Is for me to act the way I am now and not nag at him.
My bf wasn't calling as much as I wanted him to, maybe cuz I wasn't calling him, but when I sent him a text message, he would often not reply. I sent him a nasty text about it and then we were talking about it the other week. and he told me cuz of that text my guard is up. What does that mean? does it mean he might have been falling for me, and then is backing off?
He also mentioned something bout him "Not putting too many eggs in one basket, and that if a girl is angry, the man mentally prepares for her exit".
2007-01-04 05:44:37 · 12 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means you arent giving him enough space, you're too needy & clingy and he is sick of you. Sending him a nasty reply just because he didnt jump when you snapped your fingers was just plain stupid.
You owe him an apology and you need to back off and let him be himself. If you don't like it do him a favor and dump him then go out and find some wuss who lets the woman control everything.
2007-01-04 05:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your BF has some issues. When a guy says he’s putting up his guard it usually means he’s not willing to let you into his world and you have to wonder why? Is he hiding something? Does he really want to be with you? How does he communicate with you? Is he vocal or distant?
I can understand someone not being happy about all the phone calls and all the text mgs. But, the comment “Not putting too many eggs in one basket, and that if a girl is angry, the man mentally prepares for her exit". Sounds like he wants out but won’t be the one to break it off.
You might want to rethink your relationship with this guy. How long have you two been together. A few months? I would say move on to someone else. Find someone you’re more in tune with and who is not afraid to open up and let his gf into his life.
2007-01-04 13:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by asgrafxx 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your bf should be in a loony bin, I don't know if this too old school, but in my day the boy calls the girl, not the other way around. Also if he put his so called "guard up" over a nasty text message, maybe it's time you look for some one better, maybe you should be preparing to do the bailing. Sorry to say honey but he sounds like he was looking to jump ship any way, and is just looking for a reason. Confront him on it, because it might just be communication that's the problem.
2007-01-04 13:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rusty 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
He is warning you that you are being to needy and clingy and if you to try to stay in the relationship, you need to back way off of the constant need for attention is a total turn off. He does not want to be the center of your universe and if you keep pushing, nagging and trying to manipulate him into constanting stroking your ego, he is going to bail out.
You need to learn to be more happy with yourself and not be so insecure. Start hanging out with your friends more and doing thing you like to do without him being around and you will be a more interesting, desirable person that has something to bring to the table as far a relationship go, not a clinging vine that needs to constantly been tended to.
2007-01-04 13:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run, don't walk to the nearest exit, this one is on the run and will bolt at the first sign of trouble or issues. Telling you if a girl puts up a fuss that he mentally starts preparing her for exit, he is trying to control what and when you feel. Prepare him for exit and get a new and better bf. Surely this one needs to go back to the pond you skimmed him out of. Good luck!
2007-01-04 13:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
from what I understood out of your question, I think he thinks that you're pushing him too hard. So let him go a bit, hold on but don't hold on too tight, and act cool and calm. and when u dont know what he's talking about then just ask him what he means. things should be clear between the two of you, it's the only way the relationship can work.
2007-01-04 13:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It means you have him on LockDown and he is thinking about leaving you. STOP nagging, clinging, and whining! Abolish LockDown from your repetoire of bad girl problems and try to move on without smothering so much.
2007-01-04 13:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a line to me... He wants to be friends but really isn't interested in a committed relationship. Men say whatever to get us to go away. They don't like to be confronted so they exit cause they are scared of strong women that stand up for themselves. You want a guy that wants to text and talk, and especially want to be with you. Forget him and move forward!!
2007-01-04 13:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by dynamicDee 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think he's just waiting to either find someone else and break up with you or just looking for an excuse to break up with you. My advice? Move on. You can not change him and if he wants you, he should accept you for who you are, even if you are a "nag".
2007-01-04 13:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Plain and simple, he wants to slow things down. Just back off a little and he will come running back.
2007-01-04 13:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋