I have been married 8 years, been together for 10 years, have a 6 year old son. This May, after a wedding, my wife says "I am not the saint you think I am, while we were engaged I had a three month affair with a co-worker".
She thinks that she was mentally ill, she doesn't know why she did it, she doesn't know why it continued, and I had no idea until now. We were engaged for 11 months, bought a house together, I was supporting her through college. I was working grave yard shift, and she was working evenings after school. While I was at work, she would go out drinking with work friends and that's how it happend. She claims she slept with him 5 or 6 times over three months.
Our marriage has been great, she is a good mother and she says (and I believe her) that it hasn't happend since. I feel like I married under false pre-tenses. She thinks it wasn't as bad before the wedding. I feel violated, for her it is 8 years ago and isn't as important. Forgiving is tough, any help?
2006-11-06
04:46:34
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