Family & Relationships - 13 November 2006

I am an asian womon in my 30's & my mom is still controlling me. In my culture we have arranged marriages. For the past 10 years my mom has tried to force me to marry men whom I hardly even knew. Some had really bad habbits & my mom said that they would change after I marry them. One guy freaked out because she even tried to fix my wedding date & where & when I should marry him even before met the guy. I was so disapointed with everything & gave up on finding a man. But out of the blue I met a wonderful man on my own & fell in love. Now we are engaged to be married & mom still is trying to interfear in our wedding plans. She even told me who should be my briedsmaid, what color of flower I should have in my cake, who should be my witness, how many should attend my wedding. My fiance & I are paying for our own wedding & planning it too. She got pretty upset with me last week about my wedding. Now we are ok. She wants a ring bearer when we said the best man will hand out the ring.

2006-11-13 03:15:29 · 10 answers · asked by Hot C 1 in Weddings

my ex bf, we work together and i though i was over him, but i am not! he's back with his old ex now, and he says he is in love with her... I would really love to have him back....i ask but he says that there;s no point!!!

i love talking to him, but cant stand it when he has "love you suuss'' on his msn.. breaks my heart every time..

i want him back so i though that if we could just be really good friends he could she he still likes me, but i dont think i can stand one more ' i love u suus'' stuff!!!

i know i cant make him love me :(

so what should i do?? i really want him back!!!

i should remain friends and talk to him etc and when they break up... how knows...????

should i leave it and see what he does.... ????

please help me, i tried looking really hot around him, but it backfired, he realised i only did this because i wanted him back :(

please help me, i want him back...

2006-11-13 03:15:11 · 7 answers · asked by Simone 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, so my best friend is a girl (i'm a guy) we are 15 (mature) and have known each other for 2 years. Recently-for about the last two weeks- she has been asking for hugs alot, almost every day, and keeps saying she loves me. She had never done either of these before. But the thing is, she has a boyfriend (16), so I dont know what is up with the hugging etc. all of a sudden. I like her more than a friend and I have to tell her (I will wait till she breaks up with the guy), but I want to know, why might she be getting more touchy so much so quickly? If I am walking her home she puts her arm around me, and the other day I just made the flippant comment; hey, the cat's giving me a back rub, none of ye are that nice (to a group of friends) and she said "I'd give you a back rub". I find this behaviour odd since she has a bf. And whatever you think on the matter, could you try to give reasons, because I am trying to work this out.

2006-11-13 03:14:05 · 19 answers · asked by flaminious 1 in Friends

2006-11-13 03:13:52 · 15 answers · asked by MJ 6 in Singles & Dating

Is it wrong to talk to a 21 yr. old even though you are 15? I mean we have so much in commom and we like each other. The problem is our age differance.

2006-11-13 03:13:44 · 21 answers · asked by Crazy K. 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok, so my best friend is a girl (i'm a guy) we are 15 (mature) and have known each other for 2 years. Recently-for about the last two weeks- she has been asking for hugs alot, almost every day, and keeps saying she loves me. She had never done either of these before. But the thing is, she has a boyfriend (16), so I dont know what is up with the hugging etc. all of a sudden. I like her more than a friend and I have to tell her (I will wait till she breaks up with the guy), but I want to know, why might she be getting more touchy so much so quickly? If I am walking her home she puts her arm around me, and the other day I just made the flippant comment; hey, the cat's giving me a back rub, none of ye are that nice (to a group of friends) and she said "I'd give you a back rub". I find this behaviour odd since she has a bf. And whatever you think on the matter, could you try to give reasons, because I am trying to work this out.

2006-11-13 03:13:43 · 11 answers · asked by flaminious 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-13 03:12:59 · 13 answers · asked by crimsonreign96_2 2 in Weddings

Inshallah I will marry an Indian guy soon and I need to know what the customs are....Must I get a nose ring? What must he wear? What takes Place at the ceremony? What happens on the wedding night. Etc....thank you.

2006-11-13 03:12:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I'm searching for a penpal-pen friend..since 1 years ago..
I'm from turkey and how can I find someone?I want to penpal friend not a mail friend..it maybe chooseable but my first preference is penpal..Is there noody know any servises about it?
thanx for it

2006-11-13 03:11:33 · 4 answers · asked by burak 1 in Friends

I really like this guy for months now. I want to tell him i like him so then I start to wonder if he ever liked me and if i should've told him. I'm just so scared to tell him but don't know how to do it. I just want to do it because I've really never told guys my feelings only one. But that didn't do good has I hoped.

2006-11-13 03:11:27 · 10 answers · asked by LiL'BiNt 3 in Singles & Dating

What's weird is that we're comfortable making eye contact at each other, however, I've managed to say "hi" or "good morning" but all I get from him is a really "nice" smile. How do I know if he's interested? Is he shy? How do I come on to him with out being too aggressive?? what should I do? I think I like him.

2006-11-13 03:10:54 · 8 answers · asked by betrayed 1 in Singles & Dating

Because he likes boys.

2006-11-13 03:10:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I recently asked a question on when the time is right to have a baby & the answers I got were virtually unanimous that I should wait until my husbands out of school. Well - easier said then done. How do I keep myself from being baby crazy? It's like all I can think about. I've decided I'm not going to any baby showers anymore & I try not to watch t.v. shows about having baby's. Also - I try not to bring it up to my husband either b/c who wants to beat a dead horse. So how do I pre-occupy my mind?

2006-11-13 03:09:54 · 13 answers · asked by autumn 5 in Marriage & Divorce

When I hang out with my mates my wife gets pissed at me. She thinks I should be happy staying at home and spending time with her. I like playing golf with my buddies and we usually don"t get home to late at night. She reckons I should grow up and behave like a man and not a boy. Is she right to expect this of me.??

2006-11-13 03:09:20 · 11 answers · asked by spils 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents are really strict and pretty old fashioned, even though I'm 24. I am going to be moving in with my boyfriend in February and I'm very hesitant about telling my parents. How should I tell them?

Please, no gross or joke answers.

2006-11-13 03:09:07 · 10 answers · asked by GK2006 3 in Singles & Dating

I am 24 years old and I think that my relationship with women is very very odd. Ever since I have know I have been attracted to women that have had problems in their life, both at School and when I was at University. I believe that I can help them in some way or another.

This all came to a head when I met a bipolar older woman at work recently and we had a relationship. She is divorced with 3 kids and sleeps around with other men a lot having unprotected sex. I have recently had to break this friendship up as I said to her that I wanted to be more than friends believing that I could help her in some way to get back on the straight and narrow and to get her back on her meds.

Is there something wrong with me in people's opinions. I find it really hard to concentrate on myself and I enjoy looking after other people. Sometimes I concentrate on other peoples problems so much I don't see mine, but I really cared for this woman at work she was very special to me.

2006-11-13 03:08:02 · 11 answers · asked by pol d 1 in Singles & Dating

In your opinion

2006-11-13 03:06:56 · 7 answers · asked by T-Mo 1 in Singles & Dating

My girl friend of 6 years has become lazy in every way imaginable. She doesn't take care of me the way she used to. Now she has become unappriciative of anything I do, any attempt at talking is quickly concume by the threat of arguing and nothing ever gets solved. she just does or says whatever is neccissary to end the argument no matter if thats what she really feels or not. By doing this she has completely closed all lines of communication and I am at fault for all the arguments and anything else that goes wrong. Know matter how I take care of her or try to make her happy nothing seems to work, not even talking. We have children together and I'm trying to make things work between us but all to often it seems that I'm the only one. Even the sex has gotten awful, boring and dull. There is no passion or fun anymore. What should I do, should I leave her or try to work things out again?

2006-11-13 03:06:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

am i missing something here? or are we just that lame that we think bowling is something fun todo? or am i missing the social aspect of it, hanging with friends, and I am thinking too much like a guy, and bowling being a sport. (competition?) ugh.

2006-11-13 03:06:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Long story short, I have been with my bf now for over 3 years (and 2 years prior to this) and we've moved in together about 3 months ago. I love him and he loves me but our sex life sucks. This has been an ongoing issue for a very long time now and I'm fed up.

He thinks I have an overactive sex drive and that he is normal but I assure you, it's not. He has rejected me time and time again and I've tried everything. From sitting down and talking with him to putting the moves on him and even trying very open minded things.

Now, recently I've told him that if our sex life didn't improve that I would leave him. So you would think that he'd been pulling in overtime trying to please me but it's the opposite. He hasn't changed anything at all.

My self esteem is completely shot down. I have not changed in appearance and I know he is not cheating on me. So I'm at the end of my rope. Any suggestions as to what to do or even why he is being like this would help. Thanks.

2006-11-13 03:06:17 · 20 answers · asked by Minouners 3 in Singles & Dating

Everyone has a different opinion on who they think is a good kisser. A 'good kisser' to someone might be a 'crappy kisser' to someone else. Do you think this depends on how much you like a person?

2006-11-13 03:05:42 · 12 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Singles & Dating

My family is annoying. Every time I try to say something or try to make a compromise with a family member, they always manage to make me guilty by turning things around to suit their needs instead of compromising. So is your family annoying as much as mine?

2006-11-13 03:05:33 · 9 answers · asked by Rommie 7 in Family

I've liked this boy i've known since freshman year in high school and im now a senior in high school. I didn't know he liked me even though he would put himself out there. He knew i liked him though...but anyway everyone in my school knew we liked eachother during our freshman year he had a girlfriend that i didn't know about, they were on and off in their relationship. We would talk do things like go to the movies, go out to dinner , and just chill together. He's been over my house a few times and he even came to my house for Easter dinner.During that time he had a girlfriend and im thinking to my self why isn't he with her? he would also say things like he imagines what it would be like if he was with me and he wants to be with me but he can't break up with his girlfriend because he doesn't want to hurt her they've been together for 6 years now. I still like him but is he with his girl just because he doesn't want to hurt her ? and does anyone think we have a chance together?

2006-11-13 03:04:57 · 6 answers · asked by *~Pretty Smile~* 2 in Singles & Dating

Are there any girls out there, who'd like to have a REAL relationship, instead of just using guys? We (guys) would like to find at least ONE female that is not into being users. Y'know, saying they want to be with us, then, as soon as you get what YOU want, you're gone. With NO regards for OUR feelings.

2006-11-13 03:04:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-13 03:04:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i live with my parents and there r some rules they dont want me talking when i'm supposed to be asleep. i had got in truble with my parent cus i talked late at night with my girlfriend, so i got my phone banned after hours. so i decided to get another phone i had it for 3 months now. my parents found it saturday. they told me i went behind ther back an i need a punishment. so they want to keep me away from my girlfriend for a week. so i was ready to leave. i had told my girlfriend whats going to happen she thinks they dont want us together i have an engagement ring i was to give her on wednesday. now i cant cus my parents are to strict. i'm not sure if she wants to be with me anymore i know deep in her heart she want to get engaged but im not sure. i dont know if she want to still be with me after this? she said my parents are trying to control our relationship. she said she loves me and want to be with me forever. my parents sometime want me to decide if it them or her. i want both.

2006-11-13 03:04:13 · 8 answers · asked by Through The Eyes Of The Dead 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

For the past 15 mths I have been involved with an evil man, at first he was everything I ever wanted him to be, if anyone could read some of the questions I have posted they would understand that I have been putting up with some horrendous ****, so I decided today to take control and ask for some help on a0 self reassurance, b) satisfying things to do to regain strength back c) get bk at the one man that has hurt me like noone ever before.....

2006-11-13 03:04:12 · 10 answers · asked by Girl of Spirit 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-11-13 03:03:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my hubby won't cook clean do diy help with the baby won't wash the pots unless i nag leves dirty pots about and will not chuck his papers away for weeks i love him but he drives me potty some times .yes he is a mummys boy and never had to do anything at home his mum did his washing even when he moved out!!!

2006-11-13 03:02:21 · 17 answers · asked by makemesmile 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i really like him but there is a friend that is always around and whenever i say anything, she turns it around and makes me sound REALLY stupid. i really like him and the friend is one of my BEST friends. plz help me. i just dont understand why our comunication is so bad, when b4 we started dating we talked like all of the time. thnx.

2006-11-13 03:02:19 · 4 answers · asked by me 1 in Singles & Dating