I've been dating this guy for awhile we have had sex, we had our scare with me being preg. but he said he doesn't want to do it again till were in college. or after college. i said i don't want to do it, and i will have a test tube baby. And i really don't want to have sex with him every again. i don't know what to do. he keeps getting mad at me everytime i say i don't want to have sex again. So how do i tell him so he will know i mean it.
2006-12-26 04:14:16 · 19 answers · asked by babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its bc one, we stopped before bc he got scared and he likes to go as fast as he can when i start to go back to normal. and it really hurts and i've told him about it but he never wants to listen. then he likes to tease me alot by acting like he wants it then wants a hj instead which he doesn't do anything for me, so i decided that i didn't want to have anything sex related with him again.
2006-12-26 05:42:41 · update #1
I imagine he gets angry because he feels insulted. Why don't you want to have sex with him again? Was he terrible in bed (that is likely what he is hearing) or did it hurt? Was it a new experience for you and you just didn't like it - or maybe you are uncomfortable with that level of closeness or do not ever want to have children?
I will tell you that I try hard to never say never. If this is your first lover, it could just be him that made the experience uncomfortable - in which case I see a new boyfriend in your future. If it is just the fear of pregnancy, you need to explain that to him and try to keep an open mind if you want to have a long lasting relationship with this person. Sex is a normal part of a healthy relationship - and if you are simply unreasonably unwilling to ever consider sex again, then you are likely to spend most of your life alone.
Peace!
2006-12-26 04:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you know what your saying for one unless you have some medical reason for not having sex I highly doubt you;'l ever have a lasting marriage, you could get lucky enough to find someone else you cant for some reason. I'm curious to know why you dont want to and then maybe I could help you out alittle bit, maybe a convent would work I'm kidding but seriously your plan will not work and if you think he's going to marry you and your serious about no sex think again I highly highly doubt, no I know he or any other man is not going to go for it sorry, good luck though Kim
2006-12-26 04:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him this in no uncertain terms . you may need to be honest with yourself and explain to him that there is something very different about you then most other people .
i was unlucky enough to be with a girl that the first few years wanted sex and then stopped had no interest at all not just in me but in anyone i sure wish i knew this was a permanent thing so i didn't waste so much time on her. we broke up on Christmas fantastic. that sicko did this every year so she would not have to give me a present i gave her one every year even if she was calling me every name in the book .
i am sitting her typing this and thinking wow i hope you make this no sex thing clear to him and clear that never means never.
please don't waste years of a persons life that is evil.
2006-12-26 04:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even consider marriage if you don't want to have sex? If you subtract sex from the relationship you might as well subtract the relationship as well. If you weren;t ready to become sexually active with BF you should never did it the first time.
As fas as the pregnancy.. You didn't know when you'll had sex there was a risk of pregnancy?
Obiviously the sex ain't good so MOVE on and stop wating his time & yours!!!!!
2006-12-26 04:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by CeCe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the ****? and you positioned up with him for 3 and a 0.5 years you're saying? this is no longer precise on such various stages. to extra at the instant answer your questions, no i do no longer think of you ought to stay. i don't know despite if he's mendacity, there in all probability are adult adult males that truly are basically that shallow and egoistical, yet despite if he's mendacity approximately his reason or no longer isn't possibly the subject here, this is that he's been using you as a ******* dispenser for 3 and a 0.5 years without even reciprocating, and loves you so very lots that he won't be ready to status making like to you till you're underweight. wow.
2016-11-23 17:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety unfortunately you need to end the relationship to be fait to him and find someone to talk to as to why your experience was so bad because this will effect every relationship you have with the opposite sex......
2006-12-26 04:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Hope this helps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a Guy loves you he will pull out and *** whereever you want or wear a condom . If he loved you he would F*CK you hard and slowly after getting you very wet.
This guy does not love you. I did all these things for my exgirlfriend and she didnt even stay with me.
2006-12-27 03:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by web s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the reason for which you dn't want to have sex? tell him frankly along with the reason. But it's a bit silly...
2006-12-26 04:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by a_g_lchaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that this is going to be a very short marriage.
2006-12-26 04:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by D.Y. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, SOUNDS LIKE U NEED TO BREAK UP WITH HIM. IF YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM EVER, THAT IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP AND NEVER WILL BE. HE WILL NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU. I SUGGEST YOU JUST TELL HIM IT IS OVER
2006-12-26 04:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋