had a wonderful relationship w/sister before this. I miss her. she has accused parents and siblings including myself of terrible things from sexual abuse, to murder, to shooting her. rec'd a restraining order from her 4 yrs ago. But I miss her and I would like to talk to her again. I know she was in therapy at the time, because she told me prior to restraining order. any ideas? Thanks
2007-01-04 05:37:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She decisively told you she doesn't want to be contacted. I say go with that.
2007-01-04 05:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all of these accusations were false and she was in therapy, she may well be feeling the same. If you know anyone that IS in contact with her, pass a message on to them. That way it is up to her and you are not in breech of the restraining order. I really wouldn't contact her directly. If the accusations were true, even if they had nothing to do with you personally, I definitely would not contact her unless you know that she is in a better place within herself and able to deal with her feelings without taking a backwards step. If she was right, her well being is more important, and it should be her to make the move. Then again, this is, like most of the answers that you will get, an inexperienced answer and if you can find someone professional to put the question to it would be more beneficial to you as you will be able to tell them the whole story....and this is a very important decision to make. Good luck to you and I hope that it all works out OK.
2007-01-04 05:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got that same email verbatim about a year ago from a woman I know in NY. I immediately texted her to see if it was real and, surprise, it's a phony. So let Stephen rot in Lagos, where he probably is sitting in an internet cafe hacking real peoples' accounts and sending that email to everyone in their contacts. But it must work at least 1 in 100,000 times or they would come up with a new scam. There are numerous scams out there, many are very believable (this one isn't).
2016-05-23 02:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some serious problems. I'd let her make the first contact. I know that must be tough.
I have a brother who did the same things. He has a serious drug & alcohol problem and didn't want anyone to contact him because we told him he needed help & we wouldn't give him the kind of help he wanted. That was 9 years ago & he's just starting to come around. He called my Mom on Christmas day. It's a start and we are very encouraged by it.
Maybe your sister will get her act together and figure out that her family does love and miss her.
Be patient.
2007-01-04 06:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would need to find out if the restraining order is still in effect before even considering contacting her because if it is and you do, you could end up in jail even if she says she wants to see you, then changes her mind when you show up.
If there is a mutual family friend or acquaintance that knows both of you could ask them to ask her what her thoughts and feelings are on being in contact with you again and if she is not receptive, don't push it.
2007-01-04 05:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that restraining orders are good for that long, but you should check. i have quite a similar relationship with my sister too. go with a phone call , if you can ( if the restraining order isn't in place) go from there.
2007-01-04 05:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like you probally need her alone, i know you probally miss her but when she is ready then she'll get in touch with you. and if you love her then let her go and when they come back she should either be healed, of forgiving of all or what ever this is about. leave it alone honey, and just remember all the wonderful memories you shared. start a journal and write to her in this book as if you were talking to her, then hopefully one day when and if she returns you may give her this so she'll actually see you miss her so desperately. good luck
2007-01-04 05:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you gotta find out if the restaining order still stands. if not, i think you should try a simple phone call. Dont show up at her door or anything, that may be a little too much.
2007-01-04 05:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't, if she wanted contact from you she would initiate it. By violating the order you could open yourself a big can of worms.
2007-01-04 05:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait til she gets her head on straight, or you'll just set yourself up for more hurt. She'll come around if she accepts professional help.
2007-01-04 05:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋