in as short as possible... i met my now husband in nov of 04... i was told he had an ex and that they split in aug 04.... i was told jan 05 after we became "official" that he had a child with his ex, but thing were def over between them... they were never married... well in sept 05 he joined the army, and all the truths came out the closet... he was leading her on the whole time and told her that they were gonna work things out, and yet he was also proposing to me becuase he wanted to be with me, yet he was still screwing her... they never lived together, but me and him did... he came back from basic in dec 05.. and pleaded to me that i was his world, and he sat me down with her and told her that they are connected through a child but hes in love with me and im who he wants to be with... i took him back with all confidence that he wont cheat on me again... yet im portrayed as the one who ruined something that really wasnt doing that good to begin with... so what am i the "home wrecker"
2007-01-04 05:37:14 · 24 answers · asked by red.one9luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, there was no home to wreck!
Kudos to him for sitting you both down and telling the truth.
If that is what she wants to believe, then that is her problem.
It is pretty typical of a woman not to blame the man who was the whole reason for this mess to start with.
YOu live and learn. SOunds like he did.
he had plenty of reasons to stay with her if he wanted to, he didnt so if anyone wrecked the home, he did!
THERE IS a future for the two of you if you can forgive him.
GOOD LUCK
sounds like the army made a man out of him!
2007-01-04 05:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he lied to u, and no u aren't the home wrecker, but when u came into his life he totally forgot her, but all the time he was lying to her, did u ever think u might suffer her same fate? i married a man who had 3 previous wives, should have been a definite red flag, but i too was told stories about the ex's, and imagined i was somehow different than these others, from what i was told, there was really problems with the others, thinking i was the one who could change him and be right for him, i entered into what i thought would be wonderful, but instead i got 10 years of hell, and in the end when i confronted him, he left me for a woman he had been cheating with for a long while. so sometimes a good predictor of what is to be is to look into his past, see how he has treated others. if he has a baby with her, than he wasn't always leading her on. beware of him, what he had done to her, could very well be u in the next few years....
2007-01-04 05:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he deceived both of you for a while and you broke it off with him when you found out. It also sounds like he wanted to end things with the other women. I would have a difficult time trusting him and this is a stressful situation to put yourself in, but I don't think that you actively tried to break up their relationship. If anything, he is the home wrecker.
2007-01-04 05:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a homewrecker, but he is a life wrecker. Get away from that scum because he will do the same thing to you in the future.
2007-01-04 05:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't a home wrecker. It doesn't sound as though they even had a home to begin with. It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He has to choose, and if he chooses you, thet means that he CANNOT be with her! He can still visit with his child but he has no place sleeping with her if he's chosen to be with you. You did nothing wrong.
2007-01-04 05:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by surgicalmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You walked into a situation like this: the guy's jacked up!
Not your fault, but beware, he's bringing the same bag of tricks into the relationship with you. Wouldn't you be interested in a little family counseling, get to know how his peabrain works?
Gooooood luck.
2007-01-04 05:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Zeera 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definetly not.Its you he choose. But you can do better after all he lied to you and was unfaithful. I will not take that. also it will never end there will always be chemistry between the two. get real . they have a child together
2007-01-04 05:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sodium free 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He lied to you and entered this relationship under false pretenses. Instead of you questioning if you're the home wrecker, you should plainly see what he is, no questions asked.
2007-01-04 05:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he won't cheat again, I have a bridge to sell to you for $10. Why do women hook up with losers like this?
2007-01-04 05:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think that you were a ho,ewrecker at all. They were not living together there was not a home there to wreck.
2007-01-04 05:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋