i live with my parents and there r some rules they dont want me talking when i'm supposed to be asleep. i had got in truble with my parent cus i talked late at night with my girlfriend, so i got my phone banned after hours. so i decided to get another phone i had it for 3 months now. my parents found it saturday. they told me i went behind ther back an i need a punishment. so they want to keep me away from my girlfriend for a week. so i was ready to leave. i had told my girlfriend whats going to happen she thinks they dont want us together i have an engagement ring i was to give her on wednesday. now i cant cus my parents are to strict. i'm not sure if she wants to be with me anymore i know deep in her heart she want to get engaged but im not sure. i dont know if she want to still be with me after this? she said my parents are trying to control our relationship. she said she loves me and want to be with me forever. my parents sometime want me to decide if it them or her. i want both.
2006-11-13 03:04:13 · 8 answers · asked by Through The Eyes Of The Dead 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am 18 years old. i know that is to young for love. i just love her so much. i want to give her an engagement ring i bought her and be engaged for a few years. do you think she'll understand. or will she leave me.
2006-11-13 03:07:02 · update #1
get a life, nobody cares.
2006-11-13 03:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You must be young if your parents are still controlling you like this? What about 16, 17? I know that things are hard but I am sure that your girlfriend can wait a week for you to get engaged and if she can't wait then your parents just saved you from the heart ache and from giving her a ring that she won't give back when you break up later.
If she care enough about you then this is not something you need to worry yourself about. Just let your parents have their punishment and then go to your girlfriend after and ask her to marry you. Like I said if she can't wait then she doesn't deserve the ring anyway.
You can have a relationship with a girl and with your parents you just can't see that right now. They aren't trying to break the two of you up they are just punishing you the best way they know how and besides it was for this girl that you broke their rules so you must accept the consequences.
If your girl doesn't wait it could turn out to be a life lesson that your parents know better, huh.
2006-11-13 11:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be oblivious to the fact that you betrayed your parents trust while living in their house, lied to them about not having a phone and rebelled against their wishes by getting it in the first place; regardless how your relationship plays out, you are a spoiled brat who is willing to throw his life away to spite his parents.
I would tell you that marrying this girl is stupid at your age, that she has no clue about loving you "deep in her heart", that neither of you have any idea what responsibilities there are in living on your own - much less living as a couple (and eventually, a family, assuming that you two are having sex already)...but all of that would go on deaf ears, because you'll claim to be fully in control of your life and you'll "do what you want to because you're an adult now".
Your post indicates, without you having posted your age, that you are NOT an adult yet.
I doubt you'll apologize to your parents and heed their wishes while you still live under their roof, so I expect that you're going to move out as soon as you can, get your own place, move in with your girlfriend, have sex three or four times a day and live happily ever after...
...and you'll deserve every bit of the reality that will follow. You will have no one to blame but yourself.
Engagement before the age of 25 is, 80% of the time, a disaster; research has shown this.
2006-11-13 11:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one it sounds like you are too young to be getting engaged, and for another your parents in my opinion gave a very dumb punishment. When they told you that you couldnt see her for a week that just causes you to sneek around and they are asking for trouble. If you explained to her why they gave you the punishment she should not assume it is because they dont like her but that you broke the rules because of her. If she cares for you she should not help to get you in trouble and stay off the phone with you at night.
2006-11-13 11:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to wait until you are out on your own and can think for yourself before you think about marraige! Move out if you are 18, you can do whatever you want now! Your parents are just trying to maintain control over you...let them know that you are an adult!
2006-11-13 11:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ur life dude, do wtever u want. if ur planning to get engaged to this girl, im assuming tht ur over 18, ur an adult. so u make ur own decisions. tell ur parents tht u rlly love dis girl nd if dey wnt u to b happy, dey shud let u marry her. nd go ahead propose to dis girl. hw cn u let d love of ur life go away?
evrything will b fine
2006-11-13 11:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by genius 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait until youre independent of your parents before you get married.
2006-11-13 11:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by LaPalma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she love you then she will Waite for you take you're time you're still young
2006-11-13 11:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋