Family & Relationships - 26 December 2006

i just became engaged after 5 yrs to my bf but i'm having doubts.he was married and had a son(sam) to a very controling wife thats the reason he divorced her 6yrs ago.she is very bitter over this and makes my life hell and its gotten worse since we got engaged.she calls,emails almost everyday,every little thing regarding sam requires lenghy phone calls which then leads into things related not about thier son.example on a romantic vac. she called to tell my bf sam had a cold,we were only gone 3 days and she called 4 times.she also told my bf she does not want me to go with him to sams school functions as i'm not his mother,she said he has to go with her.my bf said he will not say anything to her as he wants to take the high road with her for his sons sake and agrees with everything she does and wants.i think hes just afraid of her and knows i will make less of a stink than she will.how why does he allow her to control our lifes?am i wrong to feel this way?

2006-12-26 04:24:34 · 11 answers · asked by heathercane678 1 in Friends

don'tyou just hate it when ur ex's new gf is so nice to you?
i mean youstill are in love with ur ex.and in a way you hate the fact that they're going out but you want them to go out because you want your ex to be happy. but you hate the gf..and well she's all nice toyou and is NEVER mean. and it makes you feelso friggin guilty...
that ur here hatin on her for no reason ....

it be a lot easier if she hated me and left me alone...
ya know?i find it rather uncomfortable....

2006-12-26 04:24:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-26 04:24:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

O.k. so why is it that when we have feeling's that our spouse/partner/loved one might be cheating people tend to say "well that mean's they are cheating" "that means they have a guilty conscience" I say BS. Why do people do this? Isn't this like telling the person that was raped that it was their fault?

2006-12-26 04:23:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i just became engaged after 5 yrs to my bf but i'm having doubts.he was married and had a son(sam) to a very controling wife thats the reason he divorced her 6yrs ago.she is very bitter over this and makes my life hell and its gotten worse since we got engaged.she calls,emails almost everyday,every little thing regarding sam requires lenghy phone calls which then leads into things related not about thier son.example on a romantic vac. she called to tell my bf sam had a cold,we were only gone 3 days and she called 4 times.she also told my bf she does not want me to go with him to sams school functions as i'm not his mother,she said he has to go with her.my bf said he will not say anything to her as he wants to take the high road with her for his sons sake and agrees with everything she does and wants.i think hes just afraid of her and knows i will make less of a stink than she will.how why does he allow her to control our lifes?am i wrong to feel this way?

2006-12-26 04:23:39 · 8 answers · asked by heathercane678 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i love him vry much he is also do my relative accept him but my parent does't like him only due to his financial positionbut im loyal he is now not well so how can a leave himin this moment?

2006-12-26 04:23:00 · 7 answers · asked by mahima t 1 in Singles & Dating

Gothic
cheerleader
shy
helpful
take over everything
loud
quiet
drama (over reactive)

2006-12-26 04:22:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

me and my cousin were messing about on the internet a few days ago when we saw a link to a dating website.
as we were drunk we thought we'd have a look at the single people from the local area to see if we knew anyone.

we was about to leave the site when we spotted our friends girlfriend.
and she was wearing hardly anything.
the pic must be recent as she only had her hair cut short a few weeks ago.

should we tell him?

2006-12-26 04:22:10 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i just became engaged after 5 yrs to my bf but i'm having doubts.he was married and had a son(sam) to a very controling wife thats the reason he divorced her 6yrs ago.she is very bitter over this and makes my life hell and its gotten worse since we got engaged.she calls,emails almost everyday,every little thing regarding sam requires lenghy phone calls which then leads into things related not about thier son.example on a romantic vac. she called to tell my bf sam had a cold,we were only gone 3 days and she called 4 times.she also told my bf she does not want me to go with him to sams school functions as i'm not his mother,she said he has to go with her.my bf said he will not say anything to her as he wants to take the high road with her for his sons sake and agrees with everything she does and wants.i think hes just afraid of her and knows i will make less of a stink than she will.how why does he allow her to control our lifes?am i wrong to feel this way?

2006-12-26 04:21:47 · 9 answers · asked by heathercane678 1 in Family

I think I do...

2006-12-26 04:21:34 · 14 answers · asked by complex1simple 1 in Singles & Dating

I wasnt exactly a straight A student in high school. I pass half my courses off a C+! I dont think i have the potential to go to college and have a good career. I need advice Please?

2006-12-26 04:21:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

(This question is only about the women who get implants.)

2006-12-26 04:21:26 · 11 answers · asked by Rawr! 1 in Singles & Dating

If so, how old are you, and why would you like separate bedrooms?

2006-12-26 04:20:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My gf knws me a naughty person and she sends me naughty msges, talks abt s** and she watching p**n and stuff..
Now whwn i try to get intimate with her she says NO and that she got boundries!

Know, this is getting me crazy.
What to say the next time i try to say touch her b**bs and she pulls my hands and says the same crap like she has boundries!

Please say sensible answers

2006-12-26 04:19:50 · 13 answers · asked by Romps 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm Michelle Bultmann and am going to prison and need friends to write, I'm 38 single ,female,I have made bad choices in my life.
Here is th address if anyone chooses to write.
MIchelle Bultmann WERDCC PO BOX 300 Vandalia Mo 63382
P.S. I'm not a hardened

2006-12-26 04:19:50 · 5 answers · asked by Michelle M 1 in Friends

Our marriage was arranged. I hardly knew him. Soon I realized I have nothing in common with him. Our relationship has been of a father/daughter or a employer/employee... I do my part he does his. and that's all. We hardly even fight because we share nothing! I've always been unhappy. I want love. but I'm wondering, Considering true love might be nothing but a "myth," should people be after love, or should they try to keep the marriage bond together. Breaking up marriages causes devestation to families and societies... I'm confused. Please don't write me junk answers! use logic and reasoning to explain your opinion. thanks...

2006-12-26 04:19:18 · 29 answers · asked by stII 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am falling in love with him and he says he is not ready yet. we get along beautifully and we have alot of things we want to do together. my past has not been nice. i will often go to pieces when talking with him on the phone and he says it's because it's the first time i have been in a loving relationship. i also know his mother. i met this man through his mother. i am in a wonderful church at this time, too. i have recently joined the church. this was a decision i made on my own. I also joined the choir and other things to do in the church, again without the aid of my friend. feedback anyone?

2006-12-26 04:18:43 · 11 answers · asked by rubyred 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-26 04:17:52 · 5 answers · asked by alexandru a 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So over the summer, I met this asian girl, real cute, kind of flirtatious, loves to argue. She’s always calling me, always wants to hang out, but I didn’t really have the time because I was trying to focus on school and my career. To complicate matters she was engaged and I was concerned that our friendship might be unhelpful to their whole relationship. But over time we became very good friends (she was probably my best friend by then) and even took some classes together at school, and things smoothed out. In the middle of the semester, however, everything changes. Now all of a sudden she never wants to hang out with me or talk to me… and I feel like she’s trying to push me out of her life. So we got into a big argument about the issue and really ended things – she blocked me from her phone and IM. But it’s just so confusing… we were really good friends and all of a sudden she acts as if she doesn’t know me…and friends was all we wanted to be – nothing more – we knew that.

2006-12-26 04:17:09 · 12 answers · asked by adam L 1 in Singles & Dating

Got any ideas?

2006-12-26 04:17:00 · 13 answers · asked by arsenalsalam 2 in Singles & Dating

I need to know how to get even with my wife, she has been so unfaithful to me and she is a convicted child sex offender who had sex with one of her students, she took my son away on thanksgiving and I haven't seen him since, I just recently caught her with a black man. she told me she needed time to herself because she wasn't happy with herself, and recently she got a restraining order on me and told the police i had a hit list and guns and she has started so much mess in my life but one thing is i still love her no matter what she has done. but she doesn't care about me and i want to get even with her. any suggestions

2006-12-26 04:16:59 · 38 answers · asked by Mike D 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I like a boy that his parents have been friends with my family a long time. I dont know what to do. First of all my really annoying cousin says that he likes her but i know its not true. Everyone says that me and him look like a good couple but i dont know what to do? I need help!!

2006-12-26 04:16:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just got engaged yesterday! I am so excited and happy!!! We are going away for the weekend and I want to wear my ring but it is too big! I know I won't have time to get it adjusted before we leave (We fly out on Saturday). Can anyone tell me where to get a ring guard? Or if someone has another idea, please do tell!

2006-12-26 04:15:22 · 17 answers · asked by Mimi 7 in Singles & Dating

my husband told me last night he thought we should give each other some space...our marriage is going downhill...help!

2006-12-26 04:15:09 · 11 answers · asked by robinsonliliana 1 in Singles & Dating

I asked this woman out on friday dec. 22 and she gave me her number and told me to call after the holidays, would it be okay to call her before new years to ask her to bring in the new year together.

2006-12-26 04:14:31 · 18 answers · asked by firstknight 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been dating this guy for awhile we have had sex, we had our scare with me being preg. but he said he doesn't want to do it again till were in college. or after college. i said i don't want to do it, and i will have a test tube baby. And i really don't want to have sex with him every again. i don't know what to do. he keeps getting mad at me everytime i say i don't want to have sex again. So how do i tell him so he will know i mean it.

2006-12-26 04:14:16 · 19 answers · asked by babygirl 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Seperated since July. Haven't even filed for divorce yet, because we were fighting over things like custody and child support. The courts have now made that a moot point for him to fight about because they have awarded me custody and support, and he only sees kids 4 days a month WITH supervised visitation.
He now has a girlfriend. I'm not angry about that, because I have been seeing someone off and on since about a month after we seperated. I truly don't want to be with him anymore OR deal with his violence or drinking. What I am angry about is that he has introduced the kids ( ages 10, 6, and 4) to her, and they have been spending time with her and her two boys. Keep in mind he only has our kids 4 days a month, and rather than spend quality time with just them - he plans things around her and her boys. I also wonder what kind of a moral lesson he is teaching them, as they know we aren't even divorced yet.

Do I have a right to be angry? Legally, can I do anything about it?

2006-12-26 04:12:58 · 15 answers · asked by in love love love... 2 in Marriage & Divorce

He's called me twice in over2 months. he forgot to mention he left for NY on friday and he pays more attention to his friends than me which would be fine exept with his last girl he blew all his friends off to be with her. I see him for about 5 mins a day and i dont see him at all on weekends. the only thing good is he's not cheating on me. i think

2006-12-26 04:11:12 · 30 answers · asked by KTbaybee 3 in Singles & Dating

I am gay but i dont know how to tell my straight friends with out hurting our friendship.

2006-12-26 04:10:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

is it wrong 4 women 2 please w/ themselve? if so wut do u do?

2006-12-26 04:10:19 · 17 answers · asked by fuzzy_bubbles_13 2 in Singles & Dating