I recently asked a question on when the time is right to have a baby & the answers I got were virtually unanimous that I should wait until my husbands out of school. Well - easier said then done. How do I keep myself from being baby crazy? It's like all I can think about. I've decided I'm not going to any baby showers anymore & I try not to watch t.v. shows about having baby's. Also - I try not to bring it up to my husband either b/c who wants to beat a dead horse. So how do I pre-occupy my mind?
2006-11-13 03:09:54 · 13 answers · asked by autumn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Watch my two for a day. You will be out of baby mode real quick.
2006-11-13 03:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Saints friend 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You'll probably get a ton of answers from parents just like mine. Spend some time with children. I don't mean baby sit a 10 year old for the night. Volunteer to babysit a friend or neighbors kids. Like a 6 month old and a three year old. Do it for a week or more. If this does the opposite of discouraging you and encourages you. Your ready. But I doubt it will have this effect.
Parents will tell you that having children are a blessing. What they might not mention is.
*The lack of sleep. Feeling like you've been in a sleep depervation camp for months.
*Every though you have of doing anything or going anywhere. You have to take into consideration.The carriage, diaper bag, feeding time, loading in and out of the car. The fits in the store. A poopy diaper in the middle of shopping. Tempertantrums.
*There goes the quiet dinners out, there goes going out period. Time alone with your man, or bing to tired to enjoy any down time.
The list goes on. Talk to other parents, get their input.
2006-11-13 11:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I almost wish I felt like that. I've been married a year and I'm 28, husband is 36. I don't want kids at all - ever - and people around us keep having babies and I think we're like that weird couple who doesn't want kids. Actually, I'm pretty sure my husband wants a family, but he says he doesn't for my sake because he knows I'm not ready. So for me, it's easy not to think about babies. For you - you need to find a hobby or work harder.
2006-11-13 11:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a puppy, and a small bag of potatoes.
The bag of potatoes represents all the "Baby Stuff" you would have to care around with you. Don't forget to buckle it in if you go on car trips.
Also remember it takes 4-5 years to get the kid to feed himself and be potty trained. AND you will still fight them on eating vegetables EVERY DAY.
VS. training a dog in 30 days and eating anything in the dog bowl.
Depending on who you are you may want to start with fish.
2006-11-13 12:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all women and men (yes, men too) go through this phase in their lives. its just like ven a guy turns into a teenager, all he cn think abt is sex. its biological. dnt worry, ull get through it.
channel ur energy into more productive, positive things. start working fr instance or read books, spend time cleaning/beautifying ur house or whtever u like to do best.
keep in mind that u will have babies when the right time comes. there's no need to rush. since ur hubby is still in school, im assuming u guys r still quiet young, so you have a lot of time to make babies. :)
best of luck and don't worry. its a natural thing, every1 goes through it.
2006-11-13 11:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by genius 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and see if you and your husband can afford medical care that comes with being pregnant and delivering....very expensive. Not to mention after the baby is born...crib, diapers, formula, clothes, sickness, etc... If you feel the need to nurture something, get a pet(not exactly the same thing, but it may help). If your husband isn't ready, then it probably isn't a good thing. You need to wait until he is ready to have kids. Good luck! :)
2006-11-13 11:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Last night, my eighteen month old puked all over her bed. It took me an hour to get her, the bed, the room, and myself cleaned up and the smell gone. I finally got back to bed and was asleep half an hour before my three year old came into my room with a bloody nose. I got that cleaned up and taken care of and got back to bed for three more hours of sleep. My husband left for work at five. I figured I had a couple more hours before the kids woke up and settled back in for more rest, I woke up at 5:45 with both of them standing at the foot of my bed giggling. I woke up to find that they'd dumped the garbage out in the kitchen floor and someone had had a leaky wet diaper on my new furniture. I cleaned house before 8 a.m.- had it looking nice- and now its 10:20. Cereal all over the floor- toys strewn up and down the hallway- and something smells like hot dogs and we havent HAD hot dogs in this house for at least a couple weeks.
2006-11-13 11:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer to babysit for someone......Excluding yourself from the world is not the answer. There are babies every where. Not just at babyshowers and such. Nothing wrong with thinking about having a child.....just use the future as your goal.
2006-11-13 11:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try painting or some other hobby that takes your time and concentration away from babies. Better yet, get a pet to nurture in the meantime!
2006-11-13 11:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about. Obviously, you need to be logical in this situation. Being selfish and needy is not a reason to bring a child into this world. Stop worrying about your own wants and worry about this child that you will potentially have as well as your husband. Easier said than done? Stop worrying about worry!
2006-11-13 11:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋