I have put up with this abuse ever since I was 9. It started out with slaps, now its with the pulling of the hair and being kicked (I'm now of the age 14). The mental abuse does not phase me much anymore (where as she says I'm useless, fat, stupid B****, or mean to my syblings in such a way she feels that there something wrong with ME! I have become an empty shell overtime. Though my friends (most of them) know what a physco she is (but don't know how bad the abuse is) Inside I am crying to be with my loving father (who I have not heard of in two long years). Sure my step-dad is a good respectful man, but he has not even scratched the surface of what she has been doing. I do not trust anyone (not even my dearest step-sister who is also abused mentally but to the minumum (sp?).) When I look at my younger half-brothers, I gag knowing they are the seed of that...monster. I am too smart to be thinking of cutting myself.Lastly I ask you to please do not pity me, I only ask of help.
2007-01-09 18:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by Jenna E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is more of a response to all those people who care-
I would call the cops but something always holds me back. Its everytime I look at her, the way she smiles when I do something right. I just can't bear to see her cry when help comes and gets me. I hate the way I think, where as I think she's thinking "Did I do something wrong?" (apoligies if that did not make sense) . And yes she grew up in a harsh envoirment because she was poor. Sadly, I come to the same conclusion in my mind-
I cannot leave her. I don't have the courage to pick up that phone right now and say I NEED HELP! And because of my unlikely ways of having facts to be sure-Won't the cops ask where are my bruises? Won't the counsilers call my house and talk with my mother? (then all that I've worked for will become swallowed in hell) So as I type this final sentance with falling tears after reading just the first four answers-Why am I such a coward?
2007-01-09 18:59:19 · update #1
If you want this to stop you HAVE to tell someone. She's the adult, she's the parent, she's the one who should be more responsible so stop worrying about what it's going to do to her. It's time for you to take care of you. If you can't call the cops on her for your own sake, do it for your little brothers.
2007-01-10 01:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go the school counselor, nurse or someone whom you can trust and tell them what you are going through at home. You need to get out of there and get some professional help while you are still young. You may not think that the mental abuse is affecting you, but you are wrong... You just don't realize the impact this stuff is going to have on you as you go on in life... the impact can be devastating... and what is sad is that you may never know why your life is in such shambles, when it will be all because of this mental abuse!!!! Do not make the mistake of ever underestimating the power that emotional abuse can have! Get help, Do it NOW...
2007-01-09 18:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. It just helps to hear it from others. You know this wont stop and it continues to worsen. Somewhere inside you know you don't deserve this and in fact it is killing you spiritually. If this were happening to your friend, you would most likely say for her to contact some authority. To get help from the outside. Your family is in denial and is not stopping the abuse. You can. You can save yourself and your siblings by telling the appropriate people. School counselors are helpful. Yes police, or any protective services, or crisis phone numbers in the phonebook or online. Just keep reaching out until someone listens, and also helps you to act. You are a child, so this is bigger than what you can handle alone. It is terrible abuse, you do not deserve it, it is not your fault no matter what. Call someone today. And then spend your life creating love and mental health for yourself and your future children.
2007-01-09 18:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by emily 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this is not nice and im not pittying you, but only just saying it straight, she has no right to do this to you, Im not sure what country you are in but in my country you can be but away for that kind of behaviour because too many children, babies are getting killed by abusive parents. she has damaged you already and this is along term thing now. There is not much you can do as she wouldnt even be one to talk to, maybe there is someone else that you can call on for help, just to talk about this and how it is affecting you. You are so young and dont deserve this. You do seem mature for your age so a suspect that you have been through alot. I would be able to give you better advice if i knew abit more about where you are from, if you want you can email me and i will try and find out some information on what you can do.
2007-01-09 18:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try calling 1800-4-A-CHILD. It is a free child abuse hotline. The counselors on the hotline can offer useful advide. Also, I don't know what state you live in, so I can't give you the specific phone numbers, but you need to contact the police and/or child protective services. You can call the police first, and they will put your case into the hands of child protective services.
You don't deserve to be mentally and physically abused. Please get the help you need. Also, the next time she hits you, takes pictures of the bruises and/or red marks that are on your body. It is helpful to have evidence to give the police or child protective services.
2007-01-09 18:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be a very intelligent young lady you need to do whats best to often people do what is easy your mother needs help to deal with her anger and abuse issues you know she will not seek this help she would probably beat you if she knew that thousands of people just read this I think you need to get help for you and your mother and all work at being a loving and caring family.Your local police station if it is grave danger or if it is copable then it might be better to tell your school counselor who will talk to the proper people and start the transition of learning to love and not abuse .
2007-01-09 18:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dan B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u tell a trusted relative or ur school counselor. If it gets really mad and ur 18 they can put u in with loving foster or adoptive parents. You dont need to put up with that kind of abuse physical ,verbal, psychological, none of it. Yes she is ur mother but unless she can actually do her job as a mother u need to get away from her. You can even go to a nearby police station. You can also try talkin to her and tell her how she makes u feel, because she may not realize what shes putting ur through. Please get help before its too late because i took a family violence class and i know the dangers of staying. Yes its going to be hard but surround urself with anyone loving. Good luck!
2007-01-09 18:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by tragickingdom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I do not offer you pity but I will give you my concern. I hope through this medium and people writing to you that it will become clear to you that there are a lot of people who care. You need to talk to someone that can help you get out of that situation. It sounds like your step-father does not know what is going on. I would think the school could help you. Don't put up with being hit and talked to like that. You are a human being not an object. Also it sounds like your step sister needs help. I know it seems scary to admit to someone what is going on in your house but if you don't tell someone it might get worse. I pray that you can get the help that you need and soon. Please let us know what is happening to you.
2007-01-09 18:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Susan G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to feel alone and know that there are support groups for people your age. Let your school counselor know what is happening, that's what they are for to help in situations like this. What your mother is doing is a crime and you have to get help for you both by exposing this crime to end your suffering. Your mother may be going through something in her life that she doesn't know how to deal with but, it doesn't make it right to abuse you in any way. I too was abused(mentally, physically, and verbally*the worst of them all) as a child and it affected me tremendously throughout my adult life. Intense therapy and medication helped some but, only spiritual guidance can make a breakthrough for people like us. You may still be young but, seek professional help now. If there is someone you can trust talk to them about your dilemma and ask them to help steer you the right way. I'll be praying for you, little sister.
2007-01-09 18:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by saturn man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
baby get off the computer and call the police or call a relative that you trust and that you know will believe you. you don't have to stay there in that situation there are tons of people willing to help you if you just ask. talk to one of your best friends parents i am sure once they hear your story they will more than willing let you stay with them for a while until things are sorted out. but pplease baby get some help. been there done that
2007-01-09 18:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋