my hubby left me and 3 of our children about 3 years ago because of his job, his in the airforce and now he is back and wants to file a divorce, i think he is seeing someone, should I look for advident that he is having affair, I called a few of his colleague and they told me they don't know that we have been separated. he alway act infront of them that he is a good husband and a good father. he alway want his face, I just want his colleague to know he is bad and they will watch his movement everyday. no more act.
2007-01-09 18:19:17 · 10 answers · asked by ICE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a PI to find out. They will get pics of the new woman in his life.
2007-01-09 18:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont want the divorce, call his commander and tell him so
THey can mandate him to go to marriage counseling.
But if he wants a divorce, why go and air your dirty laundry to the people he works with. I am sure that that is not going to win any loving gestures to you from him. Chances are he is just trying to be a professional and not tell them the problems that he is having with you. YOu going and telling the whole world is not going to make him love you more. Do your part and make yourself the best you that you can be.
The next time he sees you, have yourself so together that he will regret his decision.
YOu might think about starting by going back to school and taking a few classes.
Once he sees the changes that you are making in your life he might want to discuss getting back together (and you might not even want him once you start going to school and meeting new and interesting people)
2007-01-09 18:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you win if his colleagues know he is bad?Will you feel happier?Don't speak against him - you will looks jealous and revengeful.I am sure that your hubby is not a good man-to left you alone with 3 children!That's a shame!But leave his colleague to make by themselves the conclusions.
2007-01-09 18:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, it weirds me out that you're writing this in the third person. My guess is that you are either the husband or a friend of his, but either way you should be mature enough to know that a baby isn't going to solve whatever issues the couple has. I don't know if it's easier to file for divorce now or later, but if it's going to happen it's going to happen... & of course her family is going to despise him! But that would be the case regardless & it doesn't even matter. Why would he care whether her family liked him or not?
2016-05-23 02:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHy waste your time looking for evidence.
What will that change if you find any?
Sadly, you cannot make him want to stay in a relationship that he does not want to be in.
If he left you three years ago it is not very likely that he is going to change his mind. If you do find this other woman, it is just going to make things worse. (what if she is prettier than you or smarter than you, or worse, what if she is uglier than you or not as smart as you are) neither of these outcomes would be that great for your self esteem.
Since your kids dont have a full time dad now, that tasks is going to fall on to you. Why not use your energy to make sure that they continue to adjust to your new life rather than take time away from them to investigate him.
I do know that this is not what you want to hear but I do give him credit for at least telling you the truth!
2007-01-09 18:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for what you do all this....... only make you sad, make your hubby angry. relax,enjoy. how you know if your hubby bribe his colleague??? you know that they work together for very long. they can build up their trust. you dont even know if what they said are true.maybe they are lying. they might think bad about you as you talk bad about your husband. your husband will lose face if he divorce you and leaving the 3 children to you. all the colleague will know that he is irresponsble. you dont have to make him lose face know. time is precious. consentrate on your children. forget about your husband.he abandon you.
2007-01-10 02:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Skellinton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course hes seeing someone.Let him get his divorce and get a lot of child support,and maybe alamony since he deserted the family...Don,t worry about what his colleagues know,thats just revenge on your part because he has hurt you..Get him where it eally hurts. ( in his pocket book) go for it all...hes a jerk.
2007-01-09 18:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understood he wants divorce .
you wrote the answers ,just let him have it ,hes not in love with you anymore for what im gathering from your note,I'm sure he stills loves his children ,but let him go it sounds like he found someone else .do the same ,he left you 3 yrs ago ,its time to move on .
2007-01-09 18:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain. You are not alone.
If possible, please don't sacrifice yourself in anger and retaliation. Because by going thru all the revenge, you will end up losing yourself --- the most precious and beautiful you.
No one is worth it. No one.
Move forward with your life as best as you can. Slowly the pain will ease. We cannot control what others do, but we can conduct ourselves with grace, with kindness, with love and with wisdom.
In the end, virtue prevail.
Remind yourself about grace, kindness, love and wisdom each moment as best as you can.
Best wishes and warmest prayers.
2007-01-09 18:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Cappuccino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we men are like dat...
2007-01-09 18:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by lahuretz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋