Ok, so my best friend is a girl (i'm a guy) we are 15 (mature) and have known each other for 2 years. Recently-for about the last two weeks- she has been asking for hugs alot, almost every day, and keeps saying she loves me. She had never done either of these before. But the thing is, she has a boyfriend (16), so I dont know what is up with the hugging etc. all of a sudden. I like her more than a friend and I have to tell her (I will wait till she breaks up with the guy), but I want to know, why might she be getting more touchy so much so quickly? If I am walking her home she puts her arm around me, and the other day I just made the flippant comment; hey, the cat's giving me a back rub, none of ye are that nice (to a group of friends) and she said "I'd give you a back rub". I find this behaviour odd since she has a bf. And whatever you think on the matter, could you try to give reasons, because I am trying to work this out.
2006-11-13 03:14:05 · 19 answers · asked by flaminious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She likes you. Talk to her about it.
Who knows, things might work out you know?
2006-11-13 03:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by fantacia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok. First of all i need to say that you sound like such a sweet young man and continue asking for advice like you just did and you will be an amazing friend, boyfriend, husband maybe one day and even father. You explained yourself very well and expressing feelings like that is the key to great communication skills... Now to help with your question...There is no good answer because only that girl knows what she is feeling but if I would take a guess their could be 2 reasons. the first would be that she is at the age where her senses are peaking and by having a boyfriend now she is getting overcharged with feelings (hormones) and it is making her a little more flirty, touchy, giggly...let's just say she is going through puberty and so are you my friend...Is this a crush or flirty with or without intent to go further, love, redifining your friendship??? who knows but i can guarantee you that hormones are all over the place and now is the time to take a step back and focus on your values and the concequences of your actions. You took the first step and amazingly well I might say, by asking a clear and described question which led me to beleive that you are a smart young man that has a conscience and that wants to learn and grow by carefully moving forward in life by asking advice and expressing your thoughts and feelings. Take your time and analyse your situation with your heart, your head, your instinct and never let your sweaty hands, your shaky knees, your heart beating a mile a minute or even your friends be the decision maker of your path in life. Be smart, have fun but stay alert and try to notice the little things that sometimes masks the truth in people...it does not make does people bad people and makes them human.
Finally talk to your friend...you said that you guys have been friends for a long time...well how good of friends are you really if you cant even talk to one another? Oh and by the way if it is true that she is flirting with you, and it sure looks like it from my point of you and by what you have said(remember that there is always two sides of a story and sometimes I would say 3: there is your side, her side and then there is the truth.)you need to question her values on infedility...she is pretty young to date in the first place but to already be making a uge mistake by getting on the path of using your body to feel loved maybe if she is your friend you should start telling her that you are getting signals from her that are making you think that there is something happening here and if so you guys should start growing up and be mature about mature subject and if you guys can not do this you have your answer on whether you are mature enough to do the right thing for your future and if so, take your time and be smart...say no and refuse to experience things that you dont feel yet equip for and its cool now a days to care about ourselves and you should. Be good and do the right thing eventhough sometimes it seems like the right thing is hard...trust me you will soon see the positive if you keep doing the right thing.
2006-11-13 12:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is making all the signs that she likes you. If I were here I would either talk to her or write her a letter explaining how you feel and the signals you are getting from her. I would also let her know that you don't want your honesty to ruin a friendship either.
The way she is acting is giving you mixed feelings and they need to get cleared up for you to move on with your relationship or move on to another.
2006-11-13 11:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by AzMom 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think she likes you. Go some where where y'all can be alone and talk. tell her the truth. And if she doesn't feel the same tell her that's fine.
you would rather have her as just a friend then not at all.
But chances are she really likes.
Good luck i wish you the best
2006-11-13 11:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by prettygirl5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all I think she is unhappy with her b/f so find that out and just tell her how you really feel. Make sure that this don't mess up your friendship with her. I think that she may be trying to get you jealous with her b/f maybe she likes you the same way go FOR it.. G@@D LUCK !!!
2006-11-13 11:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible (and I don't want to imply anything disrespectful about your friend) that she likes the attention. My best guess is that she probably has some idea that you like her as more than a friend and she's testing boundaries to see if she might like a relationship with you. If a romantic relationship never happens, I hope you guys are able to stay friends.
2006-11-13 11:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by SuperAmy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd say it may be one of two reasons.
1 - Have you been talking or hanging out with another girl a bit more than usual? If so, she may be jealous.
2 - She likes you.
2006-11-13 11:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by pkbuddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all you can really do is talk to her and tell her how you feel and hopefully she will tell you her feelings and hopefully they will be the same feelings as you. just remember though you are still young so dont get to upset if she dont like you more then a friend. Good Luck!!
2006-11-13 11:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she likes you and wants to be around you and feel the attention that she can get from another male. i used to do this, i would flirt with all my guy griends and hug them, but i wouldnt really want a relationship. i think she just might want that intamacy that you give her but i am being real here, you need to talk to her and ask her what she thinks, she might be a lil standoffish, but trust me you dont want to get hurt.
2006-11-13 11:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by harasgirl2001 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just as you ask for lots of answers, maybe she needs more hugs! If you don't respond, she will find elsewhere; even if you respond positively and hug her, she will still look for more elsewhere! How are you going to solve this dilemma?
2006-11-13 11:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋