ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months and hes already starting to talk about marriage and kids later down the road! im still in high school(senior) and he wants to wait till im out of school before anything happens!!!! should i worry that hes going too far?
2006-11-06 04:38:56 · 15 answers · asked by Lindsey T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm, I don't see a big deal with it. Because, here's the thing, he's talking about the *future*. If he was talking about marriage now, yes, he would be taking it too far, but guess what? He's not! He's talking about it later down the road before anything happens. And, since you're a senior, you will graduate in what...7-8 months? So when you graduate, if you're still together, that will be 15-16 months that you are together. Still a bit early to marry or have kids, I think, but it's not out of reason to talk about it.
Also, it gets you thinking about the future which, as a senior in high school, you should seriously be doing. I think another reason he might be asking is this: If you can't seriously see yourself marrying him at all (even in the future), then he wants to know, so he can "move on" with his life. That's probably not his main concern, but I bet it's some of it. I mean, from his perspective, what's the point of dating for 1-2 years if nothing comes from it?
So, yeah...all in all, I wouldn't worry so much unless he starts trying to move you forward. There's a difference between thinking about the future and rushing towards it. Good luck.
2006-11-06 04:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your too young, I am married for almost 4 yrs, and I got married when I was 18.. trust me, you are way too young. You should take your time, see if your interest are the same cuz trust me it will make a difference later down the road. And the topic about kids, you should really wait. I had my daughter when I was 19 and ya, it's great but you are still a kid yourself. Good Luck. Enjoy life, cuz marriage is a once in a lifetime thing you want to make sure its with the right person. Be Happy :)
2006-11-06 12:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by This is life! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. He sounds like he's taking things way to fast, you havent even BEGAN living your life as an adult yet. 8 months, is very early to start talking about that, especially since you're not even out of high school yet. Tell him to slow things down a bit. Wait until YOU feel comfortable discussing those things, or going through with those things. Concentrate on yourself right now, you're about to get out of high school, and then what? Dont worry about it, theres nothing to worry about. Just explain to him that you want to wait to talk about marriage and having kids because you're just too young. I'm sure he will understand, and if he doesnt, you dont need him anyway. Live your life for you, not for him! Good luck!
2006-11-06 12:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats fine that he wants to talk about the future with you... but tell him how you feel. If you think he is going to far then tell him. If you really love him and are IN LOVE with him tell him you want to take things slowly. It's not that you don't want too marry him and have kids however you may have other plans. Honesty is the key to a relationships heart! If he loves you enough then he will be patient. You want to get to know each other first before you tie the knot b/c if not you will head to divorce court! Keep an open mind! good luck
2006-11-06 12:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know... My boyfriend and me always talk about marriage and kids, but we are mostly joking... We know nothing will happen till we both finish university. We are almost 19 now. We like to have fun imagining three boys and a girl messing out our home and me, 150kg waiting for him in the living room....
If you love him, then you should ot be scared... Think how your life would be if you marry him in the future. If it does not fit in your head, then slowly break up with him.
2006-11-06 12:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by narcissa_bl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i wouldn't worry because you never know what will happen down the road and you two may still be together and there's nothing wrong with planning ahead. I should know because of course, i have a one year old and my fiancee and i were only together for 3 months when i got pregnant
2006-11-06 19:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to far so you should have a talk with him and let him know that you like him but all that long term stuff needs to wait and be discussed later down the road, he'll understand.....
2006-11-06 12:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by smartiebc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel uncountable your b/f talking like that.All you have to do is set him aside and explain to him that you are not ready to get married yet.Tell him that you want to still date him but You don't want to have kids at this point and time.Let the fun be between you and him for a bit then he might understand.If he loves you still you'll be with him.
2006-11-06 13:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah - enjoy life. dont get too serious.
you still have to go to college where you will play the field and have fun. when you are like 30 then you can start thinking about settling down. dont be in a rush to be grandparents!!!
2006-11-06 12:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Cynthia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt get worried for as long as you love him there is no big but you shoud talk to him things like this shouldnt bohter you finish school and then bother yourself that is right.
2006-11-06 12:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋