I dont know how to deal with people .I 'm basically a shy girl and dont have much friends?

Question

Please help me

Answer 1

Hi anju this is the best way to make friends just be cool nsay hi and give a pleasent smile u know u need not pay for smiling a bit its free dear .and join a presonality devlopment class .finally dont forget to make me your friend okey (i also faced same prob some years back just mail me back dear friend)take care

Answer 2

The best way to get rid of your shyness, or at least have it under control, is to get out and just BE with people. Are there any clubs at school/your community that you're interested in? Join them! Clubs, bands, and volunteering are great ways to meet people. The best part is, you'll already share an interest with them, since you've all signed up for the same thing.

When you see someone you know (like a classmate), smile and say hello. Smiling shows that you like that person (or at least, don't dislike him/her). If you see someone sitting or standing away by him/herself, walk on over and say hello. Make a comment about something ("I can't wait for Spring Break"), and pretty soon you'll have a conversation going.

A final thing to keep in mind - it's OK if you never become the most popular girl around. It's OK if you never have more than a few very good, loyal, and trustworthy friends. Heck, none of us have more than a handful of people we really trust and discuss our deepest thoughts with; not even the socialites on TV. What's more, sometimes you have to learn to accept yourself and your own personal quirks that make YOU special. Remember - the first step towards befriending others is befriending yourself.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I am a shy girl also. But i just get out there and start up a conversation with people. i started to work where i am always in front of people and have to help them out so some of my shyness is going away and i am making new friends. you should go some place where there are a lot of people coming to ask for help and you'll see you will make friends. look you already have a friend, ME!!!!

Answer 4

hi ther,
its ok to be shy, even i was a very very shy person and to some extend i still am. But dont u worry pumpkin life has its own ways to teach u things which are still not learnt and heardof. First of all be in love with ur self and then love the world. Its not tht perfect the world, but hey its the only 1 we have.

Answer 5

aw honey, maybe you're just not in the right environment.
what are your interests? think hard on this one. try to join a group that relates to this.
do not worry what others think of you--everyone is self-conscious to some extent! I'm shy before I know someone well, but once I get to know them, I can make friends easily.
just get out there; don't worry--there's nothing wrong with you. we're all shy sometimes.
have fun!

Answer 6

I'm in the same situation. But the only way you could have friends is overcome your shyness, insecurities and other worries and feel at ease. Try to be nice and helpful (but not too helpful) and always smile. Be welcoming to people. That's a good start. I tried it and it worked.

Answer 7

First of all you need to get in touch with your inner self. Who you are on the inside will reflect into your outer areas of life. Being timid and shy will eventually wear off when you overcome your inner fears and jump into life and start living.Do not be afraid , their are people trying to be your friend, all you have to do is let them in!!!!

Answer 8

I used to be a shy person in Highschool and now I open up more. Just be yourself people will like you for who you are. Break outta that shell and mingle with people you are bound to find someone that thinks you are a GREAT person. I will be your friend :D

Answer 9

Don't be shy you are wonderful person, and don't try to much to think of what other people think about you. Your imaginations and fantasy will make you nervous and shy. When people talk to you talk back, but don't think too much, 'oh...what should I say, etc...'Be yourself, that's all...smile to you shy girl

Answer 10

this might be weird to you..but,it will help you overcome your shy ways..play hip hop musics in your room..i would prefer, the 80's hip hop jamzzzzzzzs..like "JAM ON IT" by newcleus,"every body dance now" by c&c music factory,and"BOOM SHAKE THE ROOM" by dj jazzy jeff & fresh prince...there are many songs from the 80's that are good thou...but,these songs will open your inner feelings to come out from within..just get into the groove and feel the BOOOOM!! :-) make sure your are dancing in front of the mirror..you don't need to dance hard,just sway your body slowly and keep smiling at your reflections from the mirror...after that talk to yourself about what you like and what makes you laugh about?...feel free to talk to yourself..talking to yourself is a good way to practice your communicating skills..also,make different facial expressions,like grinning,joyful smiles,and a surprise smiles....and..one last thing to help overcome your shyness..go to the mall and find a guy that is working in the store and ask about the popular items they are selling,and ask what make the people like the items...just smile softly and be calm....there are other ways to overcome your shyness....but, i am sure you will open up later on....ok shy now....later on....miss social lady>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>smile :-)