Family & Relationships - 9 January 2007

I'M 18 AND THIS IS MY FIRST YEAR IN COLLEGE. I DON'[T WORK DURING THE SCHOOL YEAR, BUT HAVE SUMMER JOBS TO SAVE MONEY. I WANT TO GET MY OWN PLACE BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL BAD BECAUSE I PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE ON MY BOYFRIEND TO DO IT. I GUESS HE'S AS FRIGHTEN AS I AM. HE AND I PLAN TO MOVE OUT AT SOME POINT, BUT NOT SURE WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. MY PARENTS MOVED OUT WHEN THEY WERE 20 OR SO... IT KINDA FEELS LIKE THEY CAN BE PUSHY AT TIMES BUT I'M JUST A LITTLE FRIGHTEN TO FALL FLAT ON MY FACE AND NOT BE AS PREPARED FOR WHAT MAY COME AHEAD. ANYONE HAVE ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FIRST MOVE OUT? HOW TO PREPARE, ADJUST, ANYTHING?? THANKS

2007-01-09 18:41:08 · 15 answers · asked by root beer float 1 in Family

back to the guy i want to have fun with who is married and who is my co-worker.i dont want to get pregnant but i think he doesnt mind if i do.i asked him before why he didnt have kids with his wife and he said because he didnt think he would make a good father but now it seems as if he doesnt mind having one @ 40

2007-01-09 18:41:06 · 5 answers · asked by laylee 1 in Singles & Dating

How do I break up with someone with whom I have just had sex with for the first time 2 weeks before, who has also become very, very, VERY attached? without hurting her feelings? it is because I have found another girl who I am very attracted to, who is awesome, just absolutely amazing, who i met 4-5 weeks ago, and we have been spending some time together, who is also very attracted to me. please help!!!

2007-01-09 18:38:36 · 15 answers · asked by Ninja 2 in Singles & Dating

What would you do,
If I said I love you?
What would you say,
If I asked you to stay?
What would you do,
If I smiled at you?
What would you say,
If I went away?
What would I do,
If I never found you?

2007-01-09 18:38:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Where does a thick, but not huge, girl go? I'm too big for guys that like thin girls, but apparently not big enough to get any interest on sights for BBWs. Otherwise, I'm decent looking, educated, employed, responsible and think I have a lot going for me. (Of course I'd rather avoid the whole internet dating thing, but I just moved to a new state and work from home, so opportunities are limited!) Any ideas?

2007-01-09 18:37:28 · 12 answers · asked by afling78 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 18:36:51 · 10 answers · asked by sohini 1 in Family

how can i change my ways and help others and try to gain trust back inna realationship?? i mean i've been sick for a week now and i'm wanting her back....

2007-01-09 18:36:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have had this reacurring question in my head for a long time. It's lingerie season (after christmas, using your v.s. giftcards, indoors alot etc.) I would like to hear from the women (and men too); where is the best place to change? In front of him? In the bathroom? make him leave for a minute? I know the other option is to surprise him, but that's the hardest to pull off.

2007-01-09 18:34:13 · 7 answers · asked by redebeth 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-09 18:33:07 · 14 answers · asked by dev 1 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend of four months just broke up with me 4 days ago. idk why ! i thought he loved me. we were so close. we saw each other like everyday. i even met his whole family . this break up is really hard for me because i lost my virginity to him (but that was like 2 months ago before he broke up with me i don`t cry or anything - ppl think i`m already over it, but honestly; i`m not. i just put a smile on my face & hide the pain. now that i think of it, i think he just used me to get in my pants. idk why he would break up with me! ... he used to tell me how much he loved me and how he would never leave me. i kept calling him baq but he didn`t want to talk so i just let it go. than when i went online he was telling me some stuff like how he had sex with his gf and alot of other girls while he was with me. it really hurt me -i made it seem like i didnt care but i did , i was heartbroken. i never knew a person i loved so much could make feel like nothing in such little time.i`m so hurt

2007-01-09 18:32:07 · 8 answers · asked by s0hurt 1 in Singles & Dating

and he usually asleep in the recliner so I wake him up and tell him to go to bed, he says I will, but falls asleep again I wake him over and over again and maybe 2 out 50 times a night of me trying to get him to go to bed he will- I have been doing this for a lot of years and I finally got tired of it and only wake him up a couple of times and if he doesn't go to bed I leave him in the chair- then when I get him up to go to work he yells at me for not making him go to bed- how do i change this situation before I lose it and go ballistic all over him???I tell him I woke him up and he yells "NO YOU DIDN"T" and I can't convince him otherwise- I have tape recorded it so he will know it is true but he won't listen to it! I feel like a freakin' parrot- "---- get up & go to bed"-- and 6 hours later" ----get up and go to work" It is insane and making me this way!!

2007-01-09 18:30:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-09 18:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Got my first girl, at age 20, i've never been kissed. We gone out once, talk on the phone all the time. When's an appropriate time to kiss?

Cuz this my first girl, and she has a son from a previous relationship, i want to move slow.

2007-01-09 18:29:43 · 14 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Singles & Dating

I have put up with this abuse ever since I was 9. It started out with slaps, now its with the pulling of the hair and being kicked (I'm now of the age 14). The mental abuse does not phase me much anymore (where as she says I'm useless, fat, stupid B****, or mean to my syblings in such a way she feels that there something wrong with ME! I have become an empty shell overtime. Though my friends (most of them) know what a physco she is (but don't know how bad the abuse is) Inside I am crying to be with my loving father (who I have not heard of in two long years). Sure my step-dad is a good respectful man, but he has not even scratched the surface of what she has been doing. I do not trust anyone (not even my dearest step-sister who is also abused mentally but to the minumum (sp?).) When I look at my younger half-brothers, I gag knowing they are the seed of that...monster. I am too smart to be thinking of cutting myself.Lastly I ask you to please do not pity me, I only ask of help.

2007-01-09 18:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by Jenna E 1 in Family

just keyed my car and busted my windshield after she broke up with me last night! she threw a lamp at me hitting me in the shoulder, I didn't do nothing wrong all I did was sleep with her best friend in my girls bed while she was gone and then she left me too, why is she doing such things!!!?

2007-01-09 18:29:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

look, my bf has a friend.they help each other to make a home studio, but he gets into our life now............i guess he is giving my bf advice about us, too.............i'm sick of that....everytime he hangs aout with my bf, he doesn't call me or if he does it would br too short...............i get mad at my bf and he says: u always want to argue with me.this makes me feel he doesn't love me and feel he does not pay attention to me............i love my bf and i don't want to lose him.......i don't know what to do??? u think i expect him to do much for me or he doesn't do his duty about me?

2007-01-09 18:28:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I've only been married a little over 3 yrs to my husband.Before we started going out I knew he was a drinker.He called one night & said he would like to date me.Well I told him I liked him but would only see him if he quit drinking.He said he would, he didnt have a drinking problem.Well, I believe he does.It's a cycle with him. He will start by making excuses to drink.Like holidays,birthdays, then "it's summer".I say something to him about it,he quits for a couple weeks or so,then it starts again- more often.Every weekend, then during the week.Also he calls himself a "lazysexual".He's too lazy to have sex.His ex wife left him cause he didnt put out.He's not abusive to me or my son I just dont want to put up with a drunk .So, I'm thinking of leaving him & moving to Florida.I do still love him but I know he just can't stop drinking & start making love more.I have a son through another marriage who will be 18 in a few months so no guilt about that part.I will wait til he turns 18 though.

2007-01-09 18:26:04 · 25 answers · asked by lookin4answers 2 in Marriage & Divorce

The guy I have been dating long distance for about 7 months had a disagreement about whether we should be in a committed relationship or not a couple nights ago. We are a 5 hour flight away and can only see each other about 3 or 4 times a year, although I have a job about 1 hour from his city lined up for a year from now (whether we are together or not).

Well, the distance has been a hard factor in the relationship and we ended the conversation pretty poorly and from the sounds of it he is really frustrated and I don't know if he is interested in pursuing me anymore. I know that we aren't going to be in a relationship right now, but I kind of want to at least keep the door open because I really like him and you never know what will happen in the future.

I have thought about an e-mail that just says something like I would like to keep communicating as friends, and whatever happens, happens. Do you think this is a good idea or is there a better strategy?

2007-01-09 18:24:33 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

We been together for two years.He snaps at me when I ask him a question.He gives me dirty looks.He's even flirting with another women, the way he use to flirt with me.It seems like he only likes me when we have sex.He can't even look at me when I try to talk to him, and he always yells at me.Does he like me like he says he does.Why doesn't he just leave me alone.

2007-01-09 18:24:29 · 8 answers · asked by cache2u 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 18:24:25 · 7 answers · asked by BRAINS! 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-09 18:22:59 · 9 answers · asked by dev 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 18:22:14 · 18 answers · asked by lillleo29 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We are coworkers and I gave her a nice compliment saying I enjoy being around her. She said "that's so sweet." So as I left she went and asked one of my coworker friends if I had a cursh on her. My friend said yes. She said well I think he's cute. My friend told me she thinks i'm cute so I went and told her that I have a crush on her. She said "that's so sweet. She gave me a hug and after we hug I told her I would of told her sooner, but she you have a boyfriend. She didn't say anything about that really. So the next day she starts to flirt a lilttle. I didn't flirt back because she has a boyfriend.I gave this girl this letter well here's what it said When we first talk and after the conversation was over I started to like you. So everytime when you talk to me I get butterflies and feel tigly inside. Also when we make eye contact I get nervous. That's why you see me not making too much eye contact with you. I enjoy your company. I still have a crush on you.When you told me you might get another job I was sad. You're such a sweet,kind, and caring person. Your very pretty.You have such a beautiful smile and it makes me smile too. You have pretty blue eyes. I can't stop thinking about you. Your always on my mind. If you don't like me the way I like you. I'll understand and we can just be friends.
I gave it to her 2 weeks ago and when I saw her the next day she didn't say anything about it. But she was receptive she gave me a big smile and I was too stupid to do nothing. I was kinda down that day and really didn't feel like talking. Anyways I didn't tease her back or flirt with her back because she has a boyfriend. I played it cool and kinda ignore her I just wasn't in the mood to talk. And she knew that. Anyways she thought I lost interest in her so she said "You don't like me anymore" and walk away fast and look back at me and smile at me.When she said that I knew she kinda like me. She knows I still like her, but she has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend makes her come into work crying sometimes. I don't know why she stays with him, but she does. Anyways she didn't say anything about the letter still. She show all her co-worker friends the letter and told them I like her. She never told them that she likes me. I gave her a christmas present. It was a glass angel. I also wrote a note to her this is what it said. "If I could talk to angels, I'd ask the one who watches over you to make sure you always know how much you mean to me and how much your kindness has touched my heart. May you be blessed by the Lord. The maker of heaven and earth. May he watch over you and bless you with good health and happiness always. You're a wonderful person and a very special friend and today just seemed like a good time to tell you so. This gift is the angel of friendship. She reminds me of you. I hope you have the best christmas you ever had. I hope you are well and smiling. She was about to cry after she read it. I told her not to and she gave me a hug and that was it. She talk to friend and he told me what she said. "Well she like it, but she didn't want it because her boyfriend would be so mad at her for accepting it." She didn't give it back to me, she left it in the front office and told the manager about the situation. She told him that I like her and treat her different than other girl employees and she feels uncomfortable around me. And told the manager she just wants to be friends with me. She did keep it after she clock out of work. So this past wednesday I was walking near her and the manager and she thought I was walking towards her, but I wasn't she walk away pretty fast in a different direction. So we both ignore each other that night. And havn't seen each other since. Her coworker friend said she talks about me, but nothing negative. I think the manager question her about the angel when she brought it in the office and that's why she told him. Were both in our late teens. Some of the girls that work there are jealous of her. I guess it's because the manager saids to the other girls "If there were more girls like her are business would be alot better." He said that because she is really nice to the customers.
She flirts with customers at work. But, aren't all girls like that and don't mean anything when they flirt with them. She doesn't do it alot just sometimes. I guess she does it because she see's the other girls doing it at work. The girls call her a s.l.u.t. and a w.h.o.r.e.
I haven't seen her at work in a week. The managers tried calling her, but she hasn't answer the phone. There thinking she quit. She miss three days so far. I go to school with her, but I haven't gone in 3-4 days, but i'm going tomorrow. Do you think she's testing me to see if I really care for her and wants me to chase her and tell her this tomorrow? What do you think? I really do like her. I'm so confuse hear are some of the answers I here earlier.

1. FROM Y2K---" Dude go rescue her from her controlling boyfriend. She likes you go chase her. I think she scared of what her boyfriend might do to you. Fight him you can take him."
2. FROM Dipti---" let her go...she's not worth it, and she's taken"
3. FROM Roxy Girl--- " i think you should tell her and not let the chance go by"
4. FROM The right thing--- " way to complicated... don't go after her.... girl are like, the more u want them , the more they reject u.. and vice versa....
5. From Cheyb_92--- "Ok, hun, that was so long I feel like I know you know, lol. Shew, complicated! Uh..........well I had a similar sit. i think, and this guy was always real nice to me and at the time i had a bf, but this guy told me he was gay, and then i was a lil more comfy round him u know, and then he bought me earrings and said that ive changed him, ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, totally freaked me out, I avoided this freak 4 weeks, and still do, but u seem sweet and non perverted like that guy, so main point, move on a lil, and see if shes really in 2 u, give her a lil time, and if she misses your companionship, then she'll let ya know, good luck, you seem sooo sweet, wish i was her......lol, the angel thing was deep, good job.
6. FROM noble_rub--- "well, u have shown that you are the sweetest guy in the world. Give her some time. If she misses u, she'll come back.
Many situations that a girl still loves her bf, but cant help flirting with another guy because he treats her so good. Love is not all receiving nor giving. U should wait for her response. I believe what u have been doing is excellent job and i can see that u have thought a lot before make a move. Im sorry to mention, but if u are not good looking and her bf really is, then maybe she is still confused. Give her time to make her mind up.
You melt my heart. Never seen or heard anything like this in Hollywood movies. Good luck!


P.S: You deserve a lot more than just chasing a taken girl. Give her a chance. But its her loss if she is too dumb to understand.
7. FROM Cole S--- "oh my goodness i say you should be there for her as a friend and if she accepts that you can be something more. Her boyfriend sounds like a jerk and obvestly she likes you. Its hard to say things to people, so maybe shes just at a loss for words. If your ment to be together than it will work out. Just be there for her
8. FROM Number on--- "she wants you to chase her. the next time you see her, say something along the lines of "wont your boyfriend let you come to work anymore?" and see what she says.
9. FROM Kelly W--- think you should go for it. She needs someone better than that loser bf that she has. Tell her how you feel. Even if that does not go the way that you want it to go you will not have to keep wondering what could have been and you would know b/c you asked her. What harm could it do.
10. FROM meghanw1--- You said it a million times: she has a boyfriend!! Even if things are rocky between them it doesn't matter, you don't know the whole situation. Wait until she's single. Otherwise you'll just be her rebound or she'll just use you when she's going through a hard time and just hurt you. If things are meant to work out, they will. She knows you like her, let her decide. Don't write her letters or give her things at work, it'll get you in trouble. If she told the manager about you, it's a sign that she doesn't want to be bothered like that. She has a BOYFRIEND. Let it be. She's not testing you. She's messing with you. If she flirts with a lot of other guys, then how are you more special than any of them? Find someone that can commit 100%. You deserve it. She sounds like she has problems. Don't get involved, you'll get crushed. Sorry to be so negative. Just be patient.
11. FROM JB--- I'd be careful on this one, not because of the boyfriend. It was great you made your feelings known to her, but you don't want to overplay your hand. As much as I hate to say it, you have to play the game a little (for the record, I hate "the game"). Work on the friendship aspect, and try to be comfortable about that for a while. Get her to talk about that **** of a boyfriend and be there to help open her eyes. Just don't push her too hard, and as much as it is flattering to her, it doesn't make you look any more attractive to her.
12. FROM LittleEFA---
I agree 100% with y2k. i think that she is in an abusive relationship that she is afraid to get out of!1! Maybe he has beaten her up and she is not going outside because he may have left bruises on her or something! Have one of your friends that know her to go and check on her to make sure she is okay and let her know how you feel. No woman deserves to be in an abusive or unhappy relationship whichever it may be in her case. Go and get her!!!!!! Good luck!!!!
13. FROM SarahBear--- Not to be mean, but creepy! I tell you what, I'm sure you're a nice guy and everything but love letters and love notes in Christmas presents are middle school! Or something you give your wife, but not someone you aren't dating. Honestly, she probably did have a small crush or physical attraction to you at first but as soon as all the creepy love notes started coming in it pushed her away. I know you probably only see her at work but you're reaching stalker status. Do you stare at her at work too - even if it's just an admiring 10 second stare and we act like we don't see it believe me we do! From your story she liked your attentions at first, even a little after the first note, but now she obviously doesn't. The fact that she showed and read your letter to other people is not a good sign either. And when she told her boss that you make her feel uncomfortable - she wasn't lying! You probably do! Back off buddy! You already ruined this one and pretty much any chance of getting with her. The fact that she already has a boyfriend takes your chance of redemption from zero to zilch. She's probably already told her boyfriend about you which is why she's not coming in to work. Unless she tells you from her own mouth that she likes you - any information from anyone else is worth nothing. Since she's been avoiding you since your Christmas present, that's obviously what she wants. I'm really not trying to be mean, just honest. You're probably just an emotional romantic guy but to bring it on all at once like that is overwhelming and not something a girl, especially a teenage girl, is looking for. Save the love notes until you find someone that openly admits that they like them or you're in a comitted relationship. As for this girl, leave her alone and act like you're over her - she'll probably be relieved and it'll take the pressure off of her - after awhile of ignoring her you might have a chance to apologize for making her feel uncomfortable. Lose the romantic feelings for her though before you do that! Find a new crush and take it.....slow!!
What answer 13.SarahBear said made me feel heart broken and now i'm worrying and can't sleep. I know this is long and I thank you for takin the time reading this and helping me.

2007-01-09 18:21:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

WHAT IS DIFFERENT BETWEEN FRIEND(GIRL) AND GIRL-FRIEND?

2007-01-09 18:21:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I love my BF to death. Ive known him for 8 years or so, but we've been dating since the end of summer. Im not sure if it's something about him, or me being afraid of losing him, but at times I have no trust in him. I worry he would cheat on me, and it would just kill me. Ive talked to him about it, and he swears he would never do that, but I worry. There is one girl particularly, who on his myspace I read things like "oh we need to get wasted together, and oh jess will be there" like its some big deal she is there for him. Is it just me being paranoid? Hes never done anything to make me worry, but I do. Now im worried about him going to this party. Also, he has this girl as number 1 on his myspace, and me #2.. i know its stupid stuff, but i worry.

2007-01-09 18:20:48 · 13 answers · asked by Immortal Angel 1 in Singles & Dating

Why do guys and girls get so jealous of friends????
I mean if your not flirting and just being nice whats the problem?

2007-01-09 18:20:47 · 20 answers · asked by sherrie C 2 in Singles & Dating

If you find that the world has turned,
And you are covered in darkness.

Squashed by humanity,
And looked down apon,

You feel like you can't take it,
You wanna breath.

Theres no way out,
Your sufficating.

Just remember me,
I ain't no emo
I don't cut
or crave pain.

But yet I am worse off then you,
But i don't feel the need to harm.

I draw and write.

And everyday I hide behind my fake smile,
I am afraid to be alone again,
I hide my feelings,
Lock 'em up tight.

So no one can see my pain.
No one knows the true me,

They can only see what they SEE.

They can't look past my looks,
All I want is to be me and be happy.

2007-01-09 18:20:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 18:19:43 · 2 answers · asked by confused 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-09 18:19:36 · 12 answers · asked by nick 1 in Singles & Dating

my hubby left me and 3 of our children about 3 years ago because of his job, his in the airforce and now he is back and wants to file a divorce, i think he is seeing someone, should I look for advident that he is having affair, I called a few of his colleague and they told me they don't know that we have been separated. he alway act infront of them that he is a good husband and a good father. he alway want his face, I just want his colleague to know he is bad and they will watch his movement everyday. no more act.

2007-01-09 18:19:17 · 10 answers · asked by ICE 2 in Marriage & Divorce