I met him.

Answer 7

I was in the same boat wuz totally in luv with this guy dated 4 few months whipped that thang on me had seen each other in 5yrs finally meet back up couldnt have been more better dated in 1991 hooked back up in 1997 had child in 1998 married 2005.An i lovein everyday of it.

Answer 8

Get an asthma pump, go to see the wizard of oz and get your heart back, because it is over. If you can't move on something might be wrong with you.... obviously he don't want you cause he is not there. So get the sluttiest outfit possible, get with your girlfriends and go out and meet someone else..... before you start boiling rabbits and peeking through his window

Answer 9

The world's greatest wisdom traditions say that love is the ultimate reality of existence. In human romantic relationships, the more we strive to reflect that divine,universal love, the more harmony and freedom we will have with our partner. REAL LOVE has no agendas, no attachments, no ideas, no demands and NO CONDITIONS. these are all things we add to the experience of love, which begin to contaminate our love, and which also begin to confuse us about what love is. Real, uncontaminated love has one simple agenda: TO LOVE
There is love because if there is No Love how did you grow up with parents who take care of you?
I understand that when you fall in love , your brain releases a hormone that does something to ur body.

Answer 10

You aren't allowing yourself to forget it, get over it and past it all and you are obsessing in your mind about things whether you realize it or not...You haven't moved on emotionally yet it seems..
...how do you do that?
noone can answer that but maybe a professional or you of course...
perhaps meet new and interesting people and find someone to share your emotions...
get interested in something , anything that will involve your mind...
check out some churches...