I need to know how to get even with my wife, she has been so unfaithful to me and she is a convicted child sex offender who had sex with one of her students, she took my son away on thanksgiving and I haven't seen him since, I just recently caught her with a black man. she told me she needed time to herself because she wasn't happy with herself, and recently she got a restraining order on me and told the police i had a hit list and guns and she has started so much mess in my life but one thing is i still love her no matter what she has done. but she doesn't care about me and i want to get even with her. any suggestions
2006-12-26 04:16:59 · 38 answers · asked by Mike D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
getting even won't make the situation any better. you need to let her go....and get your son out of that environment
2006-12-26 04:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by lizdylan2003 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, and I don't know who you are, but leave her alone. Getting revenge on her can only lead to more trouble for the both of you, as well as your son...depending on the level of revenge you are going after. Even though you love her, this is an unhealthy situation to be in.
As much as this may hurt, you should possibly look into a divorce and work on custody of your son, based on your wife's past. You cannot stay into something that is so unhealthy like this that you would consider getting even somehow.
Just move on, find a woman that will be loyal to you and treat you and your son right. Get the revenge thing out of your mind...it is not worth the aggravation and pain.
2006-12-26 04:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY LOWER yourself to her level by getting even with her--it will not solve a thing. What you need to do is go to the Courthouse/police dept. and tell them you understand she has put a restraining order on you and find out the exact details-------if she is a convicted child molester then she would not have the "rights" to have your son by herself(in most states). You may say you still "love" her no matter what, but stop and thnk, why continue to go thru life living in hell--and most of all why would you PUT YOUR CHILD through this!?! It does not matter with whom she has run off with or what color the skin is------it is STILL wrong . I certainly would not want this type of DRAMA in my life-there are PLENTY of nice ladies out there that will treat you with respect and love your child. You need to let go, stay single for a bit and then move on. You and your son.
2006-12-26 05:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get even with her after she have done all that to you is for you to forget her for a while focus on your life pull your life back together do something amazing, get somewhere in your life, when your happy and important she will feel it, she might come crawling back to you, and if you’re in a good position, the chances of your getting custody over your son will be easier too. then if you still want to get even you don’t take her back, or let her crawl towards you for a while, and take her back, I’m only saying this cause you love her, it’s never easy to throw away something you love so much.
so put yourself together, think of your son, move forward and get somewhere, you have to work hard but you can do it if you want to.
we dont live forever, the little time you have live happy!
2006-12-26 04:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her, but you want to know how to get even with her????? You contradict yourself.
Get a good attorney and get a divorce and get your rights back with your son. Your son should be the priority, not getting even with your wife.
Actually, the best thing for your son is to let a couple that will love him and not put him through hell and scar him for life adopt him. Then the two of you should never try to contact him again.
2006-12-26 04:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all revenge won't get you anywhere it would only make you look bad and it won't do you a bit of good. I know your mad at her and you have every right to be but getting even isn't the way to go. That's sick that she turned out that way and it's sad that she took your son away in all. But revenge would only hurt you and make you look bad. You think that she would care what you do if she doesn't care about you? I can't believe she turned it around on you and made you look bad when it's her that's bad. Just move on and try to pick up the piece but don't do anything to make you look bad because remeber that revenge maybe sweet but the one who does the revenge is the one who turns out looking back. Just my advice to you.
2006-12-26 04:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no getting even with your wife for it looks as if she has taken many steps in directions you need not go. Get a hold of the District Attorneys office asap as well as any child welfare programs existing in your area. If you want your son you will have to fight hard and with all of your heart to get him. A mothers rights seem to go very far in the U.S. and I know this for my husbands ex and mother of one of his children is pschychotic and is still allowed to raise a child.
Your wife has made her decisions and that is something you will have to swallow whether you want to or not. If you want to lower yourself to her level then you will never be granted access to your son. Think before you do anything that will hamper your relationship between you and your son. Get a lawyer!
2006-12-26 04:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Laydown Sally 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the best way for you to "get even" is to live your life w/out her as she so obviously has messed up hers and yours~ try to enlist someone's help in locating your son (a friend, relative, someone!) to make sure he's ok. Get the law involved if you must. She sounds like a seriously disturbed person; try to get over her since she has caused you so much trouble. Getting even by forgetting her, not by sinking to her level.
2006-12-26 04:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to get even with her,u'll suffer more than you are actually afterwards. Take your son with you,and live away from her. She doesn't have any feelings for you,so wat's the use of being after her. She won't pay attention to u, in fact, i guess she'll be happier if u leave her on her own.
2006-12-26 04:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by a_g_lchaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue her and get custody of yur child. Also, get another woman that wants to be a surrogate mother to yoru child. Clean yourself up and start to lift weights. Finally, get a good job and make some money for yourself.
Don't get a Black woman though, insecure White man.
2006-12-26 04:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by JD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, tell on her she is sick to have sex with a student. Put her butt in jail. How do you know what she is doing to your son????????? You should report her to the law. and if you don't have a gun and hit list, she willl have to prove you do. How could you love someone like this?She doesn't want you and if she keeps going, noone else will either. Go to the Lawyer.............
2006-12-26 04:22:22 · answer #11 · answered by ruth4526 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋