I'M 18 AND THIS IS MY FIRST YEAR IN COLLEGE. I DON'[T WORK DURING THE SCHOOL YEAR, BUT HAVE SUMMER JOBS TO SAVE MONEY. I WANT TO GET MY OWN PLACE BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL BAD BECAUSE I PUT SO MUCH PRESSURE ON MY BOYFRIEND TO DO IT. I GUESS HE'S AS FRIGHTEN AS I AM. HE AND I PLAN TO MOVE OUT AT SOME POINT, BUT NOT SURE WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. MY PARENTS MOVED OUT WHEN THEY WERE 20 OR SO... IT KINDA FEELS LIKE THEY CAN BE PUSHY AT TIMES BUT I'M JUST A LITTLE FRIGHTEN TO FALL FLAT ON MY FACE AND NOT BE AS PREPARED FOR WHAT MAY COME AHEAD. ANYONE HAVE ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FIRST MOVE OUT? HOW TO PREPARE, ADJUST, ANYTHING?? THANKS
2007-01-09 18:41:08 · 15 answers · asked by root beer float 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you will never ever find cheaper rent than mom and dads. and food too!
2007-01-09 18:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by achronicfan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything until you really do your homework. What I mean is- have a job that will pay all your expected bills and food, gas, car, pets..... Once that's figured out, figure what kind of place, and furniture, and other items you need to setup a home. You will need dishes, pots, cup/mugs. Cleaning supplies,, sheets, pillows, blanket, towells. Food will come in handy. Think about your job, what you need during the day. The better planning you do, and prepare for- the better off you will be when the time comes. Think of being as safe as you can. You are the adult now, not the child. You are taking on a big responsibility. No JOKE! Don't forget about the fun stuff, but take care of the other stuff first. About the walls in your apartment- whatever you put up- will most likely come down someday. Also- regarding your boyfriend. He's young, like you. You got to be SMART. Don't buy big ticket items together. If he does agree to pay 1/2 of everything (rent, utilities, phone_). be sure to get it in writing, his s.s. number, driver's license.- make a photo copy and get it noterized. You have to protect yourself. Years ago, my two roommates left me and didn't help with the rent for a month. I had to pay it all by my self. You don't want any hardships.
2007-01-09 20:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first and most important thing for you to think about is being able to pay the bills each month. Sit down and make a list of what you will need to pay and figure out your budget for the month. Then of course, you need dishes and furniture and bedding and towels and such. Once you have all of these things you must remember that you have to feed yourself now, too. Being out in the world on your own is exciting but it's also a lot of responsibility. You may want to put your energy into your studies for the first year and then think about moving out on your own or with your boyfreind. It doesn't sound like either one of you is quite ready for it yet. Take this year to save money and make a plan for moving out. Then you are actually working towards something you really want and it will be easier when the time comes. Living together is a big step and comes with a lot of responsibility. Take the time to prepare and the transition will be smoother.
2007-01-09 22:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave nicely - you never know when you'll need/want to come back. Treat your folks gently, don't be afraid to fall flat on your face - we all do at some point surely ? Friends and family will pick you up if you need help. And, just my thoughts, but don't wait until you are absolutely sure. Gosh if I had done that I wouldn't have done anything in my last 60 years ! Be reasonably sure if you can, but hey, some of the really great things I did were pretty impulsive. Very little is irrevocable. Go for it !
2007-01-09 20:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lilliana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the boyfriend out of it. YOU need to gain some independence. If you really want to move out, rent into a shared house first. Meaning, a group of people in a house, you have your own room. You will learn a ton from this, especially on how to deal closely with different types of personalities, paying your own rent, cleaning your place, etc. You are 18, you are a young adult, but have a TON of learning to do in life. It is scary and exciting. Do it on your own first! Gain your independence, become self sufficient! If you do move in to a place, remember all the stuff you will need for your own place, money,towels, bed linens, furniture, toiletries, money, cleaning tools, a car or transportation, money, food and drink, plates, utensils, money..............Good luck
2007-01-09 22:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this all depends on your boyfriend too! Does he work and/or go to school???? If you both go to school, then you will both need a part time job as well. If he works, and is okay with you working during the summer only, then go for it!
If unsure and are able to wait another year or two, I'd probably do that. Why>? You will be two years ahead in school, have time to save for your appartment!
Good Luck
2007-01-09 18:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by Pocahontas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what i am advising my kids to do. i laid out the cost of living in reality and told them to pay me 1/2 the amount for the following stuff every month for 6 months. (assuming a roommate will pay the other half ) i totaled up the costs for rent,cable,electric,water, food,garbage,gas,auto insurance,cell phone,dsl,shampoo,hand soap,laundry soap,toilet paper, napkins, cleaning supplies,tampons,house phone, these are just the monthly necessities. if you can pay that for 6 months with no problem your on a good start. however you still need to have IN ADDITION the apartment deposit, the credit check fee, money for any credit card accounts you open. money for dates, clothing, shoes, medical and dental expenses (you do lose your parents benefits when you move) you will need furniture, washer and dryer, dishes pots and pans sheets towels curtains tv stereo decor etc. since these can be purchased second hand or even given to you by friends and family you just need to make sure you have it by the time you move. if you are going to have a roommate/boyfriend make sure they can meet 1/2 of these expenses. do not assume you can do without most of this stuff to make it less expensive. you will regret trying to. if your roommate or bf will be sharing the expenses 50/50 DO IT RIGHT. most utility companys and landlords will do your contract with both names so that you are both protected should one fail to be responsible. i suggest you do this and never assume you are together forever or going to last . the stats say there is only a slight chance you will. do not move in with someone whom you assume "will get a job and help".that job needs to be secured long before you move in together. don't loan each other money, don't let friends move in with you and lay it out on the line who does what as far as cooking and cleaning. if one of you has bad credit and cannot get utilities in your name then that person MUST pay a deposit on each utility not in their name. if it ends up ugly in the future do you think they will care if they ruin your credit? if there is a deposit they can lose they will be more apt to pay up. most new relationships do not last because of financial fights. or one is being a lazy slob or not paying their half on time. but if you protect yourself and let the landlord and utility companies know it is a roommate situation they will accomodate you. i have had roommates as well as lived with boyfriends. these issues are very real. i learned all this the hard way .now i am on my first marriage for 17 years. there is so much hidden expenses so i have made the suggestion with my daughter to pay us for 6 months all the expenses she can expect to be paying. when she can do it without to much a struggle she can move and all that money she paid me will given back to her after she been in her own place for 6 months. and you have to realize this cannot be accomplished on a part time job. you both need full time jobs even if you go to school full time. thats a long day. you really should wait til you are done with school because that will also be another expense for you. the struggles you will face might make you realize how good you had it at home. don't rush into anything. good luck
2007-01-09 19:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good job,a nice carrer,and be matured enough to move out on your own,because that situation needs lot of adjustments,committments and much more.Perpare yourself in the best way.Good luck.
2007-01-09 18:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its u have a lot more responsibilities, i personally think it was awesome...
just be sure u can support ur self financially. i remember the first time i moved out i barely had enough money for food, due to the fact that i was still in school and only working part time.
2007-01-09 18:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl...take it from me.... there is no place like home.. stay in your mothers house as long as you can even if she lands up kicking you out :) aaag man, DONT move in with your man if the both of you are not ready, coz you will be unhappy...mmmm just take your time first sweety, get stable, emotionaly, financially and spiritually...Goooooooood Luckkkkkk to you
2007-01-09 21:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Nazy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont move out! mooch as long as you can, or at least try to get most of college finished. if you have too, save at least 2 months rent and give it to your parents to hold so you wont blow it on booze or something stupid like boots or a sweater! Try to get your own place, room mates have a habit of moving on and sticking you with the bills. Good luck with your future.
2007-01-09 18:49:17 · answer #11 · answered by the radioactiveman 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋