Family & Relationships - 4 January 2007

My mom died a few weeks after i was born. My dad got married to this evil woman. She has 3 kids. 2 daughters and 1 son. Ever since I was 4,I have been getting abused...hit, yelled at, called names, kicked out of the house, etc... My dad is in the army and is always away and when hes home he is either with my stepmom or his friends. I felt like cinderella cuz all my step siblings got what they wantedand wwerent abused and I didng get much and was abused everyday. Even my step siblings hated me and laughed at me and spit on me. When I was 10, I noticed my steep brother touching me in places that i wasnt comfortable with him touching. He told my dad and my dad soon started touching me and making me touch him. When I turned 11, they started molesting me and making me pull down my pants so they could **** me. If I refused or cried or said no, they would punch me and beat me up until I let them. My step sister even made me kiss her and touch her and she would touch me. Im 14 now. HELP!!!!

2007-01-04 05:46:02 · 23 answers · asked by Kaylee T. 1 in Family

I can't/won't dance, even with some drinks in me, and I think it is something that may be affecting my relationship a bit as my girlfriend loves dancing but can never get me too at weddings, formals, etc. no matter how hard she tries. I can slow dance all night with her, but it's the faster more upbeat dancing that just isn't my thing. Is this an issue I should work on or should I just let it go and whatever happens happens?

2007-01-04 05:45:55 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Iv'e Been with my man for 17yrs. And the last7yrs. have been hell, i'm lucky if we kiss let lone anything else, Him want's me once every 2 to 3 month's and that's it. He really love's to look at porn model's, I found some on the computer,he said he didn't know nothing about it, he blamed my son and his friend's, But i know it was him,cause he was looking at movies and it was the same company, he said he clicked on it ,but it was one of the video's he was looking at, I told him it couldn't be because it was on porn model's and he seached 6 page's than clicked on only to one that looked more beautiful than i could ever look, It hurt's so bad, Please help me decide what to do. because i don't want to be lonely anymore, i miss at least the hugging,But same way every 2 to 3 month's, by the way we've been living together for 12yrs' .I found out about the porn about 7yrs ago but he stopped looking at it ,maybe once and a while,but now he's on the computer looking. i'm sick of it. im not fat.

2007-01-04 05:45:53 · 5 answers · asked by joeriv 1 in Singles & Dating

well my friend allways brags and shes real mean about it to she says things like"my pants are much better than yours" and "dont you wish you were rich like me".

2007-01-04 05:45:24 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Friends

About 4-5 years ago i used to hang out with my best friend after school, her and i used to talk all the time during school lunch i still know her mom and her sister, although her sister is cute and i have a big crush on her and i still been trying to keep in reach although i do not know how to stay in reach with my best-friend.
Here is my question how can i find someone that i used to know? (like my best friend) how can i still stay in touch? i am confused i am sorry!!
Thank u for ur answer

2007-01-04 05:45:00 · 3 answers · asked by Sewer Tank 1 in Friends

Is for me to act the way I am now and not nag at him.
My bf wasn't calling as much as I wanted him to, maybe cuz I wasn't calling him, but when I sent him a text message, he would often not reply. I sent him a nasty text about it and then we were talking about it the other week. and he told me cuz of that text my guard is up. What does that mean? does it mean he might have been falling for me, and then is backing off?
He also mentioned something bout him "Not putting too many eggs in one basket, and that if a girl is angry, the man mentally prepares for her exit".

2007-01-04 05:44:37 · 12 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband is on the fire department and sometimes it seems that he puts it above me and our 11 mnth old son. I am still very young. I am only 20 years old. Should I just cut my losses and move on?

2007-01-04 05:44:15 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

About 4-5 years ago i used to hang out with my best friend after school, her and i used to talk all the time during school lunch i still know her mom and her sister, although her sister is cute and i have a big crush on her and i still been trying to keep in reach although i do not know how to stay in reach with my best-friend.
Here is my question how can i find someone that i used to know? (like my best friend) how can i still stay in touch? i am confused i am sorry!!
Thank u for ur answer

2007-01-04 05:44:06 · 3 answers · asked by Sewer Tank 1 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I have decided to just have our friends as bridesmaids and groomsmen, because he has so many relatives. Now I have my going to be sister in law mad at me. Am I doing the right thing not putting her in it? I don't want her to hate me.

2007-01-04 05:43:42 · 24 answers · asked by lexmo 2 in Weddings

My b/f and i have been dating for some time now he told me i needed to move in because he hated coming home to an empty housde and he also said i should move in so i could be the last thing he saw at night and the first thing he saw in the morning does that mean he loves me?

2007-01-04 05:43:39 · 8 answers · asked by ♥ Ash ♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm just wondering, because short of Springer, that is THE show to get caught on. That one where the guy got Tasered, and then the woman went home with him, priceless. As far as late night entertainment goes, Cheaters is right up there. With the Magic Bullet infomercial and the Showtime Knife set, that is.

2007-01-04 05:43:36 · 13 answers · asked by Doug Church 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-04 05:42:24 · 4 answers · asked by Fun2day 4 1 in Singles & Dating

Black guys have failed women of color i am hispanic and i normally date black guys. but honestly im over the self concious player who surrounds himself with girls just to cover insecurites up. White guys will look at me and i'll smile back but they dont come up to me. I dont know why i think maye its the whole ghetto stigma women of color have. Im actully intelligent and fun and not drama. how do i show them its okay to come up and talk?

2007-01-04 05:42:21 · 7 answers · asked by fireflykissess 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-04 05:41:03 · 7 answers · asked by Benjamin P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Samantha is my favorite.

2007-01-04 05:40:57 · 17 answers · asked by Fun2day 4 1 in Singles & Dating

Im a resident of OH, My Husband to be is in the navy and a resident of S.C., We are getting married in TN and will then live in Oklahoma. Where do we need to get our marriage license at?

2007-01-04 05:40:49 · 17 answers · asked by jla_1012 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was at a restaurant, and I was talking to a good friend in a group setting. Anyway, the place where we were eating was closing and some girls were dancing in the corner. I started mentioning that they had excellent form, but it was rather rude to do it in the restaurant. My friend agreed. When I mentioned them again later, and I said they are probably going to a club. She shot back, "Well, it sure sounds like you want to join them!!" Why did she get so tissy about it? Did I offend her?

2007-01-04 05:40:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you are physically/sexually attracted to someone, but the romantic spark/connection is missing are there ways to create this spark so the relationship could lead to falling in love?

2007-01-04 05:40:45 · 5 answers · asked by Citygirl 2 in Singles & Dating

I love them ;-)

2007-01-04 05:40:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If some one is in a good relationship then, are they happier and do they do better in general?

2007-01-04 05:40:11 · 13 answers · asked by Tony 1 in Singles & Dating

i met a guy sometime early last year but the first time we talk he told me that he as 2 kids boy and girl 2 different mother but the younger childs mom and him is not in such of a relationship on and off he wants to come out but dont want to leave without having someone to love him yes they had sex like 4-6 months apart they dont live together she came by when she feel like and both kids live with him.he told me all this saying hes just being honest and really like me to tell me the true,now we are not toether but everytime he sees my daughter shes 3 he ask her about me and my friends but when he sees me he act as if i dont exsit no we never had sex but we kiss and go out.i really like this guy,he call me on my birthday and come and look for me but i cant understand him today hes nice tomorrow hes not i really like him i wish he feel the same.what do you think,you thinks he wants me as much as i wants him?serios answer only please. no the child i have is not his but he act as if hes

2007-01-04 05:39:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does any1 know why my computer freezes up every lie 9 seconds i am really gettin tired of it

2007-01-04 05:39:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I live in Ireland now.Lived in usa for 4 yrs.We went out during my time there, lived together officially for a yr unofficially for the other 2 and 1 yr was getting to know one another.
I was illegal there,hated it as I was a teacher loved my job and obviously couldnt get one there.I house cleaned which was hard and a testimony of my love for him.Got to pt where I felt I had no choice but to return home,did so in july.V.happy at home, teaching again,lots of friends,busy life.Visit him on my hols been over at Halloween and xmas.In Oct he said he would move home, missed me he said.Now tells me he is not sure- reason?his work has picked up.He is an electrican here but also an illegal immigrant even though he has his own business.Tells me now he doesnt know what to do , scared of moving home,likes it here.Likes the weather!Thinks he makes more mney.He hasnt been able to go home in 7 yrs so doesnt even know what Ireland is like now.
Have I come ot the end of my road?I am going to be 35

2007-01-04 05:39:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

please help it's my first wedding anniversary today and iam clueless and what to get my hubby i know it's a paper anniversary but i can't think of anything if anyone can help me within 15 min you'll get best anwser plz help he's 30 years old if that helps any

2007-01-04 05:38:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-04 05:37:57 · 30 answers · asked by JOHN 1 in Singles & Dating

had a wonderful relationship w/sister before this. I miss her. she has accused parents and siblings including myself of terrible things from sexual abuse, to murder, to shooting her. rec'd a restraining order from her 4 yrs ago. But I miss her and I would like to talk to her again. I know she was in therapy at the time, because she told me prior to restraining order. any ideas? Thanks

2007-01-04 05:37:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have a guy friend or was who is charming and sweet but not a very nice guy to women. He has been married four times and all have ended in divorce. He does not have a good background. Is it possible that he can change? I am not trying to change him but I get concerned how he lives his life.

2007-01-04 05:37:32 · 18 answers · asked by Sweet Pea 3 in Singles & Dating

in as short as possible... i met my now husband in nov of 04... i was told he had an ex and that they split in aug 04.... i was told jan 05 after we became "official" that he had a child with his ex, but thing were def over between them... they were never married... well in sept 05 he joined the army, and all the truths came out the closet... he was leading her on the whole time and told her that they were gonna work things out, and yet he was also proposing to me becuase he wanted to be with me, yet he was still screwing her... they never lived together, but me and him did... he came back from basic in dec 05.. and pleaded to me that i was his world, and he sat me down with her and told her that they are connected through a child but hes in love with me and im who he wants to be with... i took him back with all confidence that he wont cheat on me again... yet im portrayed as the one who ruined something that really wasnt doing that good to begin with... so what am i the "home wrecker"

2007-01-04 05:37:14 · 24 answers · asked by red.one9luv 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my sister is a real brat. she won't leave me alone and everywere i go, she does. my mom lets her. she is exactly like her and they are both annoying. i don't know what to do.

2007-01-04 05:37:13 · 2 answers · asked by NIKKI S 2 in Family

Although I was unaware of this at the time, my boyfriend and I started dating about a month after he and his ex broke up. He was going into the military and she wasn't going to wait. Then I came along and "we" happened. I have stayed with him because i fell for him instantly. Although our relationship is long distance, b/c he's in the military, i wait b/c I think he is the one.
He has asked me to move in with him, told me that I am the one, and we discuss marriage and kids, and he gave me a promise ring-representing our past present and future. But his ex makes me doubt it all.
She has been calling from the start (he always told me...no secrets). But then when she wrote him in basic (he told me), i wanted to be done w/ the rel. But he got me to stay.
Now nine months into our rel. she was calling around the holidays.
I overheard the brief convo (at 3am). I asked who it was and he said a cousin. He lied but when we talked about it, said he lied b/c i'd freak. lovesme but Do I trust ?

2007-01-04 05:36:56 · 26 answers · asked by xwho123 1 in Singles & Dating