Should I leave my girlfriend or should I stay?

Question

My girl friend of 6 years has become lazy in every way imaginable. She doesn't take care of me the way she used to. Now she has become unappriciative of anything I do, any attempt at talking is quickly concume by the threat of arguing and nothing ever gets solved. she just does or says whatever is neccissary to end the argument no matter if thats what she really feels or not. By doing this she has completely closed all lines of communication and I am at fault for all the arguments and anything else that goes wrong. Know matter how I take care of her or try to make her happy nothing seems to work, not even talking. We have children together and I'm trying to make things work between us but all to often it seems that I'm the only one. Even the sex has gotten awful, boring and dull. There is no passion or fun anymore. What should I do, should I leave her or try to work things out again?

Answer 1

If you both have kids, i suggest you work it out.
Bring her out on a date. To a place you both used to go on dates. A place that is special to both of you. Make it a very important date. Then when the time is right, talk to her about it. Make it a WE issue and not a HER issue. I know its cliche, but its true.
If she really cannot be bothered after all these, well dude, its up to you.

Answer 2

Sometimes relationships play themselves out and we stay in them anyway from fear of being alone or just because we are comfortable. I always say that the foundation of a good relationship is friendship, Do you still consider her as your friend? ASk yourself if you still love her, or are you just staying for the better good of the family and your children, sometimes that is a big mistake because your children can reep the benifits of the stresses of the parents and youve waisted time being mesrible for a lifetime, you can be good parents seperately, after all your children will grow up and make there own family one day, Im not saying to leave but a true relationship is glued together with trust, respect and communication it doesnt sound like you have that, Of corse the love making isnt good it doesnt seem like you like each other anymore, I suggest some counceling, because you dont seem to be able to communicate on your own, if you really want to fix your relationship you need to go back and remember why you thought you loved this person in the first place and see if you can get back there...but remember it takes two if she is not willing to put 100% into fixing it too them she is just confortable and really has no interest in the relationship and you should do what makes you happy for in the end it will be your regret.

Answer 3

If you didn't have children I would say, "Run for the hills! Do not pass Go! Do not collect $200!". But things take a different turn when there are children involved. However, you do need to be happy and I think she NEEDS to know how close to the end of your rope you are. I would recommend some professional counseling as you need a mediator in the middle. This will assure that her MO of just blaming you and starting an argument won't be acceptable.

Answer 4

since you do have children I would try to work things out. I know it sucks to be the only one who is trying but some time one has to be the bigger person. I know this mights seem corny but write her a letter and tell her how you feel, be honest but dont be too harsh. and dont blame everything on her cause she might feel like you are trying to attack her. now put this letter where she can find it or give it to her and leave, take you kids out for lunch or something and give her time to read and digest. when you get home try to talk or ask her to write you back. Also try to set up a activity (nonsexual) that you two can do (dinner every month, movies, a date) that way you guys can reconnect. have you thought about a counselor? good luck and never leave a relationship knowing that you could have done more to save it cause after all you have the children to think about.

Answer 5

Try to work things out with her. You need to sit down and have a long talk with your g/f / wife let her know what your feeling. You need to explain to her everything you wrote on yahoo answers. Also since you two have children you two need a night out together . To me it seems that you really love her and you really want to work it out. If it dont work out seems to me that she is tired of the relationship and she really wants to move on. Before you to break it off why dont you try dating other people or stay apart for a week to see if you really miss each other and that love is still there.That would be sad to see a six year relationship go to wast. Good luck

Answer 6

Maybe you should talk to her and tell her how you feel and tell her that there is other women out there who would do the job better. she probably wont like it but its the truth, but just for the sake of the children give it another shot.

Answer 7

The percentwon't arise, yet you do not deserve this lady or any lady. Cheaters do not deserve some thing in any respect except to be on my own. you're literally not "all that". you're somewhat boy who thinks he's sooooo warm. eliminate your female friend. She benefits better than the likes of you.

Answer 8

u need to talk to her and try to work things out before giving up. a 6yr relationship and kids is too much to just leave u kno? maybe she wants to get married n just gave up...i would make her talk about it and work things out and compromise...maybe spice things up in the bed room! sex is always good to start with i think...gud luck!!

Answer 9

i would try one more time to talk to her tell her look we need to fix this or im gonna have to leave.. If you are that unhappy the kids see that which isn't good for either of you. Maybe if you try leaveing for awhile she will change .. good luck

Answer 10

if u have children ,you should not leave , they will be disturbed . they children need parent`s support like both of them. if u are uncomfortable with wife till today, tell her to give space. everywhere life is like this one.
thank u
vishal