met a guy around 9 months ago.We gelled & clicked right from the start we were like best friends as well as lovers while seeing each other.But i discovered over time that this guy was a classic commitment phobic. He use to say that all of his ex's were too needy etc but I actually think it was him as he is very immature & erratic for age 28!!. during the space of time he had messed me about with broken promises due to his inability 2 commit. I am trying to movin on as he hurt me so bad, messed me about. I don't ever call him! He is still calling me after 2-3 months. He called me a few days ago telling me that he misses me, my company,someone to liase & laugh with & asked me to come & see him so i went (no sex involved) He was just talkin to me saying that he does think he made a mistake letting me go as I would hav been very good 4 him, but still wasn't saying anything about starting somethin serious! he said he isnt ready 4 a relationship with anyone right now. But I have hate 4 him!
2007-03-21 22:38:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He still trys to call me to see how I am and how my new job is going etc, and also trys to call me with advice about his job and said that he misses me and wishes that we were still talking! but I have decided to change my number as I can't even stand him for the way he messes me around in the end!! Am I right to feel this way! please genuine answers thank you!
2007-03-21 22:41:27 · update #1
hate, i dont think you should hate. that would make you a hate-r. annoyed? yeah, id be annoyed too. but thats how some guys are, and i dont think that guy is for you. move on and forget about it. not worth even thinking about...
2007-03-21 22:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by evo25zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hating someone is a stupid waste of time. It changes nothing.
You should however be annoyed, but at yourself rather than him. He is who he is - a commitment-shy user who will take what he can while giving as little as possible in return.
You, on the other hand, have figured all this out about him, know that he is a waste of space, and STILL come running when he whistles. Never mind that there's no sex involved, as long as you are still accepting phone calls from him and going to see him to talk, he is keeping you securely anchored to the past.
Don't you think it's time to cut him off and move on into your future?
2007-03-21 22:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing with your head and heart! I would throw this fish back and try not to hate him. He's just a selfish immature little boy. Real men do not behave like he is. I would not even answer the phone. Let is go to voice mail. His age doesn't denote anything, except that he's a jerk.
You sound like a good woman who deserves someone equally grown up.
However, I believe it's better to be angry than sad...so feel whatever you need to to steer clear of him. You are really being protected...so try and be grateful..and stop answering his calls, okay?
2007-03-21 22:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him. guys that aren't ready for commitment when you are and says this kinda stuff probably aren't serious. he might have said those things to some other girls too... move on,you deserve so much better.
2007-03-21 22:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Felicia C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you always have a right to your feelings and should not question them. but do not let him bother you so much. IF he is really out of your life, then forget him! good luck
2007-03-21 22:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say why not just tell him u r sick of him messing with your mind and u really dislike him now and u need him OUT of your life
2007-03-21 22:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by melodym28_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't hate him, you both want different things thats all, and if you do hate him, don't take his calls anymore. You can't change his mind I guess.
2007-03-21 22:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by beatch38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a shame you feel that way but that feeling has to be for a reason so i would let that guide you good luck
2007-03-21 22:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by creme8888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get over himself first before leading you on again. your feelings are not like tennis balls that bounce back and forth as he likes.
2007-03-21 22:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate or get annoyed. Just ASK HIM TO GO!!!
2007-03-21 22:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋