When I hang out with my mates my wife gets pissed at me. She thinks I should be happy staying at home and spending time with her. I like playing golf with my buddies and we usually don"t get home to late at night. She reckons I should grow up and behave like a man and not a boy. Is she right to expect this of me.??
2006-11-13 03:09:20 · 11 answers · asked by spils 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends just how often you go out to do stuff with your mates. How about doing stuff with the wives/girlfriends more often? Or invite everyone over to your house? There are good ways to incorporate long time friends into a marriage. Do some soul searching here -- do you prefer to spend time alone with your mates to spending time with your wife? That may be how she's feeling... a little empathy for your wife might help you come up with some solutions.
2006-11-13 03:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that as long as you spend most of your time with her and dont stay out too late when your not with her she shouldn't worry about it. Now if you are not spend QT with her then thats a different story. You guys need to make a schedule and set aside certain weeks out the month you hang out with the guys as well as she go hang with her friends and when you two spend time together. Coming home late at night can make a woman think all sorts of things, but she has to trust you and a relationship is built on trust, communication, and QT. So as long as you give her that you two will do just fie. Now you need to have a heart to heart talk with her about all of this and maybe she will understand.
2006-11-13 03:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are married now- you SHOULD be spending time with your wife. My husband and I set aside 1 weekend a month where we each do our own thing. I'll go out one weekend while he keeps the kids- the next weekend we spend together- third weekend he goes out and I stay home with the kids- 4th weekend we spend together, then we start over. It makes for a happier situation at home. Couples need time apart from each other, no doubt- but they also need time together.
2006-11-13 03:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You may both be correct..
You could be spending more time with your wife..Why did you marry her if she was not your lover and best friend ? She loves you and wants to spend time with you...You are her life, she has given herself to you and you do not want to take this gift lightly. She wants to play with you , she wants you to spend your spare time playing with her....That's why she married you...
From your side, of course you should be able to go out and play golf ...Within reason and making sure that the bulk of your spare/play time is spent with your wife...Otherwise, you will lose her.
2006-11-13 03:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no !! talk to her about it !! you have your group of friends and she will hav to accept em !! she need not necessarily like them but she will hav to accept that you have a life and friends !
im sure you love her a lot and that she shud hav no reason to feel insecure or left out !
tell her that you have known your frnds for ages and they are really important to u ,just like her !
moreover u shud encourage her to hav her group of friends !! maybe she doesnt get the idea of hanging out with frnds even after marraige cos she doesnt hav her group of women !
she must b bored at home ! if u find her an alternative then she may feel more occupied and she wont ask u to spend all ur free time with her !
tc
2006-11-13 03:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how much time you're spending away from home. Every day? Once a week? Once a month? Also, why can't she join in. You should ask her that.
But, really, you're married, now, and you need to spend some time with your spouse. Otherwise, why did you get married?
2006-11-13 03:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what golf courses are open until late at night?? none. its for sure not the golf she has a problem with, but where you go after the golf is over. if you just went golfing and came home, everything would be fine.
2006-11-13 03:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well the thing I find irritating about my husband is that he turns into some weird child who likes to poke fun of marriage or me, or impress them by trying to boss me around. Does this sound like you? What would you do if your wife acted like a total different person around her friends? you would think she was fake! I think she is right. Men should grow up aropund their friends, this just makes us not like them at all!
2006-11-13 03:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by crystald 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to put you put your foot down and show her who's boss. You are the man, the boss in the relationship, so maybe it's a good idea to act like it.
2006-11-13 03:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
every woman hates her man friends untill the friend u get start to settle down themselves
2006-11-13 03:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋